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Star full-time wife
Still not happy
After eating melon for five days, the sisters all held on, right?
I believe that everyone is like me, before December 17th, it is difficult for us to imagine cheating, soliciting prostitutes, dating, transferring the couple's common property, and spreading rumors about ex-wives...
These moral stains will appear on Wang Lihong, a male star who has always maintained the "quality idol" persona.
But the facts do not allow him to argue, after being repeatedly sent by his ex-wife Li Lianglei to explode the hammer, Wang Lihong finally confessed and apologized and announced his temporary withdrawal from the circle.
Source: @Robbe
To tell the truth, although this series of melons is very refreshing and supportive, the second girl is still not happy.
Because Li Lianglei, a full-time wife who gave birth to three children in five years and is highly educated and good-looking, the marriage difficulties she encountered are not unique.
At the moment when the rights and interests of the full-time wife are not protected, Li Lianglei's voice is worth exploring and reflecting on by the whole society.
Three children were born in five years
In exchange for a widowed marriage
In fact, before Li Lianglei's article, her image in the eyes of the public has always been blurred:
Graduated from Columbia University, a beautiful woman and a bully, Wang Lihong has given birth to two daughters and a son, and the husband and wife love each other.
She is the perfect wife and mother, the proof of Wang Lihong's career and family double harvest, and also the foil and proof of his perfect image.
But it wasn't herself.
No one knows what her real life is like, and everyone thinks she's living happily ever after.
But in fact?
She became pregnant during her relationship with Wang Lihong, but was asked to have an abortion or not get married after giving birth.
Obviously, it was for the purpose of marriage and childbirth, but he did not intend to give her a name.
Later, the two got married, and Wang Lihong asked Li Lianglei to give up studying for a doctorate. She agreed and did not pursue further studies academically.
Immediately after that, Li Lianglei was constantly promoted by the Wang family, so she gave up her work and self-growth, and put all her energy into childbirth, even giving birth to two daughters and a son.
Most of the time after marriage, she was either trying to conceive, getting pregnant, or breastfeeding and raising children after childbirth, which was very hard.
But most of these things were faced by her alone, and Wang Lihong did not understand or understand the pain of childbirth, let alone pay attention to his wife's efforts.
For many years, he only spent 5 to 10 minutes a day before bedtime with his children, and weekend family days and children's birthdays were often absent. Usually, the children's life education is all managed by Li Lianglei.
Even Christmas, which is very important to their family, has not been spent together for three years. Can this still be called a "good husband" and a "good father"?
If it is because the work is too busy to take care of the family, it is still barely reasonable. But in Li Lianglei's complaint, Wang Lihong's life after marriage is still dashing.
Gatherings, prostitutes, and appointments are constant, and all the revelations can be cross-corroborated by multiple sources.
For example, the recruitment of prostitutes, the media has long been filmed many times, but at that time, the aura of "high-quality idols" was too strong, and few people believed it.
Another example is the cheating of the cannon after marriage, and the relevant photos on the Internet are full of news.
Yumi Sun Yu, the sister of the by2 group, once changed the nude photo of Wang Lihong, and the two have been in touch with each other.
And Li Lianglei has been having a baby and bringing a baby after marriage, which is also a fact for all to see.
What is even more tragic is that before marriage, Wang Lihong asked her to sign a property agreement, and the real estate after marriage was in the name of the Wang family, and after the divorce, Li Lianglei could not get anything and left the house.
What is she? Fertility tools? Lost after giving birth to a son while he was breastfeeding?
Seven years of marriage, in exchange for the husband's constant betrayal, indifference and calculation, and the tired body after giving birth to three children.
There is also dirty water that her husband throws at her in order to maintain her image.
Pretending to be dead, splashing dirty water, what a man
The most infuriating and ridiculous part of the whole thing is that Wang Lihong, a "big boy" who is almost 50 years old, always lets others block the gun in the face of public opinion, without any responsibility.
When he decided to divorce, his reason was that "if you meet a girl you like, you don't want her to be wronged and said to be a little three."
Li Lianglei did not want to divorce, so he wanted to use all kinds of verbal bullying and fabricating facts in front of relatives and friends to slander her.
