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Chinese pay the most attention to ethical relationships, parent-child friendship and brotherhood.
The feelings of parents and children, that is the purest, basically no impurities. However, brotherhood and sisterhood will give people a complex and changeable feeling.
Families with poor brotherly and sister relations often jump in chickens and dogs, and the whole family is deceitful, leaving people in the middle of the "shuluo field".
On the other hand, if the family's sibling relationship is better, then the family is usually "united in people's hearts", more and more united, and gradually go uphill.
However, the situation of brothers and clear accounts has become a reality. And mutual help, hello my good brotherhood and sisterhood, but has become a luxury.
Especially in this materialistic world, it is not that there is no pure brotherhood and sisterhood, but that human nature is too complicated, resulting in the collapse of family affection.
People with good luck can naturally meet brothers and sisters who value family affection. And people with poor luck, let alone meet relatives who value family affection, may the whole family fight for interests.
You know, when people are old, the relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, and most of them have these problems.
02
The relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, and most of them are related to the "death of parents".
Some psychological researchers have put forward a point of view that in a society with strong family affection, the existence of parents is the cornerstone of family development, and it is also a bridge of unity and friendship between children and daughters. When the cornerstone and bridge disappear, the family will fall into chaos.
To put it bluntly, it is often said that "the wall is pushed by everyone, and the tree is scattered."
When the parents are in the church, there will be no big problems between the brothers and sisters, and there will even be mutual help and mutual assistance. This is the influence of parents on the family.
When the parents left, due to the lack of the "main heart bone" and the lack of respected elders, the brothers and sisters of the same generation did not obey anyone. In this way, contradictions arise.
Older people may understand that the truest side of people will be revealed when there is no "bondage".
Brothers and sisters who used to be considered amiable will now compete with you for family property, or even die of dissociation. This is not a question of family affection, but of human nature.
Parents are here, brothers are good. Parents go, brothers disperse.
03
The relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, and it is related to "interests".
Neighbor Uncle Zhang, there are a total of three houses. However, he only had two sons, and his wife left early, so he did not know who to give the third house to. This made him particularly troubled.
Therefore, he took the third house under his own name and divided the other two houses among his two sons. In his view, the division of assets in this way may be as fair as possible.
Later, Uncle Zhang died unexpectedly, and he did not leave a will. At this time, his two sons focused on the third house and their father's savings, and even at the funeral, they did not shed a single tear.
A year after Uncle Zhang's death, the two brothers have been arguing over the ownership of the house and the deposit, even at the expense of confronting the "court", completely disregarding the friendship of brothers and sisters.
Nowadays, these two people have become a fire, let alone exchanges, maybe they will have to punch and kick each other as soon as they meet.
Brother, settle the account. This is not a generalization of a virtual story, but a real reality.
04
The poor relationship between brothers and sisters is related to the "change of mentality".
A reader once told me such a thing.
When he was young, Mr. Liu, a reader, paid special attention to the friendship of brothers and sisters, as long as they had time, they would get together, whether it was eating or group travel, anyway, giving people a feeling of "brotherhood and brotherhood".
However, when he was old, he did not want to have too much contact with his brothers and sisters.
In his words, after getting along for a long time, there are more contradictions between people, and it feels uninteresting.
Even today, except for getting together in a restaurant during the New Year, there are basically few intimate contacts. Perhaps, this is a change in the mentality that time has brought to people.
Some people are "emotionally heavy" people when they are young, and once they are old, they will become "thin-hearted". This is very realistic.
Some people are the defenders of "affection" when they are young, and once they are old, they only want to take care of their own small family. In this way, their attitude will change dramatically.
05
The relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, which is related to the "amplification of shortcomings".
From a psychological point of view, as long as the distance between the two sides is close, then you will magnify the shortcomings of the other party. At the same time, the other party will also amplify your shortcomings. In the end, the contradictions between the two sides appeared.
For example, if you do 99 good things and only the 100th thing is not done well, then your brothers and sisters will ignore your past efforts and only stare at your mistakes.
This is the human truth of "100-1=0".
I believe many people will say, this "100-1 = 0" status quo can be changed?
Truth be told, it's hard to change unless everyone has a spirit of "compromise and inclusion". However, there are very few people who can achieve "compromise and tolerance".
Man, after all, is not an absolutely rational creature, but a species in which reason and sensibility are intertwined. In this way, conflicts between relatives are normal.
However, since they are relatives, it is better to be with Kazumimi. At least, between brothers and sisters, there is this life, there is no future life, why can't they get along well?
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