All that is good has just begun

◎ Yu Lu

Everything is effortlessly nothing more than IQ online, and if it can still appear "unworldly", it is a sign that iq is more superior - in my opinion, this is the way to success in the creation of "Love Myth".

As for the shadows of many other works that sway in between, the academic background of the author and director is footnoted: from the opening quote from the Israeli writer Levin's "Requiem" from "Queuing a Handful of Sugar", to Lao Wu's use of the emotional line of the aunt in Chen Kexin's "Sweet Honey", of course, there are fellini, Fellini, Fellini throughout the text, plus, some people say that this story is a bit of a Woody Allen-style middle-class intellectual (not intellectual) sense of ridicule.

But in essence, I think the story is nothing more than in China's first-tier cities represented by Shanghai, with the integration of gender status, the development of a love affair between mature men and women how to touch each other, and the story is mainly such a group of women: not only completed the economic self-consistency, but also completed the emotional self-consistency -

Lao Bai's ex-wife Bei Bei, who cheated on a northern man in marriage that year, led to the divorce of the two. But when EX said goodbye, there was resentment and no resentment, and the fundamental reason was Bei Bei's open-minded acceptance of her own emotional desertion: I just made a mistake that many men will make, why do men make mistakes, women will give opportunities, and if I make mistakes, you will divorce me? Of course, you have been cooking for more than ten years, but don't you feel happy cooking?

As for the psychological premise of accepting life, it is that women have accepted themselves - before, their eyes were fixed on men, and all the women who scolded "smelly men" were nothing more than a variant of the complaining woman, and now, the reference has changed, the coordinate system has changed, the sky is wide, and everyone is a mottled person. This is also the reason why the old white is hard to say a word: without strengthening learning, it is really impossible to understand women.

Yes, women's views on self-esteem have also changed: although Miss Li lives in a cramped small house with her daughter and accepts the broken thoughts of her mother under the greasy lampshade, she may not be willing to accept the free housing given by the male protagonist Lao Bai, and even prefers to say that a pair of small and twenty thousand Jimmy Choo is two hundred Taobao goods, rather than owing human feelings on the condition of confusing confirmation of relationships - although women care about how many houses Lao Bai has, she is also concerned about another thing: self-esteem.

Before that, self-esteem was a specialty of men, and even when refuting "machismo", it was inevitable to carry a bit of complacency that did not lead to it. As for women with self-esteem, there is always a suspicion of being arrogant and strong, because all gender exchanges are based on men handing over materials, and women handing over other based trading rules, including self-esteem, which is why housewives are always difficult to respect the psychological mechanism - not only human snobbery, but when women are forced to choose this profession for various considerations, society has long tacitly accepted that you have crossed the self-esteem option.

And all those who have removed their self-esteem have fundamentally lost their personality and interest, just like Sun Wukong broke the pipa bone in his spirit. This is also the reason why no matter how hard they are and how hard they are, they may be able to get enough gratitude under hard work, but they cannot get the charm of personality - because the target that deserves to be respected has been removed, which is doomed to a bright face, which will only become more and more blurred in the years.

Thus, the fusion of the two sexes is also captured, because it is nothing more than the intersection of "self-esteem":

Lao Bai wanted to open a painting exhibition, but he was struggling to find a decent venue, and as a result, Miss Li and Gloria helped him get it done, and the following sentence was quite sharp -

If other men may refuse, because they are hindered by the so-called "self-esteem".

The implication is that considering the real friendship, considering our sincere kindness, considering that you really want to open a painting exhibition... What would a truly open person do? Besides, "I don't want money!" ”

In this way, Lao Bai learns women in confusion, and learns more: human beings always rudely confuse too many concepts, such as "self-esteem" and "face". Ask how many men are for the sake of face, and they seem to disregard self-esteem and are unwilling to admit that the other party is strong, which is just to admit that they are weak.

