Sasha and her boyfriend Xiaolei work in the same wedding company, one is responsible for the makeup design of the bride and groom, and the other is responsible for taking beautiful photos of the newlyweds.
Over the course of several years, they don't know how many pairs of brides and grooms have come and gone.
Whenever the bride at the wedding scene is seen standing next to the handsome groom in a white and flawless wedding dress, the groom takes out the ring with affection and asks, "Will you marry me?" Sasha whispered in her heart offstage, "I do." ”
How she wished that one day the protagonist standing on the stage would be herself, and it was Xiao Lei who asked this sentence with the ring.
She and Xiao Lei have gone through ups and downs for five years, eaten countless meals together, gone to the playground countless times together, held hands together countless times, and have also been urged to marry countless times by the parents of both sides.
But Sasha knew that the reason why Xiao Lei had not moved for so many years was because she had not yet been able to enter Xiao Lei's heart.
Xiao Lei had a first love, because he died of illness, and he was sad for a long time.
Sasha had only seen a picture of the girl, Dan Phoenix's eyes, and smiled with two deep dimples.
Once it was late after a party between Sasha and her friends, Sasha took a taxi downstairs alone, and was preparing to jump upstairs, when she ran into Xiao Lei, who was looking around at the entrance of the community.
She thought in her heart that her boyfriend was still quite concerned about people, but Xiao Lei whispered in a beautiful way: "If she had been, she would have been afraid and would have called me several times." ”
The "she" in Xiao Lei's mouth is the first love with dimples.
In addition to work, Xiao Lei likes to stay at home, a cup of Coke, a popcorn, a movie is his continuous happiness.
Xiao Lei especially likes an old movie, and once pulled Sasha to watch it with great interest.
Sasha just couldn't see two minutes and yawned, and complained to Xiao Lei: "This is the worst film I've ever seen, why don't you go out and let the wind out with you watching the film here?" ”
Xiao Lei sighed heavily and stared intently at the screen without speaking again.
Since then, Xiao Lei has never asked Sasha to watch old movies at home together.
Sometimes Sasha did not take the initiative to show her to watch with him, but Xiao Lei refused for various reasons, not salty or light.
Later, I heard Xiao Lei's friends say that my first love also likes to watch old movies.
Although Sasha and Xiaolei are lovers, familiar with each other, and have lived together for three years, they always feel that something is missing.
Take some examples in life, Xiao Lei's iron brothers can always get his attention on important days.
For example, for birthdays, Xiao Lei will prepare gifts in advance and push off various things to celebrate on the same day;
For example, on National Day, Xiao Lei will stay a few days for good buddies, play ball together, and travel.
Sasha especially can't understand this kind of behavior, as a girlfriend, it is reasonable to say that she is the person xiao lei should pay the most attention to.
On Sasha's birthday, the two had a very unpleasant quarrel and had a big fight.
The cause is that Sasha complains that the gifts given by Xiao Lei are not what she wants.
"Obviously I told you the necklace I wanted a month in advance," Sasha said in a loud voice and in a very bad tone.
Xiao Lei was angry, and his tone was cold: "A necklace is more than ten thousand, you when I open a bank?" ”
Sasha felt aggrieved and angry: "I am your girlfriend, am I not willing to spend this money?" ”
Xiao Lei immediately blurted out: "She has knitted scarves for me, saved money to buy me sneakers, and sent me rib soup, so what have you bought for me?" ”
This sentence deeply pierced Sasha.
Sasha has given five years of youth, and she can't beat a first love who has been together for less than a year and is no longer alive.
It wasn't that Sasha didn't make an effort, but that above the door in Xiao Lei's heart, it seemed that countless locks had been added, and no matter what he did, he would never be able to go in.
If a man wants to notice a girl at the first glance in the crowd, or have a good feeling for this girl at a glance, take care of his hair, put on a beautiful makeup, and wear a beautiful skirt, there is a high probability that he can attract it.
But if you compare feelings to a sports event, the charm of appearance is undoubtedly a beautiful ticket.
Being able to enter the market does not mean that you are the ultimate winner of nine out of ten.
"How to fully display the inner strength in the venue and leave a deep mark on the hearts of men?" This is the secret that unconsciously enters the hearts of men.
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Stimulates a desire to protect
Men are naturally protective of women and want to use their abilities to protect their beloved.
Even if it is to help twist the bottle cap, help carry the courier, help carry a bag of rice, can stimulate the man's inner responsibility switch, so that he wants to take care of the girl in front of him more and more.
Many girls like to be strong in their relationships and feel that everything can be done independently.
