In the past two days, wang Lihong and Li Lianglei's divorce and follow-up gua have been shocked to speechlessness.
The chaos in the entertainment industry is really unimaginable to us ordinary people. Putting aside the matter itself, Li Lianglei wrote a long article exposing Wang Lihong's behavior, and had to boast of being bold, handsome, mighty, and domineering.
Admittedly, women should never be an appendage without a voice, especially in marriage, and we should have our voices no matter what.
We want to embrace love, to have love, which is a normal emotional need of human beings, but there is really no need to be humble for love, and we do not have to be humble to the point of ignoring our own interests and reputation.
In addition, Li Lianglei's bumpy experience has also given me three inspirations as a woman, and I hope that female friends can get some inspiration from this matter, and the road of love and marriage can go more smoothly.
1, do not easily choose to be a housewife
It does not mean that housewives are bad, in some families, women may choose to be housewives only because they are forced to be helpless.
We must admit that the housewife is a member of the family who has contributed the most to the family, and a family has become organized because of her efforts, and this title is absolutely worthy of respect.
And the days of the palms are actually not good, you are really contributing to the family, but it is true that the husband will dislike you after a long time.
At this time, whether you can live happily or not can only completely depend on your husband's conscience, if he changes his heart, the so-called beautiful future you exchanged for youth may only end up empty.
Whether it is in film and television dramas, or in real life, or this time Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei, it is actually worth warning women.
If you already have savings, even if the marriage encounters variables, it will not be too bad, but if not, you can imagine how difficult it is.
So, unless you have to, women really don't take the initiative to choose to be a housewife, you have to remember, never put your future on the conscience of your husband, even if he loves you very much now.
2, do not flood the mother's love for men, do not easily believe in men's pitiful looks
Li Lianglei's long article mentioned that before the two confirmed their relationship, Wang Lihong often sold misery in front of her.
She said he appealed to her for help, and she came to his aid. She thought she was saving him from fire and water, but she didn't realize that she was just a pawn he used to block the wrigley.
This kind of trick often appears in the plot of men deceiving women.
In fact, this is a man who uses the woman's own maternal love, when he sees a man who should be incomparably strong but shows a fragile appearance in front of himself, as a woman, he will unconsciously let down his guard, and will inadvertently give him the expected care and closeness as the man wishes.
Psychology has said that anyone who shows itself to outsiders is what they want others to see.
Thus
The vulnerability that a man shows you is actually not reliable, he shows his vulnerability in front of you, it must be to achieve some purpose, women better think in advance, whether to jump into the pit he dug, or whether he is worth you for him
Jump the pit.
3, men have done the wrong thing, can not always be bottomless concessions and tolerance
We are often taught that in love, in marriage, we need to be tolerant enough with the person we love.
But sometimes, your inclusion doesn't bring the desired results, and when you are important enough in his heart, he will change for you.
And when you are dispensable to him, your tolerance, in his eyes, is often a conniving meaning.
Just as Wang Lihong came out in all kinds of chaos, as a pregnant wife, Li Lianglei never turned her face because of this, and her requirements for him were reduced to not being brought home. But the other party, because of this, lost his temper.
The things you have to understand for women are:
The other party can do something sorry for you, which proves that he did not take you to heart at all, and in this case, you still tolerate him is really stupid. You can be crazy about love, but don't be stupid enough that others will stab a knife and don't know how to resist.
Gongzi Message:
Women, should be weak and weak, strong and strong, putting future happiness on the conscience of their husbands, is originally a very risky behavior.
In the long road of life, the most reliable is always your ability to make money.
Don't be foolish to believe what men say "I raise you", and don't try to gamble with a big gamble on the probability of happiness, people's hearts are really too changeable, you are too easy to lose.
Women should remain independent at all times, spiritually and financially. You have to believe that those foreseeable visions can finally withstand the blows of the wind and rain for you. The deposit in your card will eventually give you the courage to leave anyone who hurts you.
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