Has anyone not yet eaten Wang Lihong's melon at the end of the year? Since Wang Lihong was divorced, the hot search in these days has been occupied by Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei, the two have been back and forth sniper war, and the melon-eating masses are a bit unable to see it...
Take a look at the timeline of events:
Wang Lihong's half-life management of the people, under the hammer of the Lei God Hammer hammer after hammer, has been shattered and collapsed.
Back on December 15, when he officially announced his divorce, he also specifically wrote that "Lianglei and my private life is very simple and simple."
Just two days later, Li Lianglei's long letter of about 5,000 words tore Wang Lihong's lie that his private life was very simple to pieces. Almost in a self-destructive way, she exposed Wang Lihong's summoning of prostitutes, about P, cheating...
Worthy of being a high-achieving student of Columbia University, Li Lianglei's writing logic is clear, the intention is high, the structure is neat, and the narrative, lyricism and reasoning are integrated, and the intellectual sexiness is in unison. Compared with Wang Lihong's frequent typos, inconsistent statements, and Wang Dad's "water drop chip" like the accusation of small essays, it is really a high opinion.
Some people commented that Wang Lihong is more able to manage time than Luo Mouxiang, more bold than Li Moudi, and more motherly than Wu Moufan... His scumbag behavior directly gave the entertainment industry a year-end summary.
Although the two of them have made a turn-based game of this matter, you come to one, I come to one, there are backs and forths, there are goings and returns, Li Lianglei fought back in the early hours of this morning, angrily reprimanding Wang Lihong for "really doing everything in order to save myself."
At the same time, she released a psychological diagnosis certificate, pointing out that Wang Lihong had serious psychological problems. These include a sexually addictive narcissistic personality and "rumors with relatives and friends that I (Li Lianglei) have mental illness to denigrate my (Li Lianglei) personality."
This new wave of punching makes people take a breath of cool air, because too many women suffer from invisible PUA in marriage without knowing it, and many men use this to wear down their wives' personality and achieve their own ugly goals.
There's an old black-and-white movie called Under the Gaslight. The film tells the story of a heroine who was originally beautiful, confident, and able to think independently, who became suspicious of reality and questioned herself under the careful psychological manipulation of her husband, and finally was mentally almost completely controlled by the other party.
This is the famous "gas lamp manipulation method" in psychology.
In Li Lianglei's newly published article, this psychological term is mentioned.
In the movie, when the heroine expresses doubts about the abnormal change of lighting, the male protagonist firmly denies it, insisting on telling her that it is her hallucination, that she is too suspicious of the ghost.
Finally, the heroine begins to wonder if her perception is reality.
American psychologist Robin Stern was inspired by this film and, based on more than 20 years of clinical experience, wrote a very sensational book called "The Gaslight Effect: Away from Emotional Violence and Manipulation Freaks."
Dr Robin Stern outlines the insidious nature of "gaslight": "It's an emotional abuse and manipulation that's hard to identify, and even harder to get rid of, distorting one's perception of reality." ”
In the process of manipulation, the manipulator will deliberately distort the facts, selectively delete them, or directly instill false information into the other party.
Their purpose in doing so is to make the manipulated person doubt his memory, cognition, and mental state, and even the value of the whole self.
Gradually, the manipulated person's perception of reality is disturbed, trust in his own judgment is lost, and finally he is forced to trust the manipulator, thus allowing them to manipulate their emotions and behavior.
Without women with strong hearts and relevant knowledge, it is difficult to detect such manipulation.
Putting aside the dog blood war between the two, I think Li Lianglei's most powerful point is to bring women's reproductive value to the surface to talk about, and from the perspective of women, she analyzed the difficulties and dangers of full-time mothers, and also discussed the embarrassing situation of fertility and traditional family division of labor that women have lost equal employment and self-realization opportunities, and when it comes to money, it is necessary to suffer the embarrassing situation of moral humiliation of "vanity and worship of gold".
