"Having children and raising children can prevent old age", this sentence is a good saying, but children should be filial to the elderly, most of them have additional conditions.
The ability of children to earn a living, the situation of small families, and the character of sons-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affect the quality of parents' pension.
"Companionship is the longest confession of affection", but the companionship that has lost its material basis, similar to "nibbling on the old", is annoying.
When you're in your fifties, most of your children are grown, and if they don't show up, don't be resentful.
"Fight the tiger brothers, fight the father and son soldiers", change a big family, at any time, can do it. As a parent, use the following four forces well, the children will get better, and the family will have a head start.
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Use the power of good example, above and below.
The writer Barkin said: "The power of example for parents is very great. When I was a child, my parents had good tempers, and my parents never scolded their children. Come to think of it, I can't think of anything bad to learn from them. ”
Teaching by example is more important than yelling at children to study and make money every day. Adult children, whose awareness of society is not low, cannot change or restrain their behavior with a single command, as they do with naïve children.
One day, I was with my mother discussing what to plant in the open space behind the house. I stubbornly believe that I should plant some flowers and plants to make the air at home fresher, and I can also feel the beautiful scenery by pushing open the windows.
Mother was adamantly opposed, and she wanted to plant greens and turnips on it. Mother said, "Labor is the most beautiful." Every day you open the window and see the fruits of your labor, you will be very pleased. ”
Suddenly, I remembered a sentence: "You can't forget your roots as a person." ”
Many years ago, a large family of us lived in the mountains, and my mother earned living expenses and tuition fees on a few acres of vegetable gardens.
During the holidays, the mother and her children plant vegetables and weed together. Probably, my love for the land was cultivated at that time.
The love of parents is very beautiful, and children will yearn for such beauty; the work of parents is very solid, and so will their children.
Children will always step on the footprints of their parents and move forward step by step. If parents see their children as angry and complain at home every day, then the family is surrounded by negative energy and loses the power of example.
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Use the power of good qualities and learn to like.
Goethe said, "Family harmony is the happiest thing in life." ”
As a child, Goethe was very naughty, but he liked to think.
One day, he caught a sparrow, locked it in a cage, and watched in shock, and the old man did not move for half a day. Why do sparrows have feathers, why do they fly, and why don't people grow feathers?
In every child's head, there are "100,000 whys.". Smart parents will be happy to answer questions and guide their children to learn, never to impose interference.
Goethe was observing the birds, but his father was observing him.
Later, his father took Goethe to the library and promised to open it to him around the clock.
Goethe's maternal grandfather, seeing Goethe's love of reading, said happily: "Child, work hard, you will become a great poet." ”
Encouragement is a good thing, although it is a bit hypocritical, but it can always leave a lot of good yearning in the heart.
The phrase "home and everything" has so far been refuted by no one.
The tolerance of parents and the encouragement of elders can always give full play to the nature of children.
Fifty-year-olds should be good at observing your children, discovering their strengths, and inspiring them; tolerating their failures and allowing them to set off again, rather than blaming them.
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With the power of good feelings, care with heart.
My classmate Ah Li once said such a thing.
The year he graduated from college, he traveled to several cities and didn't find a suitable job. In desperation, he returned home.
Annoyed, he bought a pack of cigarettes and coughed while smoking them.
At some point, my father stood behind him.
He thought that his father must be angry, thinking that he was too unable to withstand the blow and that he had learned badly.
Who knows, the father just smiled and said, "Don't buy inferior cigarettes, it's too choking." ”
Years later, he still remembers his father handing over cigarettes and helping to light the fire.
The love of parents is the greatest wealth of children.
Love is soft, like a warm wind, soothing the sorrows in the hearts of children. Even if you don't know where your children hurt, love can touch them.
You know, fifty-year-old you have also been young and confused. From the children's bodies, we can see how we were ourselves at that time, how can we not be distressed.
There is a saying in the "Cai Gen Tan": "Fear for evil, and there is a good way in evil." ”
Even if the children's learning is broken and they become villains in society, they can also stimulate their kindness and turn things around.
Being a thief is weak-minded, afraid of being punished by parents, afraid to expose his whereabouts... The way they escape from reality is actually a trace of guilt in their hearts. People in society regard them as unforgivable people, but their parents must regard them as "salvation" people.
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Use the power of good knowledge to accumulate thick and thin.
Ma Yun said: "It doesn't matter if entrepreneurs don't read much, they are afraid of not reading in society." ”
Many children, when they were young, were disobedient and did not have to do anything to read. After graduating from junior high school or high school, you drop out of school.
As soon as the children who have not come out, they say, "I haven't read many books, I don't have a diploma, what else can I do?" ”
In fact, people of any age can rely on reading to change their fate.
Treat the people around you as books that you can read; go to the library to borrow books; extract knowledge from life experiences; retake the college entrance examination... How can there be no way to live?
Families who love to read have difficulty in getting through their doors and not entering.
The power of knowledge is endless. Every book is a stepping stone; every progress stands on the shoulders of giants.
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Conclusion.
The lives of children are given by their parents. It stands to reason that raising to the age of eighteen is a task. In fact, ignorant teenagers need the help of their parents even more.
It doesn't matter if the children go the wrong way and touch their heads and bleed. Wandering in the "world of love" of their parents, they can still regain the courage to set off again.
We must understand that it is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish.
Instead of desperately leaving a large sum of money for their children, give them strength.
For the rest of his life, he treated his children leniently, "help the king get on the horse, and send another ride."
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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