In August 2005, a newspaper in Tianjin serialized the story of an unmarried mother for 14 consecutive days. The story caused an uproar in the local area and caused a sensation. The mother in this story was only 26 years old at the time, but had already had 3 children. But she was not a successful, avant-garde woman, but in the case of being deceived, she gave birth to 3 children as a third party for a man who was 16 years older than her.
Shortly after the birth of his third child, the man actually disappeared. The mother was penniless and had no job, and she had to sue the court to raise her children. At the same time, she also submitted to the newspaper, hoping that someone could accept her children and raise three children with her. In return, she was willing to spend her life with this man.
The woman's tragic experience is shocking, and her solution is surprising, but the reason why this story can cause so much repercussions is because of her identity. She was once a gifted girl who was received by the leadership in the Great Hall of the People, and now she is reduced to a single mother who raises children by men, becoming a female version of Wounded Zhongyong. The huge disparity between the two identities makes people sigh and can't help but ask, what has happened behind her back for so many years?
The father looked forward to jackie chan, and his childhood was not happy
In 1979, Pang Xiuyu was born in Tianjin. His father, Pang Yi, believed that he had never met him, and he loved to read since he was a child, and there were thousands of books in the narrow space of the family. He is also full of confidence in his literary literacy. But reading and writing level are not the same thing. After experiencing many unsuccessful submissions, Pang Yi confessed his fate, and he felt that perhaps spending his life in the factory was his destiny. Even if you are extremely unwilling, you can only be an ordinary worker in the factory safely and steadily.
The birth of his daughter gave him other hopes. "I'm not appreciated, but I want to raise my daughter well." With this idea, when Pang Xiuyu was less than one year old, Pang Yi began various educations. When she could not speak, her father began to read her various poems, essays, and novels. Just when she was able to grasp things, her father began to let her learn to hold and carry pens. At the age of three, most of the children did not speak well, but Pang Xiuyu began to contact mathematics, learning to recognize words and memorize ancient poems.
In the early 80s, it was far from respecting the wishes of children as they are now. At that time, most parents did not cultivate the awareness of their children. In contrast, Pang Xiuyu is particularly prominent. When she first started elementary school, she was already fluent in reciting many ancient poems, and she did a good job of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division. The praise of the teacher and the envy of other parents made Pang Yi more confident, and he felt that his training plan had been successful. A genius prodigy, such praise fills the place where Pang Xiuyu is.
Pang Yi then proposed a more demanding plan. The plan is even bizarre, shocking even today's parents. Because his requirements for Pang Xiuyu have exceeded the development rules of normal children, he requires 10-year-old Pang Xiuyu to write thousands of words of articles every day.
Girls are becoming famous, but their parents are divorced
Pang Yi not only supervises Pang Xiuyu's studies every day, but also submits her articles to various newspapers and periodicals. Unlike their own submissions, most of these manuscripts were published under the aura of a talented girl. Pang Yi saw that the article had been published, and he knew that greater fame and fortune were beckoning to him.
After some planning, he began to frequently take his daughter to various activities. Pang Xiuyu's reputation became louder and louder, and finally, the Tianjin Writers Association also issued an invitation to her. After becoming the youngest member of the Tianjin Writers Association, Pang Yi made a big fuss and compiled the articles published by his daughter into a booklet, named "Hope", and photocopied and published.
From the current point of view, Pang Yi is definitely a qualified broker. On the road to his daughter's fame, his design was successful at every step. In 1993, Pang also won the scholarship of the "Soong Ching Ling Foundation". In 1994, at the age of 15, she was named one of the "Top Ten Literary Teenagers in China", and the award ceremony was held at the Great Hall of the People in Beijing, and for a while, Pang Xiuyu's reputation reached its peak, and the name of this talented girl was known to the whole country.
After becoming famous, Pang's father was keen to take his daughter to attend various activities, and at this time Pang Xiuyu was just a teenager, and she more often did not have any excited expression when she attended the event, like a puppet who was manipulated. Maybe after her father's praise, she can show a sincere smile.
But after his daughter became famous, Pang's father seemed to forget that his daughter was only in junior high school. A large number of activities take up her study time. After the second year of junior high school, her grades have been difficult to keep up with everyone's progress, and at the same time, she has also developed a feeling of boredom. Father Pang watched Pang Xiuyu's activities decrease significantly, and not only did not seize the time to help her resume her learning progress, but because she could not earn money, she began to drink heavily at home. After a drunken time, the parents began to quarrel again, and after this quarrel, the father even began to punch and kick Pang Xiuyu's mother and daughter at home. Finally, when Pang Xiuyu was 15 years old, her parents divorced.
The mother has a cowardly personality and her life is gradually out of control
After her father left home, Pang Xiuyu's life did not improve. From a talented girl to a poor student with backward grades, this huge gap made her mentality completely collapse. She could not accept the strange eyes of the crowd and chose to drop out of school.
