Author:Sa Jie (Attending Physician of Obstetrics and Gynecology)
A few days ago, a girl came to consult Sajie, said Sajie, I feel that I especially like kissing and caressing, I feel that these are the most attractive parts of two people together, rather than coming up and wanting to drive, is this because my body is different? Is there anything wrong with that?
If you want to use a word to describe the magical feeling between men and women, Sajie feels that there is a word in the lyrics that is particularly appropriate, that is, "electric shock".
Perhaps when we describe a person's feeling of heartbeat toward another person, there are often some moments similar to electric shock, sometimes it may be a look, an action, a sentence, an expression or just an inadvertent skin contact.
However, between the electric light stone and fire, it seems that the current flows through the whole body, allowing the brain to directly enter the state of hyperactivity or a blank state of panic.
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When Sajie was still a single dog, for the novels and TV series, those lingering kissing descriptions, the heart is full of yearning, presumably every single dog people who come over, both men and women understand this feeling.
Whether it is the deer under the moon before the flower, or the coincidence of the dragonfly dotting the water, the touch of the lips, the entanglement of the tip of the tongue is the key to open the door to the new world, making you want to stop like a poison.
In fact, this is not a problem, it can be said that women who like to kiss and physical touch, as well as men, should account for the vast majority, and all of this is related to our body physiology and nerve conduction.
First, why is a kiss "on the head"?
Sister Sa has heard many readers describe their magical kissing experience, when the two lips touch each other for a moment, as if two asteroids collided, generating a huge amount of energy.
The light is that the heart is pounding and breathing is not smooth, and the heavy is spinning legs and feet are soft and the sun and moon are lightless, just like a person who has not slept for three days and three nights, drinking ten pounds of high liquor in one breath, and a stuffy stick makes you directly "on the head".
This extremely immersive and comfortable experience, which comes from the contact of our body's most sensitive lips and tongues, rapidly transmits these electrical signals through neurotransmitters to our human commands --- brain.
As a result, after the brain receives it, it "brushes" the ground, directly changing its state from a wandering Jigong to a Wusong who fights tigers, accompanied by your shortness of breath, confusion, and a large amount of dopamine secretion, so that a good drama gradually enters the climax.
Second, why is it "charged" when you touch it?
If you were asked, what is the largest sexual organ in the human body, which one would you answer?
Sister Sa knows the answer you think of first, but I'm sorry it's not, the skin is the biggest sexual organ of our human body.
The role of the skin is not only to wrap the muscles and bones of our body, nor is it limited to secretion, breathing, barrier and other functions.
In addition to the mouth and tongue, the fingers are another very sensitive exploration tool for us humans, and when you touch each other's skin, the feeling of touch will make you feel a kind of transmission similar to an electrical current signal, which some people will describe as "crisp".
In fact, there is really such an electrical current signal, the nerve fibers in our body are to conduct these, they are like a line of wires, responsible for the information you feel during the touch process to the brain, and the brain receives this signal, it will secrete a series of substances, let you feel the full and intoxicated euphoria.
Human touch often represents love, this love is not limited to men and women, just like the newborn in the arms of the mother, enjoying the mother's touch of his forehead, feel the mother's touch, the child may calm the original irritable crying.
It's like an encouraging touch from an elder, maybe just patting your shoulder and patting your back will also make you feel inspired and immediately confident.
This skin-to-skin contact is an affirmative message, and between men and women, skin-to-skin affection is an expression of love and a catharsis of desire.
It does not simply represent a physical need, but also comes from the expression of love in the hearts of both parties. It's just that in this process, there may be some misunderstandings among many people.
Third, is it necessary to carry out professional training?
No, this is not what the exam level certificate, no license will not let you work, there is no professional tutorial to teach you, you do not need to do any stereotypical training.
Just let yourself be fully immersed in it, feel the beauty, follow the instructions of your heart and brain, let the other party feel your warmth and thoughtfulness, and indulge in your love.
Is it only women who love caressing?
It's not just women who like it this way, loving touches are important for women, and they're equally important for men. This kind of intimate touch brings relaxation and satisfaction, and men are also very eager.
Love needs to be reciprocated, no one can insist on unilateral giving all the time, so your pleasure can also be conveyed to the other party, so that the other party feels the same feeling.
In our exploration of the relationship between the sexes, if the snuggling between the lips and teeth is compared to a thick honey mixed with morphine, you feel sweet and happy after drinking, feel ethereal, then the touch and caress between the skin, like the electric light between the stone and fire, instantaneous explosion, rapid transmission, like the night sky "snapping" exploding fireworks, fleeting but let you for a long time can not get rid of the beauty of the shock it brings you. Don't omit them, they're useful!
For some more anxious men, it may be at some point that they prefer to "go straight to the subject", but this way is really not what women like.
Especially for women who already have a certain amount of tension, being able to have a buffer time, through kissing and caressing to achieve a relaxing effect, can quickly eliminate tension, so that the follow-up more smooth.
So, back to our original question: Why do we love lips and teeth so much for the lingering kisses and gentle caresses? For this is the instinctive appeal of our body, we love, we crave love, we desire to feel love, they are like the sluices that open the hidden river of your heart, satisfying you and allowing you to empty.
This craving is not a disease, but a normal need, so don't worry about yourself or suppress yourself.
You know, in this busy world, how precious it is to have the affectionate kiss of the person you love, to feel the warm touch of the skin of his fingers.
* This article is reprinted with permission from the WeChat public account Doctor Girl Zhengchuan.