After Li Lianglei sent a text to hammer him, he also hid behind his father again, and let an elderly Wang father write a handwritten statement, slandering the woman as "in order to ask for money, asking for 150 million yuan and the house, and taking 210,000 alimony every month."
Try to shape Li Lianglei into the image of a "gold worshipper" and divert public opinion.
However, Li Lianglei threw out a statement of abandonment of alimony, proving that the original property under the names of both parties was not a divorce distribution property, in fact, Wang Lihong still did not share a dime for her.
Even the house where she and her children now live was "lent" to her by the king and will be repaid later.
Netizens also found that she had almost never sunbathed luxury goods after marriage, and a dress could be worn for four years.
Wear the same dress for four years
Guan Ying, an insider, also said that Li Lianglei never wears a famous brand and does not have a high pursuit of materials. Divorced, I just want to ensure that the children's living standards do not decline.
Compared with other celebrity wives, she has always lived a simple and simple life, and has fulfilled her responsibilities as a wife and mother.
Even two months after giving birth, Wang Lihong was immediately given a Christmas party.
And whether it is before and after the divorce, Li Lianglei has been maintaining Wang Lihong's image.
Tao Zhe's wife and Xiao S once said in the variety show that Li Lianglei's mouth was very tight and she never said bad things about Wang Lihong.
Even if Wang Lihong is scum, she is not willing to let the child think that her father is a scum.
On the other hand, how did Wang Lihong do it?
When she got married, she was called Li Lianglei, and when she was divorced, she was called "Nishiharu Michiko", deliberately pointing out the identity of her ex-wife of mixed Chinese and Japanese descent.
Li Lianglei was also given a high-level hot search, resulting in a topic of up to 310 million reads after fermentation.
Attempting to take advantage of the national feelings of the Chinese people to divert attention and throw dirty water on the children's mothers is simply vicious!
In addition, he also spread rumors that his wife was mentally ill, and emotionally manipulated her (gaslighting, which refers to psychological manipulation of the other party so that they doubted whether they were mentally healthy).
Fortunately, Li Lianglei herself is a psychology student, and these traps are all recognized by her.
Seeing this, I really can't imagine it.
If his wife is not Li Lianglei, not a highly educated, logical and clear woman, can the public always be blinded by him?
Could the woman who had worked hard for him for seven years really be swept out of the house as he wished?
The sacrifice of the full-time wife
Not for granted
Therefore, this matter is not just an entertainment drama.
Li Lianglei used her own personal experience to tell modern women that the interests of housewives are difficult to protect, and their efforts are often not recognized.
Netizens watched Li Lianglei's post and cried
Obviously, it is a 24-hour, year-round job, including a partner, a babysitter, a cleaning aunt, housekeeping... With so much heavy life chores, the workload is no easier than going to work.
However, because they have no salary income, they often have to look at their husbands' faces when they use money, and they have no family voice.
When it comes to divorce and divide the property, she will be scolded for "worshiping gold for money", as if she did not increase the income of the family and did not deserve to share the property.
It's really funny, the equal division of marital property is obviously the legitimate rights and interests of women, why should asking for money become a moral stain?
Some time ago, a full-time wife in Guangdong got 4 years of marriage housework compensation when she filed for divorce, only 10,000 yuan.
However, now the sister-in-law is more than 10,000 a month, and the housework of the full-time wife is still worthless.
What's more, full-time wives pay much more for the family.
Fertility risks, physical injuries, workplace dilemmas, personal growth... None of these efforts can be measured in money.
Many housewives give up their careers for the sake of their families, run small homes with peace of mind, take care of their husbands and children, but in the end, like Li Lianglei, the bamboo basket is empty.
As China Women's Daily commented on the Wang Lihong incident:
"Under some kind of praise and whitewash, the full-time housewife loses the opportunity to realize herself, and she does not get the love and happiness she originally hoped for."
As a woman, I certainly hope that more and more sisters will go to work and become independent women.
But women who choose to be housewives should also be recognized and seen for their labor efforts.
Taking care of the family is not only a woman's responsibility, the sacrifice of a full-time wife is not a matter of course, and it is not a reason to be pua and disrespected by the husband.
Soon 2022 is over, whether it is a star or an ordinary person, women's rights and interests in marriage need to be protected and respected.
We appreciate Li Lianglei's courage to speak out.
But I also hope that there will be no next "desperate housewives"!
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