Economists in the former Soviet Union once calculated that if mothers and housewives were replaced in other ways, the cost to society would be equivalent to the employment of 100 million fixed-wage workers a year, and the remuneration would be 150 billion rubles (about 500 billion yuan).
Some people in China have also calculated that if the housework undertaken by women in China is converted into a fixed wage payment, at least 42 billion yuan will be paid.
In fact, every stay-at-home mom pays these labors that are unpaid and unpaid, just because others say you are a mother, and you should.
Women pay so much for their children and families, and as a result, once they meet someone unladylike, they will be beaten every minute and have nothing.
Now society always says that men and women are equal, and this equality has been distorted by some people, believing that women just want to be economically independent, to pay equally for equal work, and to share household chores.
In fact, society cannot fully affirm and recognize the special labor value of women in childbirth, and women will always have to spend more time, energy and effort to win the same social status.
Women in the workplace have to spend extra time and energy to maintain their career development.
That's why I've always discouraged women from choosing to be a stay-at-home wife, because the risk is really too big!
Are these words familiar?
You don't earn money, just take the child at home, what's so hard? ”
I'm tired outside and want to live, unlike you at home who only know how to enjoy happiness. ”
I worked hard for a day's work, not to come back and see you arguing with my mom. ”
How do you buy clothes again? Don't earn money just to know how to spend. ”
Are you going to do something XX tomorrow? You don't have time? How is it possible that you don't have to go to work and are idle to death. ”
Do you feel like you hear it somewhere, or inadvertently pop it out of your mouth?
Probably every stay-at-home mom has been hurt by such words.
Stay-at-home mothers, choose to believe in their husbands, choose to take the risk of having no income, leaving society, and being abandoned, just to give their children better companionship and education, to give their families delicious meals, clean life, and a warm home.
This profession works 24 hours a day, all year round, without a penny of income, and is a nanny, nutritionist, housekeeper of the whole family, but it is also regarded as an idle person who "can't earn a penny".
I really hope that everyone in the world can understand that full-time mothers are also a profession, their job is to take care of the family and children, her work creates value for the family, not a parasite idle at home, nor is it destined to be out of touch with society.
They just follow a mother's inner calling, accompany the child, and grow up with the child.
It's just that her work and efforts are unpaid, unpaid, or even recognized.
The hardships they have put into their lives are definitely beyond your imagination.
Two-thirds of the world's wealth is created by people, so it can be said that conscientious parenting mothers are actually "major wealth creators" because they nurture a steady stream of new wealth creators from generation to generation. So, I can't help but ask: How exactly is the most important job in the world paid?
Next, let's use the secular method to calculate it. (The following market monthly salary is the estimated average monthly salary)
As a stay-at-home mom, I mainly undertake the following types of work:
1. Housekeeping: handle housework (grocery shopping/cooking/washing clothes/cleaning, etc.). Market monthly salary: 3000 yuan / month;
2, parenting sister-in-law: take care of children (feeding / coaxing / wake up / help wash / wake up at any time to take care of, etc.). Market monthly salary: 4000 yuan / month;
3. Teacher: accompany the child to play (going out to play/play/tell stories/character development, etc.), and help with homework. Market monthly salary: 4000 yuan / month.
4. Part-time/full-time staff: part-time market monthly salary: 3000 yuan / month; full-time market monthly salary: 6000 yuan / month.
So please do the math, how much is a stay-at-home mom worth?
A graduate student at Columbia University, who gave up his career wholeheartedly for the sake of his lover and for the sake of his family, in exchange for endless children and endless grievances.
Is it excessive for such a hard-working stay-at-home mother to suffer betrayal and infidelity and ask for compensation? Is it illegal to ask for the division of joint marital property? Don't you want money to sign a CD?
Isn't it the pay of a stay-at-home mom?
Finally, I would like to loudly appeal that the value of women is not to have children and do housework, women should not be trapped in emotions and families, there should be a wider world in their eyes, learn more knowledge, see more of the world, realize more dreams, shine in more fields, and have more right to speak.
And when you are being pua and persecuted, say no, fight bravely, and girls help girls!