Work vigorously, do not drag mud with water;
In life, he can cook, do housework, change light bulbs, and pass the toilet.
Completely unable to integrate into the lives of girls, their innate desire to protect will be useless.
Therefore, smart girls will be good at creating scenes that fully stimulate men's desire for protection.
For example, Xiao Lei's first love, when he walks alone on the road in the dark of the day, he will always call Xiao Lei to express how scared he is on the road alone.
Over time, Xiao Lei developed the habit of worrying about her and even taking the initiative to pick her up.
Even after so many years, this habit still unconsciously continued, which shows how deeply this scene impresses Xiao Lei.
Maybe after more than ten years have passed, I can still think of the girl who is afraid to call herself, and say in a soft and weak voice: "Can you come to pick me up, I am too scared to walk." ”
Whether it is really scared or not, this cute voice can instantly arouse the heroism in the man's heart.
It can also make men solve all difficulties, and the incarnation of super Spider-Man is eager to come to her side to protect her in the next second.
2
Co-frequency resonance
The principle of same-frequency resonance in psychology means that things with the same frequency will resonate and will also resonate.
Especially in the feelings of men and women, if their own charm has the same frequency, more deeply with the same values and consciousness, then this same frequency is easy to produce a lasting spark.
The one who applies this theory to the fullest should belong to Prince Charles's good friend Camilla.
Camilla is not as beautiful as Diana, and in the eyes of everyone, it is impossible to match the royal noble Prince Charles.
But one of the reasons why Camilla is so old and still sits firmly in the most important position in Prince Charles's heart is that she has the ability to make Prince Charles happy.
Prince Charles loves horsemanship, and Camilla loves it more than he does, or from the bottom of his heart.
Charles loves quiet, and in Camilla he gets the peace he wants and can be himself to the fullest.
On the Internet, there was also such a video:
A couple was eating in a restaurant, and the husband sitting next door did not know why he suddenly became angry, reached out and hit his wife, who could not dodge and fell to the ground.
The boy in the couple rushed over to stop the husband, and the girl ran to his wife at almost the same time and picked her up.
This little couple has a very high degree of tacit understanding, but also has the same three views, one look is the type that can go on for a long time.
Xiao Lei likes to watch old movies, Sasha does not like to watch it, and also negates Xiao Lei's interest hobby.
This inevitably makes Xiao Lei contrast, and he and his first love can do things of interest and talk about topics of interest.
The same frequency not only talks about more topics, boys are more willing to tell their true thoughts, willing to spend more time with girls.
After all, only people with the same frequency can see each other's innermost thoughts, understand each other's unspoken meanings, and understand all the strange behaviors of each other.
3
Give for love
We always emphasize that we can't give too much in the relationship, and the party who pays more is always more likely to be hurt, but this does not mean that in love only ask for returns, the behavior of not giving at all.
In the eyes of boys, if they are not willing to give at all, they will doubt whether the girl is sincere about the relationship, whether she needs to be honest with each other, and whether she needs to be wary.
The best feelings are that there are words to respond to, and there are rewards for giving.
Both parties can be nourished in the relationship, so it is easier to keep the feelings alive in this way.
The effort that boys expect to get is not necessarily material, and sometimes a few words can also make boys move.
A male friend once said something like this:
The girlfriend's shoes were stained by the rain on the street, and the friend naturally bought her a pair of shoes.
The shoes are actually not expensive, but the girlfriend is very happy, put on the shoes and turned around a few times, and then said to this friend: "Honey, do you know where these shoes look good?" ”
The friend looked left and right, and shook his head incomprehensibly: "Isn't this a very ordinary style?" ”
The girlfriend continued: "It is indeed a very ordinary style, but it is a careful shoe that you immediately buy without hesitation when you see that my shoes are dirty, and I can feel the warmth and care you bring me when I wear it." ”
Paying for love, in addition to loving words, can also be the details of love in getting along.
For example, giving a warm hug when you are depressed, such as a bowl of soup delivered in the cold winter.
Not necessarily how grand it is and how much energy it takes, but some small details can melt men's hearts more, so that they can open their hearts and get closer and closer to each other.
"Sun Tzu's Art of War" said that "attacking the city first attacks people", so attacking people must also attack the heart first.
Only by understanding men's thinking and flexibly using these secrets can we truly enter men's hearts and make feelings sweeter and sweeter.
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Author | Liu Wan loves words, likes psychology, pays attention to personal spiritual growth, is currently engaged in educational work, immersed in the study of gender relations and women's self-improvement, and hopes that through words, everyone will have new feelings and harvests for feelings.