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The greatest love in the world is the love of parents for their children, because this love is unfulfilled and selfless and pure. But everything has pros and cons, and sometimes loving children selflessly can also become a fault.
Three years ago, Ms. Chen's marriage to her husband came to an end, and the two eventually ended in divorce. According to the judgment given by the court, the only son of the two, Xiaozheng, was divided among Ms. Chen. That year, Xiao Zheng had just turned 5 years old.
After this, Ms. Chen took Xiaozheng to another city to live, and the mother and son were dependent on each other. Fortunately, through hard work, Ms. Chen soon got a job with a good income, and the life of the mother and son was also improved.
In order to facilitate the care of the children, although Ms. Chen rented a two-bedroom and one-living room, she has always slept in the same bed as her son. Suddenly, the child is 8 years old and is attending a local primary school, but Ms. Chen has not realized that her behavior of sleeping in the same bed with her son has long crossed the line of maternal love.
Not long ago, Ms. Chen changed her pajamas and slept with her son as usual, when the son next to her suddenly said: "Mom, when I grow up, I will marry you." This remark made Ms. Chen stunned for a moment, but she did not perceive the seriousness of the problem, but asked in a joking tone: "Why do you want to marry your mother?" "
The son replied seriously: "The teacher said that boys and girls cannot sleep in the same bed unless they are husband and wife." I want to sleep with my mom all the time, so I definitely want to marry my mom. "
After listening to the child's explanation, Ms. Chen realized that the child has begun to understand the relationship between men and women, and sleeping with him at this time is easy to cause negative effects. So the next morning, Ms. Chen cleaned up the other room and has never shared a bed with her child since.
In fact, many parents, like Ms. Chen, often make some too intimate moves out of love for their children, but as their children grow older, parents fail to stop this behavior in time. So, what kind of negative impact will these too intimate actions bring to the child?
1. Blur the boundaries between the sexes
Children have the most basic understanding of gender around the age of 3, but due to their lack of life experience, this understanding can easily be overturned. If the child reaches this age and the parents still have some too intimate behavior, then their understanding of the boundaries between the sexes will gradually blur.
Once parents maintain this wrong behavior for a long time, then the child will see these intimate acts as normal contact between men and women. Once this misconception is brought into life, the child's social interaction is bound to be affected.
2. Cause precocious puberty in the body and mind
Children begin to produce benign hormones around the age of 8 that are used to stimulate the appearance of secondary sex characteristics. If at this time, parents still maintain some too close behaviors with their children, then it will promote the secretion of sex hormones, resulting in the early appearance of the child's secondary sexual characteristics, which is what we often call physiological precocious puberty.
Not only that, but the special feelings brought about by the intimate actions of parents will make children curious about gender behavior. In this case, the child will learn about the two sexes prematurely, resulting in psychological precocious puberty.
3. Induce impulsive behavior
Because children's minds are immature, most of the time, they are more emotional than rational. In this case, if the child understands the gender behavior too early, it is likely to make some bad moves because of a momentary impulse, which is undoubtedly self-destructive.
Of course, it is not only parents who can have an impact on the growth of children, but also many objective factors. Therefore, sometimes even if the parents do not have cross-border care, the children will have the above problems.
It can be seen that in order to truly solve this problem, parents should pass on the correct knowledge of the two sexes to their children, which is what we often call sex education. So, how exactly should parents complete sex education?
1. Clarify the boundaries between the sexes
When parents educate their children on sex, the most important task is to help their children recognize gender and clarify the boundaries between the sexes. Only in this way can the subsequent children of gender knowledge be more rationally accepted, and there will be no denial of their own gender or some impulsive behavior.
In addition, when children can clarify the boundaries between the sexes, even if their understanding of other gender knowledge is not clear enough, they can avoid many inappropriate actions and ensure the normal progress of social interaction.
2. Teaching in sections
When children have a preliminary understanding of gender, parents can transfer knowledge according to their gender. Because the content of gender knowledge is relatively large, and the age group spanning is relatively large, parents should carry out teaching in stages.
For example, if the child is still relatively young, then the knowledge related to sexual behavior can be avoided for a while. This practice not only allows children to better understand the content of teaching, but also reduces the burden on children and avoids their antipathy to sex education.
3. Enrich teaching methods
Children at different ages have different abilities in all aspects. For example, young children tend to be more receptive to pictures and videos than to text. Therefore, if parents want to improve the effectiveness of sex education, they should adapt to local conditions and enrich teaching methods.
I am Fawn Mommy, but also the mother of the 4-year-old baby, in the process of raising and educating children, encounter any problems can come to ask me, I hope that my little advice can help you solve the confusion and troubles in the process of taking the baby, so that our children can grow better!
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