There is a saying:
"There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart."
Indeed, walking in the world, everyone may be disguising themselves.
When you are good to each other, you may feel that everyone is a good person, but when it comes to interests, you will find:
A person who is gentle on the outside may be sinister and fierce on the inside; a person who was still called a brother at the last moment may turn around and calculate you.
As the saying goes: "The tiger and leopard are not easy to ride, and the hearts of the people are separated from the belly." ”
So how can you really see a person through the disguise of the other party?
In fact, it is not too difficult to really understand a person, just look at the following three moments.
Pay back the money to see the character
I've seen a sentence like this:
"The people of the world are panicked, but it is just a few pieces of silver, but this piece of silver can solve the world's sorrow."
In this world, money is very important to everyone, and one person can lend money to another person for no reason, which can be said to have a deep friendship and great trust in it.
If someone fails to live up to this friendship and trust in order not to repay the money, then it can only mean that there is no conscience in his heart at all.
Such a person can only make himself difficult in the end.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A woman, when one of her friends was at its most difficult, lent her friend 200,000 yuan, and for three years, because she believed in her friend's personality, and she was not in a hurry to use the money, so she did not rush to return.
Later, when her children got married and bought a house, and she was in urgent need of money, she thought of finding a friend to get the money back.
But every time she called her friend, the friend pushed back, today pushed tomorrow, tomorrow pushed the day after tomorrow, anyway, it is not to pay back.
In the end, she had no choice but to block her friend's house, and her friend played tricks, and finally returned 180,000 yuan for 200,000.
Seeing this story reminds me of a sentence that Mr. Lin Yutang said:
"When he borrows a man's debt, his face is like a beggar, and when he is claimed by a man, he is like a king."
In fact, in real life, when borrowing money, it is the grandson, and when the money is repaid, there are not a few people who are uncles.
Such a person not only does not understand gratitude, but also has problems with virtue, and it is enough to suffer a loss once.
The lows are in the heart
The world says:
"Your trough is your mirror, how many people stay, how many people are active."
It's heartfelt, but it's real.
Maybe when you are young, bright, and brilliant, you feel that the whole world is very beautiful, and everyone seems to be happy with you and treat you sincerely.
But all this apparent sincerity is not real.
In the TV series "Flowing Golden Years", Jiang Nansun was initially a girl with a wealthy family and a carefree life.
At her brightest time, she not only had her boyfriend Zhang Anren, who was obedient to her, but also many good classmates and friends.
But then when her family changed, her father not only lost his family property but also owed a large debt because of stock speculation.
When she needed help the most, she thought she would help her boyfriend, and instead of reaching out, she was eager to break up with her.
Only her girlfriend Zhu Suosuo always accompanied her and survived with her.
Saying goes:
"It's easy to add flowers, but it's hard to send charcoal in the snow."
When people are proud of the spring breeze, the beauty of all people's hearts is wearing filters, and the true feelings at this time may not be real.
And when people are at a low point, everyone will show you the original appearance, then you will know who the last person who stays with you is, and who is really treating you.
Profit meets human nature
As the old saying goes:
"The world is bustling, all for profit, the world is bustling, all are for profit."
If there is anything in the world that best reflects the quality of a person's human nature, then profit is definitely the best touchstone.
If you have a person around you who becomes selfish and unkind once it comes to profit, then such a person has no friendship to speak of.
When you're valuable, he'll probably smile at you.
But once there is no benefit in you, he can turn his face and walk away ruthlessly at any time, and you will pay a heavy price.
My friend David once told such an experience.
When he first started his business, he had a partner. The two worked together, worked together, got along very happily, and he always regarded this partner as someone who could be trusted behind his back.
But then something happened that made him completely change his opinion, and once there was a very important project, and the profits of the project would be very substantial.
However, this partner secretly took the project plan behind his back to talk about the project alone, but fortunately he found out that he did not let the other party succeed.
It was this incident that made Dawei completely recognize it, and then broke off the partnership.
Some people say: "Profit is the most human nature." ”
In the face of huge interests, a bad person does not consider the feelings of others at all, and even they will completely betray the friendship for the sake of interests.
Such a person is quite dangerous, and you must stay away early when you encounter it, otherwise it must be you who will be hurt in the end.
Bacon said:
"The evaluation of a person should not be judged by his wealth and status, let alone by his knowledge, but by his true character."
In getting along with people, from the above three moments, you can best see a person.
When you see it clearly, if the other party is not worth your heart to intersect, then you must know how to stop the loss in time.
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