Sayings：
Have you ever had a time when you "felt like life was stuck"?
I don't like my current job and don't know what I want to do;
Stable than in his early 20s, but also encountered a more difficult problem to break through: "Can I only do this in my life?" ”
The older you get, the more worried you get: "Can you find better breakups?" Will you end up alone? ”
Once people have passed the age of 25, it is easy to fall into a state of stagnation and repetition, "can not go up and down", anxiety about the future is particularly obvious.
Today, we have 5 young people like this, and I really like the way they face life:
The moment you break up, change careers, resign, go to your PhD...
You will find that just one-third of life has passed, and it is the time to get up with enough energy;
Only a third of life has passed, and it is time for everything to come.
Here's their "1/3 life story."
@Cherry Balls | 33 years old, teacher
Before giving birth, the job was to import and export book editors, with a monthly salary of 3000, and the benefits were very good.
After giving birth to the baby, because she had to go home to breastfeed every day, the baby often got sick and couldn't take care of it, and finally she was cut.
Took a year of compensation at home with a baby, a belt is 7 years. Although my husband also thinks that it is not easy for me to cook with my baby, it is difficult for me to calmly stagnate in this state.
Fear of being eliminated by society, fear of not having an income, fear of not being able to keep up with the minds of working women, fear of not being able to find a job when the baby goes to school...
In order to overcome anxiety, I have tried to maintain contact with the outside world over the years.
Sold cosmetics on the free timeline;
She insisted on reading books while she was sleeping, and took the teacher's qualification certificate;
Spend money on various courses and follow the punch card to read.
△ Daily with a baby
This year, my mother-in-law came to take the baby, and I found a job as a primary school teacher.
My husband and mother-in-law feel that the family is not worse than my salary, it is better to concentrate on taking the baby.
But I insisted on going out to work.
Because I hate being anxious and stagnant at home, I even introduce myself as "XX mom" without any label of my own.
Although I still earn 3,000 a month, I am at least a teacher and have a social identity.
△ The flowers received by the students on Teacher's Day are smiling and blossoming
@Fan De Yibiao | 33 years old, university teacher
When I was in my 20s, I quit school and ran to the temple to become a monk.
Before I went, I was physically and mentally exhausted by my studies, had a serious stomach problem, and took a lot of medicines that could not be cured.
I studied medicine and knew that physical pain could be caused by psychological problems in addition to illness.
So as soon as I saw the temple recruitment, I didn't hesitate much and immediately took a break from school.
Cleaning at the temple during the day and practicing mindfulness at night, concentrating on one thing at a time, especially relaxing.
Went for two weeks, the stomach disease healed, I was ecstatic, emotions are very important to the body.
Meet people who come to draw lots, chat with them, there are disfigured, those who have no money to go to school, those who are seriously ill...
If you see too many unfortunate things, people will suddenly figure out a lot of things.
What is a PhD? In the lives of these people, it is simply not worth mentioning, and I want to go back and try again.
After returning to school, people were like being opened to light, and with only half a year left + super relaxed mentality, they completed the project that took 3 years to complete, and successfully graduated.
This was something you didn't dare to think about before, you thought that stopping meant losing, but in fact you opened up the road under your feet.
@Miss Meow | 26 years old, design supervisor
My ex and I were in a long-distance relationship and we talked for 4 years.
After meeting both parents, buying a new house for renovation, 20 days before receiving the license, he said that he still could not make up his mind to get married.
I was depressed for 3 months, lost 30 pounds, and fell into self-doubt and insomnia.
After the decent separation, I often partyed with friends, exercised wildly, and worked hard overtime, not thinking about it too much.
Finally, I saved enough money and bought a house in Lanzhou.
The down payment is 19 W, the mortgage is 3K a month, accounting for more than half of the monthly salary, and the pressure is still quite large.
But I still believe that after dawn is the dawn, and today I finally got the title deed.