So Lao Bai generously accepted Miss Li's help, just as Miss Li would also calmly let Lao Bai pick up and drop off her daughter. Letting go of helping each other, rather than focusing on one's so-called "strengths and weaknesses", is naturally the beginning of a more relaxed relationship: not only is giving itself a kind of generosity, but acceptance itself is also a kind of sloppiness.

Therefore, some people will say, is it that as women become more and more full and light, the future of men will become less optimistic? No, on the contrary, it is precisely because of this that all good things have just begun. You know, in a relationship of on-demand transactions, women have no intention of loving anyone, including themselves, because that is survival, life, but not life - how can an individual who lacks life talk about love?

Then, the story says some heartfelt points about love, that is, is it a process of rationality constantly disciplines sensibility, or can it be appropriate to reverse - let sensibility also educate rationality?

However, the so-called process of human maturity is a process of continuously becoming rational, and there is no mystery in it, but nothing more than the repeated exercise of the rational muscles becoming more and more developed: not necessarily the ability to make brilliant decisions increases, but the ability to play balance must increase.

There is no certain good or bad thing in the world, and where reason advances, sensibility inevitably retreats. When two people begin to talk rationally about the pros and cons of love, what they are talking about has nothing to do with love.

But years can make people become complacent, and make people think that they have become wiser and wiser.

For example, Miss Li and Lao Bai hurried away after spending a night together, because she felt that the pace was too fast, and she was a person who had been educated in the previous marriage, of course, this paragraph should be carefully considered. And Gloria is even more clear-cut, after rolling the sheets with Lao Bai by mistake, she picked the relationship between the sexes very cleanly: the drawer with "friends" is filled with friends, and the drawer with "playmates" is loaded with playmates, as for feelings, not only is itself a trace, but also a high-risk cost.

The so-called young people talk about feelings, and adults talk about pros and cons, I am afraid that they are the king of the golden sentences of the greasy world. However, in addition to exuding arrogance, whether it has thought about what are the pros and cons, but it is also an uncertainty -

From the perspective of loss aversion, not starting an emotional relationship can avoid most of the "loss", but being born as a human being, the possibility of losing a relationship, losing a profound life experience, losing a challenge and unknown, is it a loss? If so, how do you convert it?

For example, Miss Li or Gloria, are all people with emotional insight, nothing more than understanding that passion always has to pass, how to face it later, in the end of trouble, then pinch the head and go to the end, avoid trouble, but in fact, when we feel that love is very troublesome, it is really troublesome: because although there are not many things of some value in the world, they are almost all quite troublesome.

Therefore, many adult decisions are in the pouring of bath water will inevitably dump the baby, most of the emotional choices are either to suffer from loss or self-use. And as long as you take a step back, the wise will appear foolish, and the stupid will appear to have great wisdom.

Originally, the probability of true love happening is very small, and if true love happens and the time and place are favorable, it is even smaller than the probability of the singularity of the Big Bang.

The ignorant are fearless, but the fearless are not necessarily ignorant, but often people who really have a little unique understanding.

This is also why in the end, everyone watched Fellini's "Love Myth" and saw it, but Miss Li decided to drink coffee with Lao Bai: life is cramped, and she does not bother to leave any opportunity for human wisdom to regret it, and the regret of missing a person abounds, if you are appeased, it should be.

Why? Because the proudest thing is always love, because love, even if it is wrong, represents the correct possibility of spiritual life. Just as wise men like Victor Hugo ultimately want the city of Paris to be named after him, love still intends to exist in his name.

As for the small victory at the end of the movie, it is nothing more than a little victory of sensibility to educate reason, nothing more than a little victory of being a person who is bright and upright and has open feelings, which is why miss Li dares to love, and everyone is also happy - not afraid of trouble, it is relaxed, relaxed, sincere, sincere, it has already won: an easy victory living on ideas, a simple victory of secular life.

Finally, considering that life is originally an increase in entropy, the occurrence of love is itself a myth, and as for the next page of the myth- it is better to use the sentence just now: Since it is a myth, then all that is good has always just begun.