For most people, today is extraordinary.
Commute to work and eat three meals.
On such ordinary days, there is a person who is absent for 4 years.
Lin Yihan.
You may be unfamiliar with the name.
But you must be familiar with her masterpiece , "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise".
The title is "beautiful", but the story is painful.
From the age of 13, the girl Fang Siqi's life was only tragic. From junior high school to college, and even after employment, she continued to be seduced by teachers who were 37 years older than her.
The book's large paragraphs of accurate and meticulous descriptions of mental activities are like huge waves, and the reader is powerless and full of grief.
Reality is more painful than books.
On the title page of the book, it reads: "Adapted from a real person."
On February 7, 2017, "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" was published, which immediately caused a huge shock in Taiwanese society.
Two months later, Lin Yihan said in an interview:
Li Guohua, the teacher who seduces girls in the book, also has an archetype in real life, and is still teaching, "teaching" more little girls.
On April 27, 2017, 2 months and 20 days after the book was published, Lin Yihan committed suicide at home at the age of 26.
After her death, her parents issued a statement through the publishing house, stating:
"'Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise' is a real experience and psychological description of her daughter's pain and depression after she was seduced by a cram school teacher when she was young.
The purpose of her book is to hope that there will be no second Fang Siqi in the society."
Every year on her birthday and death day, netizens will spontaneously commemorate her on the Internet.
This year her friend Meimei made public her last words when she died:
"Just remember how cute I look."
"She was either born a victim of sexual violence."
We will always remember her cuteness and will always be grateful for her persistence in adding "Adapted from a True Story" to the title page and for the hardships she had to complete the book.
Today's article is a tribute to Lin Yihan and a tribute to her:
If it were not for her bravery, the world would not have known that there are so many little girls in this world who are in dark corners without light.
Thank you.
Society is moving forward, and the system is advancing.
We are all trying to avoid the tragedy that will cause the next Fang Siqi.
"See Fang Siqi"
Speaking of Lin Yihan, I can't get around "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise".
"Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", the name is very pure love.
Lin Yihan said in an interview that this story is the story of a young girl who was seduced and "loved" the story of seducing her own tutor.
Few people can understand why victims associate sexual assault with "love."
Some people arbitrarily considered the book "immoral" and easily closed it.
Bystanders excel at looking at victims of sexual assault from a God perspective because we have never faced the sins she faces.
In the book, Lin Yihan did use "in love with Li Guohua" to describe Fang Siqi's story.
But there is no "first love" in this book, no "paradise", and some are just the endless pain after Fang Siqi was hurt.
Fang Siqi was raped by Li Guohua for the first time, when she was thirteen years old.
Imagine that the teacher is your father's friend, a role model, and admired.
He looked so gentle and knowledgeable.
How could you have imagined that a male elder who seemed so many years older than you would treat his unborn self as a woman and rape you brutally and cruelly.
Li Guohua prototype: Chen Guoxing
She wrote in her diary:
"I went downstairs to get my homework for Teacher Li to change." He pulled it out and I was forced to paint it on the wall. The teacher said nine words: 'If not, the mouth can be.' I said five words: 'No, I won't.' And he tucked it in. It felt like drowning."
In the face of this sudden crime, not only was fang Siqi, who was only 13 years old at the time, but also did not understand the world, too late to react.
Even if you change to an adult, most of them will be caught off guard, or even powerless to resist.
"The Summer That Can't Be Said"
"Falling in love with a rapist" is not done in one go, but is followed by countless attempts of seduction.
In Fang Siqi's first love paradise, there is a text like this:
"That's the way the teacher loves you, you know?" ........
It's the most extreme thing two people who like each other can do....
You can accuse me of going too far,
You can accuse me of going too far.
But can you blame my love?
Can you blame your own beauty?
What's more, in a few days it's Teacher's Day, and you're the best Teacher's Day gift in the world. ”
It didn't matter if she couldn't listen to it or not, Li Guohua felt that he was speaking very well. The effect of the usual lectures came out."
The shame of a girl with strong self-esteem from being raped, and the tireless brainwashing of her teacher, made her finally choose to deceive herself, choose to "love" the teacher, and use the holiness of love to cover up the dirty truth that happened to her.
Letterhead Story
Fang Siqi had no way to face the pain of being raped, and could only let herself wrap the crime in love.
But this kind of self-deception is also difficult to sustain for a long time.
