#2021生机大会 #
I've seen a famous quote: "Don't be too obedient to your children, because most of the contrarian children are spoiled by their parents." ”
Loving children is a good thing, but excessive love is likely to become coddling, deformed love, which will make children feel "suffocated".
What really ruins a child's life is not a game, not a greedy play, but a result of parents' excessive and unrestrained coddling of their children, coddling is not love, but harm! Children who are spoiled and grow up only know how to blindly take, and will never learn to be grateful, which is the greatest sorrow of a family.
Remember that starving "Giant Chinese Baby"? It tells the story of parents who have children too much to spoil their children, resulting in 8-year-old children never getting out of bed and walking, and children starving to death at home at the age of 23.
Yang Suo was born in a rural family, the family is not very rich and noble, but the parents are diligent and down-to-earth, the family's life is also food and clothing, because it is the old man, so He is very doting on Wang Yu, doting to the point that whether it is study or life, as long as Yang Suo opens his mouth, no matter what he wants, his parents will definitely give.
What is even more shocking is that Yang Suo reached the age of 8, and his parents actually did not let his son walk on the ground by himself, and when he went out, he was put in a bamboo basket and picked him up with a flat shoulder, and he was afraid that his son would accidentally fall down, Oh my God
When parents go out to do farm work, parents work in the field, put a small bench on the side of the road, Yang Suo sits on it and waits, whenever Yang Suo wants to help the family work, parents will let him hurry out to play and say: "This is not what children should do, obey, go out to play!" ”
Whenever Yang Suo was in trouble outside, his parents always blamed others at the first time, did not listen carefully to lectures in class, and did not write homework after returning home. In this way, under the doting of his parents, Yang Suo would not do anything, he could not carry his shoulders, his hands could not be lifted, and he gradually became lazy and selfish, and had to admit that this was really like the education method of "raising ancestors".
Yang Suo's is not easy to learn, and the teachers have no responsibility?
The teacher said: "As long as we are a little more strict with Yang Suo, his parents will find the school to make trouble", so Yang Suo, because he could not eat the pain of learning, did not go to school for a long time, he dropped out of school and went home, back home, his parents were more obedient to Yang Suo, and even did not let him get out of bed to eat.
But the years are not spared, parents can not accompany Yang Suo forever, more than 20 years have passed, Yang Suo's parents have passed away, so Yang Suo sold everything in the family, hungry to go to eat, cold to burn the furniture at home for warmth.
Whenever a kind villager gave him vegetables and meat, he didn't even look at it, preferring to go out and ask for food than cook, and then Yang Suo, who was only 23 years old, starved to death at home!
God, 23-year-old adults will actually starve themselves to death, after watching this is really pitiful and ridiculous, because the parents' doting on Yang Suo firmly protects Yang Suo in this area of the family, so that after the death of his parents, he can't even take care of his own life, such a story has been heard more than one, coddling is really sugar with arsenic, no harm!
Children who grow up under coddling often spoil too much, which will make the child's thoughts not grow, so that the child's mind cannot mature, so that even if the child is an adult, the behavior is still immature, that is, the current society presents a type of person ~ giant baby!
Therefore, children are not appendages, and no matter how much they love, they must learn to let go.
Today's topic: How to properly educate and cultivate children?