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I have seen such a sentence: "Your value determines your position in the hearts of others." ”
People interact with each other, on the one hand, the integration of feelings, on the other hand, the exchange of values. If you don't have anything, then you're doomed to have no money and no connections.
It is very realistic that you have no value, and the original circle of contacts will slowly leave you. The alienation of adults, not even a greeting.
Interpersonal communication, on the surface, eating, drinking, and chatting, is actually a process of fighting wits and courage.
Therefore, really intelligent people know how to "take advantage" of the value of others.
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"Take advantage" of the value of lovers, like a tiger.
The writer YouJin once told a story: on the island of Kenivata in the Pacific Ocean, there was a rich merchant named Johnny. It is reasonable to say that the rich businessman wanted to find a wife, and he chose and chose, but he found a woman with an ordinary appearance and a weak body. Even more incredible, he used eight cows as a bride price.
In the local area, eight cows are a great fortune.
Later, it was discovered that Johnny's wife, after getting married, became more beautiful and confident.
Johnny said: "I deliberately paid a high price to marry my wife to make her realize that she was a valuable person. ”
In real life, many people will ignore the value of lovers. In marriage, many people regard the dowry money as a "sale" and do not understand it from the perspective of value.
After marriage, men go out to earn money, and women teach each other and have nothing to do with each other.
As the old saying goes, "Husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken." "When husband and wife struggle together, you will find that this force is not only touching, but also particularly delicate." Two people can complement each other and survive all the lows together.
Smart people will always see the strengths of their lovers, or deliberately cultivate the ability of their lovers in order to "move forward side by side".
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"Take advantage" of the value of friends and help each other.
The ancients said: "Birds choose good trees to perch, and people choose gentlemen to live." ”
Friends have more roads to go. If you have a few reliable buddies around you, you will encounter difficulties, there will be a lot of warm hands, stretched out.
Perhaps, many friends are not "communicative", but they will look at the interests of the interests and continue to associate with you. After all, everyone needs an emotional card, but also needs partners, customers, etc. in the career.
In "Journey to the West", Che Chi guo has three great immortals, namely deer force, sheep force, and tiger force, each with special skills: asking for rain, meditating, guessing things in the air, and so on.
There is a way that three stinky cobblers topped Zhuge Liang. With the full cooperation of the three immortals, the Che Chi Kingdom became their world, and the king could only obey his orders. Therefore, the great immortals also enjoyed the glory and wealth.
If it weren't for Tang Monk and his party passing by Chi Guo, the tricks of the Great Immortals would never have been debunked.
The strong lift each other up, and the weak lift each other's bars. Different modes of thinking create different lives. Find like-minded friends, your life will be more improved.
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"Take advantage" of the value of books, and the wisdom is endless.
A physicist once said, "I see far because I stand on the shoulders of giants." ”
Everyone needs a high starting point, so that they can be one step ahead. After all, people's energy is limited, and it is impossible to do everything by themselves.
To join an industry, you need to delve into the industry to investigate, but also read related books or report summaries.
Although the courage of the "newborn calf is not afraid of the tiger" can take you for a ride, you will be very tired. It is also possible that, because of blindness, bumping into the wall.
Read more books, a lot of confusion, will be solved. After all, the problems you encounter, others have also encountered, and the experiences have been written out, and the ending is also there.
For example, when Sima Qian wrote the "Records of History", he used some written records in books such as "Spring and Autumn", "Lü Shi Chunqiu", and "Zuo Zhuan". Many historical pictures, he did not imagine out of thin air.
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"Take advantage" of the value of the elderly and take fewer detours.
As the saying goes: "If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer losses in front of you." ”
Zhang Liang, the founding hero of the Western Han Dynasty, was originally a Korean in the Warring States period, and he was very sad and angry when he saw that Korea was destroyed. He sold his family wealth and invited the masters to murder Qin Shi Huang together.
Once, When Qin Shi Huang went to Bolangsha to inspect, Zhang Liang took the master and suddenly rushed out. After the plan failed, Qin Shi Huang was furious, and Zhang Liang became a person with nowhere to hide.
In order to avoid being pursued, Zhang Liang retreated to "Xia Pi".
One day, Zhang Liang passed by the bridge and met an old man who was blocking the road. The old man quietly gave him the "Taigong Art of War" and guided him not to "hit the hard" and to learn to use wisdom to defeat others.
"The master is in the folk", you can't ignore the people around you who look ordinary. As long as it is an older person, they can be regarded as "people who have come over", and their experience will become a guiding light for you.
If you want to achieve great things, you must know how to "innovate from the old." The wisdom given to you by the old man is "Chen", as long as you make a little use of it, you can innovate and develop.
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How to take advantage of the value of others? There is a very key factor, that is, you can't "nest" yourself, you have to have value.
Therefore, when you find a way to use others, you must also insist on "sowing and reaping". Plant a piece of grass at the door and there will be horses; plant a flower, it will attract butterflies and bees; plant a forest, and there will be birds to roost; build a small bridge, it will bring popularity...
To be used, to be used, to be superficially flattered, is actually a kind of wisdom. At the same time, we need to learn to be grateful to each other, rather than blindly taking.
"Time as a Friend" wrote: "If one day, after a long period of accumulation, a person really becomes an expert in a certain field, he will be surprised that the real, valuable, so-called 'efficient' network will actually break through the door." ”
Therefore, to be a man, you must be atmospheric, and you must first have the temperament of Hai Nai Bai Chuan, and then you can return from Bai Chuan.
Finally, may you and I go out to meet your nobles.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.