Understand the laws of desire and use them rationally! Instead of being manipulated by desire

It is said that people's desires are a bottomless pit, they get what they want at a certain stage, they will think of getting another, they want to get rich when they have no money, they want to have emotional comfort when they get rich, they want to live forever with feelings, they want to live forever, they want fame, they want to be profitable.



So what's the reason for that? Is there a way to crack it?

Let's explore and discuss it together

First of all, such events are very common in life, for example, two people together, there will be many different periods, for example, at the beginning of your nong, I can not do without me, I can not do without your sweet love period, and then will slowly enter a period of mutual dissatisfaction, contradictions, and then if handled properly, the two may return to the tepid period of blandness, and spend the rest of the time together, if not handled properly, it may be because of the outbreak of contradictions, parting ways.

Why can't two people be in love all the time?

This question has a lot to do with what we were going to discuss at the beginning, because a psychological effect is at work, called a diminishing marginal effect.

From a psychological point of view, this effect means that people will have a very strong reaction to something that has not been touched before, after the first contact, and the intensity of this reaction will gradually decrease due to the gradual increase in the number of contacts.

For example, drug addicts, we will see in various news, film and television dramas or public service advertisements, the first time drug addicts take drugs, the feeling is very strong, and then to achieve the first kind of stimulation needs more drugs than the first time, and then want to get that sense of stimulation, you need more and more drugs, increasing step by step, until the excessive consumption of drugs leads to the loss of life.

Back to the emotional problems of the two people just now, it is the same formula, the same truth, and many emotional articles talk about maintaining an appropriate distance and a certain sense of mystery between people in order to cope with this effect.

Because if you want to get the feeling before, you need more effort, it is also increasing step by step, so it will lead to more and more difficulties for both parties to get satisfaction from each other, and in the case that both sides are trying to make each other satisfied, both sides will also feel exhausted, physically and mentally exhausted, thus triggering contradictions, quarrels, only by returning to plain, maintaining a suitable distance, reducing the disappearance of feelings between the two sides, or developing into a feeling model similar to family affection can avoid parting ways.

I want to talk about this here, everyone has their own understanding of this effect.

This effect is universal and will exist in all aspects of our lives, just as everything has its two-sidedness, and this effect has its duality.

After understanding its characteristics, we can reasonably apply it to our lives and improve our life experience.

We have no effective way to resolve the sensory blunting brought about by this effect, but we can rationally use our resources, money, feelings, etc., to plan reasonably, so that we can maximize the efficiency they can achieve.

For example, in the relationship between the two people just mentioned, maintaining a suitable distance is to plan feelings reasonably.

In addition, this effect can also be used in our favor, such as your curiosity, eagerness to learn and other positive things.

Because of this effect, we will pursue more and better knowledge, which is the advantage.

I believe that after you know this effect, you can think about it well, let this knowledge play its positive effect, and people's desires will bring us misfortune, and can also bring us success and progress.

I wish you a happy life!