She repeatedly asked herself in her diary, "Why can't I?" Why not I don't? Why can't you?"
All painful memories, Fang Siqi had to chew many times.
At the end of the novel, the teacher is still happy and comfortable, and Fang Siqi, who can't convince himself, is crazy.
This novel hurts more than her sister tells.
Writer Lin Yihan uses accurate and vivid words, such as the four words "scalp tingling" in her pen, which will be described as "feeling that the hair is not grown but inserted into her scalp."
But these accurate, vivid statements, when used to describe themselves, become a sharp knife.
Live dissection of the heart.
"Princess Han"
She put her personal experience into this novel.
After Being Sexually Assaulted at the age of Seventeen, Lin Yihan suffered from depression for a long time and could not grow and live as normally as ordinary people.
When she wrote "Fang Siqi", she wrote on an empty stomach for eight hours a day, crying while writing.
Some netizens commented after reading it: "Lin Yihan exhausted her heart for this book, which may also be one of the reasons for her early death."
At the cost of her own life, she finally convinces the public that this is not a love.
This is an unquestionable crime.
And as early as the day Lin Yihan was raped, Chen Guoxing (Li Guohua's prototype) took away Lin Yihan's soul.
It was only on that day that she completely gave up her human body.
The Game That Can't Be Said
Before "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", the narrative of similar events was completed by sexual assault and the mouth of a third party.
She stepped forward, and we finally heard the story of the victim, the party we had previously ignored.
Fang Siqi's "love" is really a self-deception that if she doesn't think like this, she can't live.
Don't take the guise of free love, and throw a sewage of "voluntarily being a little third" on the helpless and desperate minors who are seduced by a man who has been seduced by a man who is bigger than himself for several rounds.
From her initial pretense that nothing happened, to her later self-deception that she was not a victim, but a participant.
It is a normal psychological process for victims in sexual assault cases.
Understanding Fang Siqi's self-deception has extremely strong reference significance for understanding the mental path of the victims in sexual assault cases.
Lin Yihan, let the Fang Siqi in life have the courage to speak out, and continue to make voices belonging to the victims after her.
"I'm Fang Siqi too"
Lin Yihan's voice, which took ten years to make, was so deafening.
After her death, an old story from more than 20 years ago surfaced.
In 1998, Gao Yan, an outstanding student at Peking University, committed suicide by jumping from a building.
Takaiwa
Years later, her friends chose to stand up and report to the professor of the year, Yangtze River scholar Shenyang, who sexually assaulted Gao Yan, causing her to commit suicide.
When the third party restored the general appearance of the matter, people found that what Gao Yan had experienced was strikingly similar to Fang Siqi. It is all the violation of well-known teachers in the name of love, just as it is not resisted in the eyes of outsiders, and it ends in self-destruction.
Fang Siqi's narrative exists in many real events.
Every time there is a sexual assault, people think of this book.
The Melting Pot
Lin Yihan's tragedy directly or indirectly led to the large-scale MeToo movement in China.
The MeToo movement is an activity in which victims come forward to expose the sexual violence they have suffered.
When you say publicly, "I've also been sexually harassed/assaulted," it's quick to see someone come up and say, "MeToo, too."
People accused of sexual assault and harassment include college teachers, big names in the entertainment industry, elders of children, acquaintances of parents.
Metoo will also be written by some victims:
"I am Fang Siqi", or "My teacher is Li Guohua".
Victims used to spend a lot of energy explaining what happened to them when they asked the outside world for help, and Fang Siqi's story simplified this step.
After that we found out that so many children had been hurt. Some of them pretended to forget about it, some did not know that they had been hurt by sexual violence, and some were still shrouded in the shadow of sexual violence.
Carnival
Some therefore argue that the world is going backwards.
I don't think so.
Because Fang Siqi, who was hidden in the shadows, was finally willing to shout for help.
At least the world has given them the courage to speak out about the catastrophe they have experienced, rather than despairing about it and going down the path of self-destruction.
Lin Yihan tried to find the victim of Chen Guoxing (Li Guohua's prototype) on the Internet, and when she found that there was more than one victim, she chose to seek legal help.
Death of a Virgin
When she learned that the evidence was difficult and the evidence was insufficient, she fell into despair and came up with a way to write a novel.
The real-world #Metoo and Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise are also in contrast.
When girls find that other people are suffering like themselves, they are willing to stand up.
