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Cartoonist Zhu Deyong said: "Spend the first half of your life looking for the entrance, and spend the second half of your life looking for the exit." ”
The best state of life is probably "deep and simple". In the first half of life, I desperately squeezed into society to get what I wanted, and in the second half of my life, I simply withdrew from the social stage and returned to a simple life.
When you are over the age of fifty, if you have the idea of taking the initiative to "break off relations" with people, then congratulations, you have the following four very realistic mentalities, and your life has been rich and quiet ever since.
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First, hate the "snobbish" mentality. The ancient adage of "poor in the downtown area no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives" has personally experienced.
There is a saying: "There is only one disease in the world, and that is the disease of poverty." ”
When you are very poor, relatives and friends will feel that you are "sick" and cannot be approached, otherwise you will be dragged down.
In the sixth episode of the TV series "Poor Children rich children", Zhang Tonglin fell ill and spent all the savings in the family, and his daughter Swift had to drop out of school, and then looked for someone to borrow money everywhere, and traveled all over relatives and friends, only to borrow 10 yuan.
His son Yuhao, worried about his father's poor nutrition, went to the almost frozen fish pond to touch the fish. He gritted his teeth and felt a dozen fish, holding on, almost freezing in the fish pit. Swift looked at her brother, her heart ached to tears, and the sisters and brothers hugged each other and cried bitterly.
The most heinous thing is that when Swift went to town to sell fish, she met Du Liu and made an unreasonable request to let Swift accompany her to dinner.
When people are poor, anyone can bully you; when you turn over, everyone will take the initiative to seduce you.
Being looked down upon is actually suffering from the double torture of lack of money and lack of warmth, as long as there are people with backbones, they will hate the "snobbish eye". After turning himself over, he slowly alienated him, even if he was a close relative with a blood relationship.
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Second, accept the "useless connections" mentality. "Rely on the mountains to fall, rely on everyone to run", only rely on yourself, the most reliable.
A person's real strength begins with being alone.
When people reach fifty, they will understand that "connections are useless." Most of the people who are close to you are greedy for profits, rather than warming up with you and surviving the lows of life together.
Only a confidant can help each other and insert a knife in both ribs. Unfortunately, the world is full of people, and it is difficult to find a confidant.
Old classmates are not networked. When I attended the class reunion, everyone talked and laughed, and told the story of the same window very vividly. Some well-mixed classmates occupied the main position and were touted by everyone. Those students who were discouraged were slowly left out in the cold.
If you are in trouble, go to an old classmate and learn that "being blamed" is a very embarrassing thing. Classmates mix well, it is used to show off, not to help anyone.
Colleagues are not networked. Every day with colleagues, the problems at work, everyone solves them together. The unit also often socializes, colleagues praise each other, and drink and chat.
Behind the scenes, colleagues are fighting with each other, especially when they are promoted and raised, they are all riveted and want to seize a good position. A good face on weekdays can be torn at any time.
Most of my friends are not networked. Most friends come for some kind of interest, not pure friendship. Once the point of interest disappears, the friend is alienated. What's even more frightening is that someone secretly calculates you through an "emotional card".
Friends who ate and drank, just touted each other's relationship, left the liquor bureau, ran their own things, and when they called, they couldn't remember their names.
There are very few real connections. When you understand this truth, you naturally don't want to associate with anyone.
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Third, reject the mentality of "knocking on each other's doors". Treat your home as a warm haven and don't want to be disturbed.
There is a saying: "If you don't want others to come to your house, don't go to the door yourself first." ”
Door-to-door visits are also a way to exchange courtesies.
For a person who likes to be quiet, not visiting the door is to reduce the "reception volume" of his own home. Others can't, cheekily, come to your house and beg for food.
Every day, when I come home from work and close the door, all the worries, the noisy sounds, the boring social interactions are left outside the door. At home, there is only harmony, eat well, and sleep well.
When people are old, they need to enter the big family of society, and they need more time to spend with their families. In the past, because the work was very busy, the pressure was great, and I neglected to care for my family, and I had to make up for it later.
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Fourth, accept the mentality of "people go tea and cool". For the rest of your life, take the downhill road of life.
Fifty-year-old people, in the workplace, are already in a state of "sunset west mountain". No matter how hard you try, the years are not spared, the weakness of age, is there.
Leaders who want to promote you will also frown. Because you are in an important position, you can't work for a few years, and you're going to retire. It is better to let young people take on the burden.
If you have a good position now, you will also be "worried" by many people and secretly competed for it. Perhaps, someone secretly discussed how to get you out of power.
Before the person left, the tea was cold. You really don't have to get too close to your colleagues. Perhaps, taking the initiative to give way, everyone can be happy.
The world is uncertain, you can't go up all the time, learn to serve the old, and walk downhill steadily and steadily, which is also a kind of scenery.
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Conclusion.
When interacting with people, more and more thin feelings, not innate, but after the baptism of years, slowly understand the truth of many people's feelings, and then make the right decision.
For a lifetime, you don't have to wear a mask all the time. As Yi Shu said: "In the short decades of life, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others." ”
After the age of fifty, learn to "break off diplomatic relations", correct the mentality, and life will become more and more free.
Of course, to break off diplomatic relations with people is not to offend people, but to naturally reduce interactions: reduce contact, do not disturb the lives of others; do not rely on anyone, do not expect others; do not give others a face, but implicitly refuse; do not remember revenge, nor do they be kind to people at will.
For the rest of your life, be grateful for those who are good to you and stay away from those who are bad to you.
Who you meet, everything goes with the flow.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.