Between the poor and the rich, the difference is really not only money, but also those micro-habits that change a lifetime.
Author:Lin Zixuan (Fushu Author)
Have you ever had such doubts?
Those who were once on par with themselves, after a few years, suddenly became very rich, but they are still in the same place, where is the difference...
The American writer Thomas Corey spent 5 years doing research and found the answer to the question.
He interviewed 233 self-made rich people and 128 poor people and found that 24 hours a day, 1440 minutes, everyone would spend 1200 minutes on daily things such as eating and sleeping, while the remaining 240 minutes, their habits were significantly different.
88% of the rich get used to reading for at least 30 minutes a day, while most of the poor are used to having fun and barely learning.
The 240-minute habit of life has made people who once watched similar strengths go to different fates.
Cao Dewang, the "king of Chinese glass", has not graduated from primary school because of poverty, but he has always had a micro-habit: he insists on reading for 2 hours a day.
Li Ka-shing, Asia's richest man, started from scratch and still maintains three unmoving micro-habits: reading before going to bed every day, watching 20 minutes of English TV after dinner every day, and listening to radio news reports every day.
They are all cultivating "self-improvement" into a habit of life.
People do not have good habits when they are excellent, but they have good habits to achieve excellent selves.
A small inertial behavior will have an infiltrative influence from your temper and personality to your body and spirit.
David Navins once said at TED: "Tiny habits have great power, and developing beneficial habits can bring about more serious changes." ”
- What are micro-habits?
Writer Stephen defines "micro-habits" this way in "Micro Habits": Micro habits are the insignificant positive behaviors that you force yourself to do every day.
Remember the takeaway brother Lei Haiwei who defeated the peking university master and won the championship in the "Chinese Poetry Conference"?
Many people were amazed at how he had succeeded in his cultivation, saying that between every meal, he would take out the "Three Hundred Poems of Tang Dynasty" and recite two sentences.
This micro-habit made him accumulate over time, and eventually shined on the stage, becoming a powerful figure that Dong Qing even praised.
It is often said that it is easier said than done, and wanting to change means fighting against your own bad habits, and it naturally feels difficult to fight.
Just like many people know the benefits of reading books, think about opening books, subconsciously and habitually open mobile phones to brush vibrato, Weibo, in the blink of an eye two hours have passed, not a page of books has been turned.
Erasmus said, "One nail squeezes out another, and habits are replaced by habits." ”
Cultivating "micro-habits" is a good way to fight, it has zero burden, can greatly reduce your resistance, and it is easy to put into action to change yourself.
- Have you experienced the "pit" of cultivating habits?
Her friend Ah Qing has always been very interested in writing, and in order to exercise her writing ideas, she decided to develop a micro-habit of recording inspiration in the circle of friends every day.
She began to beat herself every day, telling herself to become a better author.
At first, she would insist on recording seven or eight times a day, and after only a week, she was like a deflated balloon and no longer sent circles.
In the process of cultivation, Ah Xing uses the chicken blood method that many people tend to adopt, also known as the power strategy, but it is often easy to surrender to difficulties.
Stephen mentions that relying entirely on motivation to drive yourself to develop habits is actually a pit for the following reasons:
1, power is difficult to cultivate on demand: we will all appear when we are not in the state, at this time the power can not be dominated and used.
2, motivation is easily affected by unpleasant events: people will inevitably be affected by negative emotions, such as you want to go to the gym, go out of the traffic jam, it is possible to cause emotional slack, weaken the motivation.
3. The law of decreasing enthusiasm: after a long time of doing one thing, the enthusiasm will slowly fade, and the motivation will slowly disappear.
The willpower strategy allows us to achieve our goals better than the motivation strategy.
Willpower is more stable, reliable, and motivated.
For example, we want to develop the habit of running, use willpower strategies, tell ourselves that we will not rest until we finish running today, and force ourselves to complete daily tasks.
Stick to it for a few days, and when the spirit gets better and better after feeling exercise, the motivation will also increase rapidly.
- How can a lazy person effortlessly develop good habits?
Quickly develop a good habit with the help of a micro-habit strategy, just the next 8 steps.
1. Choose the micro-habits and plans that suit you.
First of all, make a brief list of the habits you want to develop, and then select the important habits to cultivate, it is recommended that the number should not exceed four, too much is easy to consume willpower.
Stick to a week to make an initial assessment and choose a long-term plan.
