Source | Xiaoju Xuetang (ID: xiaojuxuetang)
"My dad is Li Gang!"
Behind this "worst daddy in history" quote is a major traffic accident case in which parents personally sent their children to prison.
On October 16, 2010, in front of a supermarket in Hebei University New District, 22-year-old Li Qiming was driving drunk and hit two girls on campus, one dead and one injured.
After the incident, he did not repent, and said wildly: "Look at the scratch of my car!" Do you know who my dad is? My dad is Li Gang! You have the ability to sue! ”
Not surprisingly, after the incident, he was scolded by the whole network, and his father Li Gang also became the target of public criticism, was ridiculed by the netizen group, became the most popular red person of the year, and was also named the "four famous fathers".
After 6 years in prison, Li Qiming was released after completing his sentence, and his father was also removed from his post and ran away from home after the incident, and he has never been contacted, and he has not been heard from so far.
He was in front of the prison gate and no one greeted him.
When he returned home, he learned that his father had long since disappeared. While he was in prison, his father never visited him.
After he was released from prison, he tried to find a job, but hit a wall several times. Many companies have flinched when they see that he has a history of serving a sentence.
There are also some companies that know that he is the protagonist of the "my father is Li Gang" incident and respect him.
For the first time, Li Qiming experienced the feeling of being suppressed and discriminated against.
This feeling was something I had never imagined when I was empty-eyed.
In order to survive, he found a job painting the walls and made a living from it.
Although the work of painting walls is hard, the money earned can support itself.
Eleven years after the crime, when people saw Li Qiming again, he was still painting the walls and staining his work clothes, and he could no longer find the shadow of the second generation of officials.
Over-spoiling by parents is the most direct and effective way to destroy a child or even an entire family.
In "The Boy Says", a high school sophomore named Hao Ruihan complained that he was a high-business and incompetent person as soon as he came up, because his parents and grandparents really spoiled her.
When she was a child, she couldn't use chopsticks, and her parents gave her a spoon.
Even now, she doesn't use chopsticks very much.
Even plugging in a power supply, I was worried that she would be electrocuted if she accidentally.
When I saw that my classmates would pick out various styles of clothes by themselves, and I didn't even know what the type of clothes was;
When I see that my classmates will tie their own braids of various styles, and I will only wear ponytails;
When I see that my classmates will make up their minds about their own affairs, and I will even ask you to decide the small things.
Beware of your doting and eventually let "hate" turn into the end.
Since ancient times, China has had proverbs such as "habitual children are like killing children" and "loving mothers are many losers".
"Dream of the Red Chamber" Xue Pan, pampered, doting, and conniving by the widowed mother Wang Clan, was idle all day, fighting cocks and horses, buying Yinglian, and killing Feng Yuan, all regarded as child's play, and from childhood to him, he did everything to make him later become a "dumb overlord".
Children are not accustomed to it, and children's filial piety is often because of the pampering habits of adults.
As the "Book of the Later Han Dynasty, The Tale of Qiu Lan" said, "The lone calf touches the milk, and the proud son scolds the mother" says:
Because he is an only son, a person is pampered by his mother, from coddling to resisting, from resisting to scolding his mother, and finally developing to beating his mother.
One day, when the tits of a cow were covered in blood, it turned out that they had been touched by the horns of calves, and someone said, "Cows are beasts, but some people are not even as good as animals." ”
The flywheel of history is always spinning, playing the same story...
Parents' doting is to push their children into danger step by step, and spoiling their children too much will only make them become self-centered, selfish and unsympathetic, arrogant, do not understand tolerance, and cannot stand grievances.
They don't even know how to be polite, they don't have elders, and they don't have a mouth.
When they need to face unbearable punishment, the most unforgivable are their parents who once held them firmly in their arms.
As parents, the best we can give our children is not to shield them, help them cover up their mistakes, solve their problems, but help them establish correct values and teach them the truth of being human:
Bonsai Hideki was spoiled for someone to shatter his dream of becoming a pillar of power. Don't let your love for your child turn into a weapon to hurt your child!
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