In this day and age, divorce is just as common as marriage. As long as the two sides are united in their opinions and reach a consensus, they will soon be able to regain their freedom. What I am afraid of is that one side wants to escape with an iron heart, and the other side is stuck in the dead, and it is easy to break the picture when it is torn up.
For example, Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei, 8 years of marriage, the man has been tired for a long time, does not want to continue to make it up, so he resolutely proposed divorce. However, in order to keep the marriage and a complete home for the healthy growth of the children, the woman endured humiliation and burdens.
As a result, the drama that should have been only a single drama was played by the two cadres of "high-quality idols" and "perfect housewives", and the strength became a climactic New Year's Eve drama. More than a month has passed, and I still stuff melons into the mouths of netizens from time to time.
Honestly, I'm really tired of it. No one's life is easy, get up earlier than the chicken, sleep later than the cat, work more tired than the cow, mix worse than the dog, but also worry about being cut off by salary cuts, who have the leisure to cut off the housework for the stars. You must know that people divorce, property division is often hundreds of millions, and a fraction is enough for you to move bricks for several lifetimes.
Although the wedding has sworn to be a couple in a lifetime, "the most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you." But to tell the truth, the marriage thing, in fact, no one can say the end. Because people are very fickle, even strong love has a shelf life, and the shelf life is not as long as you think.
On why the divorce, Wang Lihong, as a halo-pressed Chinese singer, responded to the media and the public's reasoning very officially, "Now we have different ideas and plans for the future way of life, so we decided to live separately. ”
Eating melon and eating too much, you know that the so-called "different ideas and plans for the future" in the mouths of celebrities means that one does not want to continue to sleep with each other, and the other does not want to collapse due to divorce, destroy the career and cut off the financial road. Therefore, everything should be handled in a friendly and decent way, as far as possible to take care of both sides to look good, and the worst is to keep alone.
But full-time wife Li Lianglei, as the vegetarian behind the star husband, is completely willing to shave when necessary. Since he was ruthlessly dumped, there is no room for redemption, simply take out all the self-righteous grievances in the marriage, and the barefoot are not afraid to wear shoes, and strive to maximize the interests first. You know, tens of millions of salaries per year, whether it is a workplace job or a domestic worker, it is estimated that it will not be easy to find it again in the future.
In one long essay after another, Li Lianglei tirelessly expressed her most simple appeal, "My biggest dream from childhood to adulthood is to form a harmonious family, so that my children can grow up in a complete and loving family." The mood can be understood, what is missing to think, Li Lianglei, who was brought up by a single mother, has never seen her father since she was a child, nor has she experienced the taste of a harmonious and complete family.
So, when she was given marriage by an idol, she thought, "We will be a family for the rest of our lives." Therefore, he said that he wanted a lot of children, she gave up her work and her own personal life, either in the preparation for pregnancy, or in the birth of a baby; by his whole family's suspicion, humiliation and cold violence, she endured humiliation and humiliation, and did not say a bad word to him; knowing that he was doing three or four outside, and other women were not clear, she was still willing to forgive him, accompany him, let him live the lifestyle he wanted freely; he was determined to divorce because if he met a girl he liked, he did not want people to be wronged and said to be a little three, so he was determined to divorce. She is still willing to take the child home, counting the days and looking forward to his return...
In the face of the life they want, men are always too sober and women are always too naïve. Wang Lihong wants freedom and happiness, and Li Lianglei wants marriage and family.
Wang Lihong is very sober, and what can give him freedom and happiness is that his career is wealth and his identity is not tied up in marriage; Li Lianglei is very naïve, thinking that as long as she compromises and gives in and does not demand that he be loyal to marriage, she can keep the man, keep the marriage, save the title of "Mrs. Wang", and give the children a complete and loving home.
Once blindly in love, the woman's IQ will not be online. The patience and pity of men, only willing to give him the woman he loves, they always see the new person laughing, not the old person crying. Women always naively believe in the deceptive saying, "The prodigal son does not change his head", do not know a prodigal son's heart, do not want to go back to the road. He doesn't love you anymore, and the more humble you are, the easier it is to invite more serious abuse.
The philosopher Schopenhauer once said, "Life is a mass of desires, and if desires cannot be satisfied, they are painful, and if they are satisfied, they are bored, and life oscillates between pain and boredom." ”
At present, Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei should have their own pains. The divorce is endless, and it is nothing more than that their respective desires have not been successfully satisfied.
Wang Lihong's reputation collapsed, his career was destroyed, and he suffered heavy losses. At least in recent years, the image reconstruction comeback to find gold, very difficult, even almost impossible; and Li Lianglei instigated netizens to sympathize, although she was willing to get a large amount of compensation, but the unwillingness to lose the long-term meal ticket of the marriage was well-known in her crusade and accusation that she could not save the complete family for her children word by word.
As a public figure, Wang Lihong is very clear that more words will be lost, and he tries not to respond to Li Lianglei. Going home to see the children and other contacts that Cannot be avoided with Li Lianglei are all premised on the guidance of lawyers. But Li Lianglei seems to be obsessed with the power of public opinion, using the social platform as her own balcony, as the main position to beat the falling water dog, exploding privacy and dumping garbage, reluctant to stop.
Watching many netizens re-take sides, I am really worried that Li Lianglei, who advertises herself as an independent woman, will be abandoned by the marriage she relies on, and then one day she will be abandoned by the public opinion she relies on.
Li Lianglei said in a long essay, "I now find that a father who is physically and mentally unhealthy is more terrible than an absent father." Now that she has realized this, and since she has identified Wang Lihong as a scum who is "physically and mentally unhealthy", why should she obsessively count the days and look forward to the "scum" returning home, and not worry about affecting the healthy growth of the children she claims to love the most?
Life is not easy, and marriage is not easy. Marriage concerns two people, and the failure of marriage must also be a matter of two people. As an adult, you should let go of it, and the responsibility you should bear is brave, and there is no point in too much entanglement.
As Li Lianglei said, only by bravely and frankly facing it can everything return to zero, and both sides can have the opportunity to be reborn. Even so, it is better to let go of resentment, turn the dry into a jade veil, and be safe for each other, and at the same time, as the parents of the children, guard the growth of the children.
As a former couple, we can no longer see each other; but as parents of three children, it is impossible to be passers-by from now on. Children will always grow up, as parents, as soon as possible to stop tearing, to give each other a little face and dignity, is the best protection for children.
Men want to be free, women want marriage, contradictions are irreconcilable, it is difficult to recognize unity. But caring for the healthy growth of children should be a consensus that can be easily reached by both sides. For the sake of cute children, what else is there to put down?