Maslow, a famous American social psychologist, put forward the hierarchy of human needs. He believed that human needs were: physiology, safety, social needs, respect and self-actualization. These five levels of demand are pyramid-shaped, with material needs at the bottom and spiritual needs at the top.
Of these five levels of need, one of them is respect, which belongs to the spiritual level. Everyone wants to be respected and affirmed by others, and a person who is respected enough to have self-confidence and dignity will have.
Those who are not respected, whose emotions and thoughts are arbitrarily trampled on, are often twisted in their hearts. We must respect others, but also get the respect of others, so as to form a good interpersonal relationship.
But in real life, you can ask yourself to respect others, but you can't ask others to respect you as well. People are different from people, some have high emotional intelligence, and some have low emotional intelligence. Those who have low emotional intelligence do not know how to respect others, and sometimes they will export hurtful people and do not care about the feelings of others.
What do you usually do when you encounter being looked down upon and disrespected? What you do will directly affect your life and determine whether you live a smooth life and whether you are happy.
Classmates gathered and led to an irreparable tragedy
25-year-old Xiao Jian is the only son in the family, his parents especially love him, and his life has always been smooth. Therefore, he has always felt very good about himself, often becomes complacent, looks down on others, and feels that others are inferior to him.
However, after graduating from college and stepping into society, Xiao Jian's life began to become unsmooth. He went to look for a job, but he couldn't get a job that satisfies him. Later, he made up his way to work in a foreign-funded company, but after working for half a year, he resigned.
After returning home, Xiao Jian was ready to go to graduate school, and he wanted to find a satisfactory job by upgrading his academic qualifications. Because the family's economic conditions are good, and his parents are very supportive of him, he simply does not look for a job and concentrates on reviewing his homework at home.
While preparing for the graduate school, Xiao Jian also talked about a girlfriend, who was his colleague when he worked in a foreign company. Everything seems to be good, everything is moving in the good direction, but the world is unpredictable, and a casual class reunion has changed everything.
Xiao Jian was confident to take the graduate school entrance examination, he felt that he would definitely be admitted, but the reality was very cruel, he did not get in. To make matters worse, his girlfriend proposed to him to break up again, and although he tried his best to keep him, his girlfriend left him. Love and academic failures at the same time, which makes Xiao Jian very discouraged.
At this moment, the old classmates organized a party, he originally did not want to go, but could not stand the old class leader repeatedly persuaded. His parents also advised Xiao Jian to go to a party, go out to relax, and not to be locked up at home every day. After the mood is better, then arrange the next step of life,
At the party, the students pushed the cups and changed the cups, and gradually everyone was a little drunk. There is a male classmate surnamed Zhang, Xiao Jian often looked down on him when he was in school, and now he is a little drunk, he is taking Xiao Jian's lost love and failing to pass the examination, and his words are full of contempt for Xiao Jian.
Classmate Zhang was not as good as Xiao Jian in every way before, and now after stepping into the society, he is mixed up, and his girlfriend is still a bureau chief's thousand gold! Although he opened up Xiao Jian with a joking tone, he was obviously reporting that Xiao Jian looked down on him for his revenge, so he had a thorn in his sentence.
Xiao Jian is a person with strong self-esteem, and he used to be smooth sailing, so he would unconsciously look down on others. Now that he has suffered a failure, he is in a bad mood, hearing the sarcastic words of Zhang, and other students cast a look of contempt, and after drinking, his emotions immediately got out of control.
Xiao Jian took a glass of wine to toast To Classmate Zhang, Classmate Zhang was defenseless, Xiao Jian spilled the wine on Classmate Zhang's face, and Classmate Zhang was of course angry. Xiao Jian smashed the wine bottle on the table, and then stabbed the half broken bottle at Zhang Classmate. The other students were surprised and immediately went to pull them away, but Zhang still fell.
Zhang's spleen was punctured, causing heavy bleeding, and finally died. Xiao Jian was arrested by the police for deliberately injuring people, resulting in the death of others, and what awaited him was the punishment of the law.
Two young people who are flourishing, because of a few words at the party, the result is a tragedy. These few words are nothing more than because of the three words of "looking down", Xiao Jian looked down on Zhang Classmate at that time, and now Zhang Classmate also looks down on Xiao Jian. The two young men were flesh and blood, and an impulse made a big mistake.
When you are looked down upon, you don't have to pay too much attention
In this lifetime, people will experience many things, and they will also experience many people. Among all kinds of people, some people will appreciate you and like you, and some people will look down on you and hate you. You're not in rmb, and there's no way to get everyone to like you, so you have to accept that people don't like you.
You have people you like and people you don't like, and others are like you, and there are people he likes and dislikes. Maybe you happen to be someone he doesn't like, and he looks down on you. He looks down on you, not necessarily because you are not good, but because he has his own problems, he is too conceited.
So when you are looked down upon, you don't have to care too much, don't pay attention to him. Because you are not living for him, he blindly looks down on you, is lowering his own style, is he not cultivating.
You meet a mad dog on the road, you have to fight with him, what will happen to the end? Needless to say, you know what the answer is, so you should lean aside and let the mad dog go first!
The road of life is still long, the ups and downs are very normal, who can laugh to the end is not certain! Therefore, people should know how to be low-key, be modest and cautious, do not casually look down on others, and do not casually be "looked down upon" by others to influence their emotions.
In order not to be looked down upon by others, we must strive to improve ourselves
When people live in this world, there will be competition, which is inevitable. When you are a child, you compete for test scores; when you grow up, you compete for a good job; after you work, you compete for who earns more money and whose family is happy; after having children, you compete for whose children have a job; when you are old, you compete for health and longevity...
Since you can't avoid competition, you must strive to improve yourself and make yourself as good as possible. When you are good enough, others have no reason to look down on you, they will not only not look down on you, but also worship and respect you!
When Xiao Jian was proud of himself, he casually looked down on his classmates, and as a result, he laid the foundation of the curse. When he was frustrated, he could not bear the contempt of others, and as a result, he impulsively destroyed his classmates and destroyed himself.
This is the most stupid thing to do, smart people should control their emotions and be the masters of their own emotions. We must strive to transform the shame of being looked down upon into a driving force for struggle, and when we succeed, we will wash away the shame.
Man lives for himself, but also for those who love themselves and those they love. So there's no need to feel sorry for people who look down on themselves, who don't matter to them. If you don't want to be looked down upon, the solution is actually very simple, that is, to try to improve yourself and make yourself better and better.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.