If something isn't appropriate to do every day, you can develop a weekly or monthly micro-habit.
2. Tap the intrinsic value of each micro-habit.
Ask yourself a few times why you want to cultivate these micro-habits, find things at the level of values, and strengthen your beliefs.
For example: I want to write every day, why? Because I love writing.
Why? Because this expression is my favorite, connecting with people through writing.
Why is this important? Because writing is something that I think is valuable and extremely important.
3. Clarify the basis of habit and include it in the agenda.
There are two common bases for developing habits, time and behavior.
Choose the culture according to the time, such as "I plan to read at 10 o'clock every night".
It is cultivated according to the way of behavior, such as "I plan to start reading after lunch."
As for which one to choose, you can decide according to yourself, just like Lei Haiwei, he will use the gap between work to memorize poems for accumulation.
4. Establish a reward mechanism to reward and enhance the sense of achievement.
If you're writing, you can celebrate a well-written document, even if you meet only the minimum requirements, that's laying the groundwork.
When you can't stick to it, you can also give yourself a reward, take a break, and restore your willpower to continue to persevere.
5. Record and track the completion.
It is recommended to write by hand and write the idea on paper to make it stand out in the brain and make you more sensitive to the progress and success of the training.
Remember not to set any vague goals, as this will lack clear direction and will not be strong in execution.
After a few days of completion you will have a chain of behavior, and the only thing you have to do next is not to destroy it and let it slowly become a habit.
6. Start with trace amounts and exceed the quota.
We can obviously set higher goals, so why make small habits? Because everything is difficult at the beginning.
Seeing our willingness to take action can inspire motivation to persevere, and even if we do something small, it will become a habit and produce great power.
Our constant forcing ourselves to perform achievable tasks is also strengthening our willpower and making us more able to exceed our quotas.
7. Obey the plan and get rid of high expectations.
We need to focus our expectations and energy on sticking to our goals, rather than expecting a high level of task.
When non-habits become habits, it means that your confrontation with the brain has become cooperative, which is very conducive to cultivating large habits.
8. Pay attention to the signs of habit formation.
Signs that your behavior has become habitual include: no resistance, identity (like "I read a lot"), no need to think about it when acting, no longer worrying about doing it, normalization, and boredom (good habits don't excite people).
- 8 efficient and useful micro habit list please bookmark
1. Read 2 pages of the book
Stop brushing your phone before going to bed, read 2 pages of books, accumulate knowledge base for a long time, and enrich yourself.
2. Record your own expenses
Recording the day's consumption at a fixed time and knowing where each sum of money goes can be very helpful for financial management.
3. Excerpt a poem
Copy a poem every day, recite it, and continue to insist on it, and the cultivation will also be greatly improved.
4. Exercise for 10 minutes
Spend 10 minutes a day doing an aerobic or strength training exercise to get fit.
5. Record 1 accomplished thing
Writing down the things you feel accomplished every day, even a little progress, can not only increase self-confidence, but also help maintain a positive mindset.
6. Remember a word every day
One word a day, you can remember more than 300 a year, whether it is to study for graduate school or learn a small language, it is very beneficial.
7. Review and summary
Work every day and spend a few minutes recording what was done that day, how long it took, what was gained and reflected. Improve problems and make progress in a timely manner.
8. Quickly watch the news
Get up early every morning to quickly browse the newsletter to keep up with the times and expand your horizons.
- Write at the end
Yang Chenyu, the winner of the Guangxi college entrance examination, once said in an interview that he never participated in the training class, but whether it is a month, a week, or a day, there will be a habit of summarizing and reflecting.
When Yang Chenyu's mother was asked how to cultivate a bully child, she said: "We must help the child develop habits when he does not have the ability to be autonomous." After the finalization, the road behind is easy to go. ”
Parents need the blessing of "micro-habit strategy", and children's education is more indispensable.
Jobs once said, "In the first 30 years of life, you develop habits; in the last 30 years of life, habits shape you." ”
It is better to teach children a good habit than to train children a thousand times.
There is also such a line in the TV series "The Age of Awakening", which I agree with very much:
"In this impetuous era, only self-disciplined people can stand out and achieve great things."
The formation of each micro-habit is strengthening your self-discipline personality, forming a positive virtuous circle, and helping you quickly achieve life progress.
Your good fortune is actually hidden in your micro-habits.
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