Two lovers who were once in love, the other suddenly proposed to break up, the other party will definitely be very sad, as if they lost the most important part of their lives in an instant.
At this time, the party who was broken up will be overwhelmed, and in a panic, he will try various ways to save it.
For example, keep sending the other party an apology to save the message, but the effect is often unsatisfactory, although you pleaded bitterly, and even said that you will definitely change for him, but the other party is still not moved, but finally blocked you.
In fact, even if you say more than you apologize, but the words are not right, your apology will be counterproductive, so that this relationship is no longer possible to recover.
Like a girl I know, because she is too willful, always make sex in front of her boyfriend, and then after a fight, the boyfriend proposed to break up with her.
After the breakup, she went around asking people to intercede, and bombarded each other with hundreds of messages every day, saying that she was wrong, that she could not live without him, that he would not live without him, and so on.
She thought that if she said this, her boyfriend would waver, but then her boyfriend called her and said that if she did this again, he would completely blackmail her, and even the most ordinary friends would not be able to do it in the future.
Later she said that she did not understand, she had never been so low to ask for someone before, and she had been apologizing and pleading with her ex-boyfriend, why did he not react at all, but completely ended the relationship with her?
Yes, why do some people say a lot of touching words after the breakup and can't save each other, while some people can make the other party change their minds in just one or two text messages?
This is all due to the difference in the way you talk, so when the other party proposes to break up, you want to save the relationship, how should you text him to be effective? Let's share with you how to salvage text messages to work.
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If you are not really breaking up, just making a conflict, a moment of anger and breaking up, how to send a text message?
It is also common for couples to have conflicts and break ups, but if you just break up on a whim, it means that the other party has not yet reached the point of being very disgusted with you.
So, if you call or text, and the other person will still chat with you, then you can send him a text message like this:
"These days I think about a lot of things from before, and I feel that I didn't know much about it before, and I did a lot of wrong things. Now I can finally understand why you were so upset when you broke up because you loved me so much and I didn't treat you with the same kindness. I hope that these days without me by my side, you can take care of yourself, if you are okay, it is a sunny day. ”
In the case that you still have a chance to reconcile, you don't need to say too much, as long as you can make him feel that you care about and care for him, the redemption will be inseparable.
Besides, after all, women chase men, the layer of yarn, you have not done much wrong, and you have the courage to admit your mistakes, you can also empathize with the feelings of the other party, and even a cold person will be warmed by you.
But you must pay attention when texting, do not say some humble pleading words, such as: please come back to me, I can not live without you and the like, such words will only pull down yourself, even if he turns back, in the future will challenge your bottom line more when there is a contradiction.
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If you really broke up, the other party is very disgusted with you and doesn't want to pay attention to you at all, how to send text messages?
Many celebrity couples will be officially announced when they break up, this situation is to fully establish the breakup relationship, if you also make it clear that the breakup relationship, decide to separate and widen in the future, then you still want to leave room for the relationship between the two, when texting him should say:
"For more than half a month I reflected on a lot of previous things, and suddenly found that my emotional intelligence in the relationship was really low, it turned out that you had given me so many opportunities, I didn't take advantage of it, and now you are determined to break up with me, and I understand." It was true that I didn't do well enough to pay attention to your feelings, so it was right for you to leave me, and I hope that we can all be fine in the future. ”
Acknowledging your own shortcomings and understanding each other's choices can not only reduce your previous contradictions, but also make the other party change their previous views on you, which is also good for you to get along in the future.
But one thing to pay attention to is that when texting, don't just say your inner sense of need, but say more about the other party's inner feelings, so as to avoid causing you to continue to entangle the intention, so that the other party will have a sense of disgust again.
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Of course, the redemption of the text message can not be rigid, before sending the text message, you must distinguish the situation, think about how to move the other party, carefully consider and edit before sending it to the other party.
In addition, in addition to sending a salvage text message to the other party, you also need to change your image and make yourself better, so that you can really attract the other party and make the other party look back for you.
Finally, I wish all the lovers in the world to eventually become dependents.