For some things and small details in life, the sooner these 8 life experiences are understood, the better!
1. For uncertain things, understand clearly and then agree to avoid dishonesty.
There will always be many people in life who ask you for help, and when you are not sure of things, do not hesitate and resolutely refuse. Because if you agree to someone else's things and don't finish them well in the end, it is related to your integrity and credibility. Whatever the reason for the promise must be done well, but if it cannot be completed, it must not be promised!
2, understand the silence is more intelligent than being able to speak the Tao, many people can not predict how their unintentional words will be understood, or even deliberately interpreted. (The passage of time has made us more aware of silence; life, let us already know that more words will be lost, and only by being reticent can we nourish our spirits; like the time of water, let us learn to be quiet!) ）
3, in life to put "thank you" on the lips, is the simplest way to treat people kindly. (The grace of dripping water should be repaid by the spring, some people often put thank you on their lips, thank you in the eyes of the heart, your little show of hands, they will see in the eyes of people who know how to be grateful never stingy to say thank you to others.) ）
4, don't be an old good person (Liu Feng in the movie "Fanghua" has been living Lei Feng for a long time, and even expressing his heart to the girl he likes has become a sin. You are not a god, there is no need to touch the world, a kind gesture to get a thank you, another act of kindness will get a nod, after three times it will become a matter of course, even some of the due power may be stripped away, the world needs good people, but does not need good old people. Hope that all kindness can be equally respected and rewarded!
5, there is no need to force a group, fake smile to face, not only wronged themselves, but also wasted time. True interpersonal relationships do not come from fake encounters, but from sincere touching. Yan Rujing, the debater of "Strange Story", said: "Not being gregarious is superficially unhappy, and being gregarious is really happy, but people who are sober and gregarious may really be unhappy, and not being gregarious does not mean wrong."
6, do not arbitrarily evaluate others, everyone deserves to be respected.
We see only the tip of the iceberg on the surface of the water, and most of the situation below the surface is often not known, but it is often the tip of the iceberg that forms our judgment of an event, resulting in misunderstanding. (Online violence is nothing new, and every time something happens, it will trigger a network carnival.) How aggressive is the language, in the movie "Sorrow Against the River", the heroine was violently attacked by the school, and finally jumped into the river to commit suicide, she said: "You are like a sharp blade, after stabbing others, you also righteously said: "It's none of my business, it's someone else who stabbed you with me." "I want to hate but I don't know who to hate." It's often gossip that kills a person.
Let go of the movies, go back to real life, there are countless cases of bullying in school, they have experienced being insulted, slandered, vilified, insulted, everyone has begun to isolate you, those so-called "pranks" hurt, and even expelled from school for false charges. There are endless grievances and unspeakable hatred in their hearts, but what can they do? These big or small injuries, the sequelae caused by them are mostly their own lack of self-confidence, even if they look good now, but they only look. What did you become when you grew up? Fly bravely? Or cowardice and sadness? Has it become your ideal self? Did you confess to the hurt self... Everyone is unique to themselves, don't judge others as good or bad. Knowing people and not evaluating, only people are superior.
7, time is not wealth, the efficient use of time can increase the happiness index of life.
The years of life rushed through the gap like a white colt, and soon slipped away from our fingers. Doing nothing is a sin. Life is short, our energy is also limited, we must use these limited energy and time to achieve the greatest success, in order not to walk in this world once. The grandeur of life is not given by others, but by ourselves, and when we use the time that slips between our fingers, gradually you will find that everything you do is a stepping stone to success.
8, control your mouth, don't have any wind and grass can't help but tell others. (Don't expose yourself above the seventh floor to others, people like the unknown, and no one watches the spoiler suspense films in advance.) ）
9, when encountering problems, when there is a dissatisfaction in life, the people who first find reasons from themselves grow faster than those who complain about the outside world. Unsatisfactory life is a sign, positive people know their shortcomings, and then go to solve problems, people who love to complain, every time they are looking for excuses to escape. Recognize yourself and accept your imperfections in order to make yourself better.