As we all know, Our country has always been more evasive about the topic of "sex", especially between parents and children, many times both sides will not take the initiative to mention related topics, and this has also led to the lack of sex education for their children in our country, children do not know how to protect themselves, once violated, it is easy to leave a lifetime of psychological shadows.
Yang Rong: When I was 4 years old, the man named "Uncle" told me that I wanted to play a "game"
For Yang Rong's name, most people should be familiar with it, she has excellent performances in many film and television dramas, and has won the love of many people with her beautiful appearance and high emotional intelligence. However, on the surface, she has a scar that has been buried for many years.
Until a chance in "Star Detective", this scar was unveiled again, everyone knew that she had such an experience, which also made everyone pay more attention to the problem of "sexual abuse of young children".
Here's the thing, there was an episode of "Star Detective" show, Yang Rong played a poor girl who was adopted from childhood, but the so-called "adoption" was just locked up by the "stepfather" in a dark and narrow basement, becoming a "toy" that was imprisoned for freedom.
In this nightmarish basement, the stepfather has to "play" with the little girl every day, and the little girl who silently endures the atrocities of the stepfather does not know what the other party's behavior represents, but she has no choice but to be forced to accept it. It wasn't until she was rescued and grew up that she didn't know what two dark years she had spent.
Seeing the girl's tragic experience, Yang Rong couldn't stop shedding tears on the spot in the show, not only for the little girl in the story, but mainly for herself - she also had a similar experience.
Shortly after the show aired, Yang Rong posted on social media that when she was 4 years old, the son of her mother's colleague, the man he called "uncle", took her to a dark bedroom and said that he wanted to play a "game" with her, making her legs apart, and she did not know what it meant at the time.
She hadn't mentioned it to anyone else for more than 30 years, she just remembered that the bedroom window was so small that it could barely see through any sunlight, just like her wounded and closed heart.
The most likely to hurt the child may be the "acquaintance" trusted by parents
If we pay attention to the case of "early childhood sexual assault", it is not difficult to find a fact, the most likely to hurt the child, may be the "acquaintance" trusted by parents, for such acquaintances, children will often be more trusting, psychological defense will be lower, and after being violated by acquaintances, often for various reasons do not dare to tell anyone, and finally can only leave scars in their own hearts, in countless midnight to recall their grief experience is difficult to sleep.
In fact, as early as 2017, there were relevant institutions that did such a survey, and the data showed that at least 7 children in China would be violated every day, and among the children under the age of 14 who were violated, 92.4% were girls, 7.6% were boys, and more than 70% of the cases were committed by acquaintances.
Therefore, parents need to realize that sexual assault is not as far away as every child imagines, and it is not too much to be careful about the protection of children, and the sex education of children is the most important, especially those children around their own "acquaintances", parents should be more careful, for children to establish a sense of privacy protection.
For children's sex education, the following 3 points parents need to pay attention to
1. Proactive communication
For children who do not understand, sex education and "sex" are not the same, the younger the child, the purer the thought, the better the effect of parents to carry out sex education. Therefore, when we educate our children on sex, we must take the initiative to communicate, do not be ashamed to speak, and finally drag it around will make each other more embarrassed and cannot achieve good results.
2. Enhance children's awareness of prevention
Enhancing children's awareness of prevention is also an important part of children's sex education, parents need to establish a child's awareness of prevention when educating their children on sex, so that children understand how to protect themselves, even if they are violated, they must be brave to share with their parents, do not let the children bear the pain themselves.
3. Timely guidance
For children of different ages, parents need to have different emphases when conducting sex education, for example, for 2-3-year-old children, gender awareness has just emerged at this time, parents need to educate children to correctly understand their own private parts, establish children's privacy awareness, for children who step into adolescence, parents need to educate children to correctly treat the changes that occur on their bodies, eliminate children's psychological discomfort.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Parents can not accompany their children 24 hours a day, the abuse of bad people is always caught off guard, so the most important thing is to do a good job of sex education for children, to establish a sense of protection for children, so that children can protect themselves. Finally, I hope that everyone will pay enough attention to children's sex education, which is also an important part of family education.
Today's topic: How do you usually educate your children about sex?