The same trauma makes them unbearable to see a girl with the same situation facing the malice of the world alone.
"Fang Siqi" stood up to identify the criminals, in order to avoid the next little girl's suffering, but also to make each other no longer feel lonely.
Lin Yihan once said that any sexual violence is done by the whole society together.
In the novel, Fang Siqi tentatively asks her mother if a classmate at school is okay with the teacher. The mother's response was, "So young and so upset."
A similar response blocked Fang Siqi's mouth.
In the novel, Xiaoqi, another young girl who has been violated by Li Guohua, has loudly called for help.
She told her parents about Li Guohua, but instead of comfort, her father said, "Do you think you will be able to marry in the future by doing this kind of thing?" ”
Mom yelled out her throat: "You run to hurt other people's families, we don't have a daughter like you!" ”
Perhaps it is the psychology of the ugliness of the family, but also with some self-deception that does not want to believe that the daughter has suffered sexual assault.
Later, Guo Xiaoqi chose to expose Li Guohua on the Internet, hoping to use the power of public opinion to completely expose Li Guohua's true face.
But the comments of netizens were full of cynicism:
"So how much did you take him"
"Bao Bao Changing Bag"
"The teacher in the cram school was really cool"
"Poor Master"
"It's not a cool crooked thing to be plugged in"
……
There were not too many voices condemning Li Guohua in the evaluation, but instead there was a screen full of ridicule.
Netizens just regard this as an eight-o'clock dog blood drama full of erotic feelings, and are unwilling to admit that there is indeed inhuman pain in the world.
The Handmaid's Tale
This is the reason why Li Guohua can extend his claws to the ignorant girl again and again.
Society's stigmatization of sex, the demand for women to be "sensible", "pure", and "understand others", will sew the mouth of a young girl for herself.
Because sexual assault is "too dirty", dirty is a young girl, and criminals can easily escape from the whirlpool of public opinion.
Now, more and more victims are speaking, asking everyone's heart for Fang Siqi over and over again, and society's prejudice against victims has finally loosened.
In April alone, we saw three pieces of news like this.
One is that a graduate of Foshan reported in real name that a former high school teacher had molested students.
One is that a teacher in Jingzhou sent pornographic messages to students.
One is that a master's tutor of Wuhan University was reported for harassing female students.
Of the three cases, the first was reported for criticism, the police intervened in the investigation, the second was suspended from all work to cooperate with the investigation, and the third has been dismissed by the Education Bureau.
Nowadays, we are becoming more and more sensitive to sex crimes in schools and juvenile sex crimes.
All this is thanks to the bravery of Fang Siqi, which has attracted the attention of society, so that later people can successfully defend their rights and overthrow their authority.
"Protect Fang Siqi"
After Lin Yihan's death, every time I saw Fang Siqi-style news, I would think of a passage said in the afterword of "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise":
"Literature is the most futile, and it is comical in vain. Writing so much, I can't save anyone, not even myself. After all these years, I've written so much, I might as well rush in with a knife and kill him. It's true. ”
If she is still alive today, I want to tell her: Writing is useful.
To achieve "no more Fang Siqi-style tragedies in the world", it is more than lin Yihan's efforts alone.
Just like Fang Siqi stood up, not for the action of "standing", but to ask the public for help.
Seeing each of them, we also need to reflect, act, and do something for them and for ourselves.
Her writing has taught us to reflect on whether we once stayed out of a similar tragedy and looked at it coldly.
The masses are awakening.
We are gradually experiencing Fang Siqi's pain, although we can never put ourselves in their shoes.
In the past two years, the public has paid more and more attention to similar incidents, and the vision of such cases has become more and more mature.
We have gradually learned not to blindly speculate on events, not to require the victim to be the perfect victim, not to harshly rebuke the weak, especially in a weak person who stands on an absolute disadvantage and has no ability to resist.
The first thing we can do for Fang Siqi is to continue to pay attention to similar events.
The second step is to replace criticism with support and blame with accompaniment.
The third step is to tell every child who does not yet know what evil is and what sex is. How to protect yourself. When you're feeling unwell, you can say no to anyone.
The fourth step is to wait for the law to be perfected. Let the rapists who exploit the loopholes in the law get the punishment they deserve.
Finally, please express our respect to every brave woman today, it is because of them that I hope that the world will no longer have a room for Siqi to become a reality step by step.