During Pang Xiuyu's young fame, her mother's presence was not strong. Because Pang Mu is just an ordinary housewife. But even though she did not have any financial ability, when she divorced, Pang's mother still obtained the custody of Pang Xiuyu. Mother and daughter are dependent on each other, and if they can live in peace and stability, it is also another quiet life.
Soon after the divorce, Pang Mu was diagnosed with severe diabetes. At the time of the divorce, Pang Mu did not get much money, plus she did not have financial resources. The deposit was soon stretched. In order to solve the problems of life, Pang Xiuyu began to look for a job. Pang Xiuyu thought that with her fame and writing level, it would not be difficult to find a job. But she ignored the fact that she didn't even have a junior high school diploma.
In the end, she only found a job as a waiter. Earning money with your own hands and eating with your own labor is not a shame. But Pang Xiuyu could not accept it. She couldn't accept how she had fallen to this point. In self-pity, she met a man she would never forget for the rest of her life, who was 16 years older than her.
When I first met, this man often came to the restaurant to pick her up from work, asked her out to play, and told her that he wanted to provide her with school, and Pang Xiuyu seemed to see that life was slowly getting better again and was on the right track. She can go back to the life she had before she was 14. She could go to high school and college on a step-by-step basis, sitting in a bright office building doing the white-collar work that everyone envies, instead of washing dishes in a small restaurant now.
When she got home, she told her mother, who was dependent on her, all this. Her mother had a vague worry. My daughter is too young to be an adult. But looking at her daughter's childish face and glowing eyes, she knew that her daughter had fallen. She didn't dare to say too much against it, and she knew that her daughter had her own drag on getting to this point. She wasn't meant to be a brave mom. The husband scolded her daughter when she couldn't finish her homework, and she didn't dare to come forward. Now I still have to count on my daughter, let alone say anything.
Falling into the sweet trap and giving birth to three children
Soon, Pang Xiuyu fell into the sweet trap of the man. One night, he asked Pang Xiuyu to have dinner with him. On the way, he poured wine for Pang Xiuyu to drink. Pang Xiuyu is just a teenage girl, where has she drunk alcohol? But a small cup down her stomach, she felt the sky spinning. When he woke up the next day, there was this man lying next to him, and Pang Xiuyu lost himself to this man.
She burst into tears and determined an alternative choice. She believed the fact that he only did it because he loved her too much, and believed in her promise to marry her when she became an adult. In this way, they became a nominal couple.
After Pang Mu knew, she felt that the sky had collapsed. But the daughter no longer listened to any of her opinions. So be it, this man gives them living expenses. Although the living expenses given are really not much, they are only enough.
But after they were together, the man did not keep his promise and let Pang Xiuyu go to college, but let Pang Xiuyu get pregnant. Before the age of 20, Pang Xiuyu became a mother, still an unmarried mother. By 2000, at the age of 21, Ms. Pang had given birth to three children. When acquaintances saw Pang Xiuyu, they couldn't recognize that this was the talented girl who was radiant, confident and generous. I could only see a bleak and tired mother, and only occasionally could I tell from the childish eyes that this mother was not very old.
The man also lost patience with her, although Pang Xiuyu had reached the legal age of marriage and did not mention the matter of marriage. In 2001, after an argument, the man simply disappeared. Ms. Pang, 22, and her mother, with three children, simply could not go out to work. She couldn't even do it as a waiter, so she had to turn to society for help.
Start a new family and avoid a repeat of the tragedy
In 2005, she mailed a marriage notice to the newspaper, hoping that someone would help her raise her three children together. She had only one request, hoping that the other person would be older than fifty.
Looking at Pang Xiuyu's marriage announcement, we don't know whether it is because Pang Xiuyu feels that only older men can accept her, or because her father never gave her the fatherly love she really needed during Pang Xiuyu's growth, which led to her being more attached to older men.
Later, Pang Xiuyu found a man of about 50 years old, he helped her raise the child, and she took care of the housework for him. But how long can this relationship last, and if it doesn't last, does she need to drift to another man? These will only be known later.
Pang Xiuyu's tragedy appears to be a contemporary version of Wounded Zhongyong. But digging in, we see that her parents did more than just give her the wrong education, but also didn't give her real love and respect. Her father raised her, only to use her as his own tool, and by virtue of his daughter's reputation as a genius girl, he made every effort to make a name for himself. Her mother never gave her proper guidance and planning, leaving her astray as a teenager and having children as a minor, leading to repeated tragedies.
Pang Xiuyu is 43 years old this year, her life is still going on, and her story is not over. In any case, she did not abandon her three children. I hope that her parents will improve the wrong way of educating her here, and I hope that she can heal herself in the process of raising her children, and do not have the next injury!