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A writer once said:
In a person's reaction to an incident, he hides his knowledge, insight, character and cultivation. And this reaction also determines his quality of life.
Whether a person has a good life or not depends on the ability to deal with things, and more importantly, in the mentality of facing problems.
Life is always live, and we can't predict what will happen, but we can choose how to deal with it.
The best way for adults to behave in the world is:
Don't panic when you come, carry things when you encounter them, and forget things after they have passed.
Don't panic
There is a hot question on Zhihu: "What ability is important, but most people do not?" ”
One of the high praises replied: "The ability to quickly restore calm in the event of trouble." ”
Life is always full of changes, the plan is always unable to catch up with the changes, and when things are stable, you can see the tricks and tricks, and you can be at ease.
I saw the blogger @Ogawa share such a thing:
Last year, the company hosted a high-end customer appreciation party and invited a well-known pianist to perform.
All the staff of the company carefully prepared for more than a month, but they did not expect that when the rehearsal on the day of the performance, there was still a situation.
The theater's sound and equipment suddenly malfunctioned, resulting in constant noise on the spot, and the pianist refused to perform in this condition.
Everyone panicked, some people began to complain about bad luck, some people were in a hurry, and some people even quarreled directly with the theater management.
At this time, Ogawa's leader arrived, he first mediated the quarrel between colleagues and the theater party, and then immediately coordinated the standby equipment urgently, and communicated with the performer at the same time to see if he could perform without a sound.
After the communication between the three parties was completed, Ogawa's leaders urgently drafted a letter of apology.
After the apology letter was issued, the situation quickly stabilized, and all parties began to act methodically.
Later, the theater temporarily borrowed a sound from a nearby mall, and the performance soon began as usual, and many colleagues expressed their heartfelt admiration for Ogawa's leadership.
In life, we will always encounter many big and small things. Many times, the matter itself is not serious, and your panic will expand the situation.
The more anxious you are to sort it out, the more you will be in a hurry, and in a hurry, it will only make mistakes in the rush and be unmanageable.
In the "New Edition of Zhaode", it is said: "The water quiet pole is clear, and the heart is quiet, and the wisdom is born." ”
When you are not flustered, you can stabilize yourself and face everything calmly. You will find that all the sudden problems in life have their own contingency plans.
I can carry it when things happen
There is a saying: "Every day of an adult is a robbery." ”
Life is in the world, everyone has their own difficulties, who does not grit their teeth and carry the weight forward?
No one naturally likes to work hard, but they know that if they can't hold on, they are not qualified to live the life they want.
In the film and television circle, there is a young director named Hu Qian.
At just 29 years old, he has already published two books and written and directed a film.
Due to the lack of fame, he could not invest, so he posted money to shoot.
When he sent the high-hope film to the producers, the other party demanded a drastic deletion.
However, after he carefully deleted and revised, he could not be released in the end.
Finally, he could not hold on, and ended his life in the corridor with a white rope.
However, just five months after his departure, his posthumous work "Elephant Sitting on the Ground" was suddenly released and won best picture at the Berlin Film Festival, which was hailed as a "masterpiece of art".
Unfortunately, because he did not carry the weight of life, he could no longer see this.
Someone said: "True maturity lies in how much responsibility you take on your shoulders and how much effort you put into your life." ”
The process of growth is actually a journey forward with a heavy load.
If you can't hold on, all your efforts will be in vain; if you hold on, your future will be like a gushing river, rushing forward.
Some time ago, I saw a netizen share his story.
This netizen has a good family and has not worried about eating or wearing since he was a child. However, at the age of 18, when he was in the college entrance examination, his father was deceived in the business field, owed millions of huge debts, and could not withstand the blow for a while, and chose to jump off the building.
Mom was depressed all day, washing her face with tears; my brother was unsupervised and indulged in playing games day and night.
Seeing that this family was about to collapse, he stood up and carried the pressure and responsibility on himself.
In order to take care of his mother, he gave up the famous school in the province that he had in mind and chose the university in his own province. In order to pay off his debts, he cooperated with his classmates to run a cram school, and against the sun, he blocked the school gate and handed out leaflets.
Constantly preparing for lectures, his voice was dumb, and he relied on throat lozenges to survive.
At the end of that summer vacation, he earned 60,000 yuan.
Looking at this hard-earned hard-earned money, he couldn't help but shed tears, although there was still a great distance to pay off the debt, but he finally felt the hope of life.
Writer Su Qian said: "People, do not need to have so many superiority, can carry things is talented." ”
Being able to carry things is not without fear, but you obviously feel pain, but still choose to face difficulties. In the trough and despair, do not give up hope, under the repeated blows, still have confidence and strength.
Only by taking the initiative to carry the sudden changes in life will you be reborn in the darkness and mud, and can you calmly cope with every test of life.
Forget what has happened
Balzac once said, "If you can't forget much, life can't go on." ”
In life, it is not terrible to encounter troubles, but what is afraid is to always put the troubles in the heart and never forget them, which is not only useless, but also easy to accumulate worries into diseases.
I once read the story of a netizen.
Two years ago, he felt devastated by a failed promotion at work.
In the days that followed, he thought about it every day, but the more he reminisced, the more frustrated he became. Later, I couldn't even sleep, couldn't eat food, and was in a trance all day.
One day, he was sitting at his computer desk worrying, and his 5-year-old son suddenly came up to him and said:
"Dad, can you make me a boat?"
At that time, he had the heart to make a boat, but he was entangled in his son, so he had to reluctantly agree.
He spent most of the day making that toy boat.
But when he finished the boat and handed it over to the child, looking at the child's cheering expression, he remembered that in this half a day, he had completely forgotten his troubles.
This made him suddenly enlightened, and he began to let go of his past failures and return to work.
Slowly, his whole spirit was different.
Many times, the reason why we are unhappy is because we have a good memory.
Forgetting is the best antidote to the heart.
The writer Yi Shu once went to Ni Kuang's house as a guest and saw the lush greenery in the garden, which he particularly liked.
She asked, "Is there any secret to your potted plants that are so well raised?" ”
Ni Kuang smiled and replied, "It's very simple, the secret is to die and throw it away, and then buy a new one." ”
This is true of raising potted plants, and it is actually the same with living a life.
What you can't think of is always thinking, and the things that make you sad are better to throw it away.
There is a saying in "Cai Tan Gen" that says it well: "A gentleman's heart begins to appear when things come, and his heart goes with emptiness." ”
Sigh for the past life, life will only give you darkness.
Free yourself from the past, and there is a bright road under your feet in front of you.
Life learns to look forward, what should be turned over will turn the page, and what should be past will let it pass.
Cutting off the past frees up hands to better embrace the present and the future.
I like a saying: "The journey of life is always ups and downs, which is the eternal fixed number in the universe." ”
Since fixed numbers cannot be changed, we must try to learn to accept and let go.
The best way for a person to live is not to be afraid of things, to be able to carry things, and to forget things.
When encountering things, we must be stable when we should be calm, we must be able to carry them when we should face them, and we must be able to let go when we should be relieved.
Red dust is the dojo, and having a calm mind whenever there is a big event is the best practice for a person.
May you not forget your original intention, experience in experience, feel in experience, and grow in understanding.
Encourage your friends.
Author: Wanjun
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