Although A person's life needs to be adapted, I have a home that truly belongs to me.
@Yvette | 25 years old, finance
I went abroad at the age of 18, spent 5 and a half years abroad, and returned to Beijing at the end of 2019.
But since my boyfriend returned from studying abroad, he suddenly felt a lot of constraints in living in this city.
Family, parents, and future days are at a glance, as if they have suddenly lived a "married life".
It seems that the 18-year-old who dragged his suitcase to a foreign country to study has become unselfish.
Just when the position could be transferred to Shanghai, I applied with the company to change to Shanghai.
Many people may feel that beijing natives have natural advantages, why find themselves guilty?
I want to have a little more life experience in another city, I'm only 26 years old and it's all too late. In December, we completed all the formalities for going to Shanghai and rented the house we wanted.
At the end of the year, the two "Beijing natives" will officially join the ranks of "Shanghai Drift".
I am 26 years old after New Year's Eve, and I am very happy that I can still make such a "youthful" and "unsolicited" decision.
△ The luggage to Shanghai was stuffed with a car, and we were going to roadtrip over
@Ayu 29 years old teacher
I studied pedagogy in college, and after finishing my studies in Beijing, I returned to Miaozhai, Guizhou, as a teacher, and stayed for 3 years.
In the past 3 years, in addition to attending classes, I have also spent a lot of effort to alleviate poverty, such as:
Let the children who dropped out of school return to school; let the children who did not have the money to go to school find one-on-one targeted donations.
Not only do you have to deal with complex interpersonal relationships with the school, but you also have to take 30 classes a week, and you have toss and turn every day, but the progress is very slow.
I want to go to the outside world to see, want to know whether there is a better solution to the problems encountered in rural education in different countries and regions, and want to accumulate different experiences from a different perspective.
After passing the International Chinese Teacher Qualification Certificate and various interviews, I went to Lisbon to work as a Chinese teacher.
To be honest, the difficulties encountered in foreign countries are even greater, in addition to language, there are various rental and tax problems.
But I think that when my mentality becomes stronger, the various problems I have encountered before will not be too difficult, and I can come back and continue to do the rural education I like. I believe that there must be a life that can no longer be forced by time or money to return to the essence of human beings; there must also be a life that can contribute to society while being yourself.
【Write at the end】
Recently, I saw an American writer Herbert Marcuse write a book called "The One-Dimensional Man" suddenly became an internet celebrity book.
There is a passage in it that is quite in line with the theme of today's conversation:
"The advanced industrial society has successfully suppressed the negative, critical, and transcendent dimensions in people's minds, making this society a one-dimensional society, and the people who live in it become one-dimensional people.
Such people lose their freedom and creativity and no longer imagine or pursue another life that is different from real life. ”
We can understand it as:
The binding of secular values and stereotypes of success make the appearance of the "good life" more and more monolithic.
In contrast, the courage to change is becoming more and more valuable.
But I still hope that you will be brave enough to find the ideal way of life in your heart.
Because compared to the expectations attached to you by the outside world, only you know the true needs of your heart.
In 1/3 of life, some people choose to live according to the traditional age timeline, but others choose to try very differently.
This time, we and Lexus New Generation NX filmed a short film "Another Way to Live" to record the entanglement and excitement of this generation before life choices, and you may also find your own shadow after watching it.
When there is no limit to ideas, the "enjoyment" method can set no limit. As the opening work carrying the next chapter of Lexus, the new generation of NX condenses the inheritance and innovation of Lexus, integrates the latest electrification technology of Lexus, and launches the first plug-in hybrid model of Lexus, further enriching its electrification product lineup, opening a new chapter of electrification, and entering a better era.
If life is really a platform, we would also like to say to you:
Crowded carriages are not necessarily lonely, and choosing your favorite scenery and destination will make the journey more worthwhile.
Written by: Rather
Editor-in-charge: Yuan Sandian
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