Introduction: It is said that the daughter is the father's "little lover", the son is the mother's "little lover", and the mother is generally more loving
The love of children, especially mothers, for their sons is actually not the same as the love for their daughters. Mothers are more pampered with their sons, and sons are more attached to their mothers, which will also lead to some children with "Oedipus complexes", but parents must stifle this situation in the cradle, and smart parents do this.
So if the child has this phenomenon, how can parents help the child to successfully pass this period?
First, show understanding but do not give in
In the face of the "Oedipus complex" displayed by the child, as a parent, you must react slowly and firmly. If your son kisses your mouth or touches your private parts, you must tell your child in time and seriously: "I am your mother, you have grown up, you can't do this, when you grow up, you have a wife, you will love your wife as much as your father." "Then tell the child that you love him, that you are a mother to him, that you have no less love for him than when you were a child, but that you are proud and proud of his growth." One day when he grows up enough, he can choose his lover and choose marriage, and this person is the person he likes to love.
Second, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds at home
Parents should pay attention to their own words and deeds at home, do not think that they can walk naked at home, and sleep in separate rooms with their children at a certain age. Mom can't sleep with her son all the time. As a mother, do not bathe with your son, at a certain age to let the child learn to bathe by himself, or by the father, timely mother to help the child bathe do not bathe at the same time, in addition, whether the father or mother do not call the daughter and son their "little lover", you know, you love your child, you are the mother and father love, do not put the "little lover" on the lips, this will have a bad impact on the child. In the same way, let the child know that the parents love the child, but the parent's lover is not the child, the parent can love the child, but it is impossible to regard the child as their lover. Their lovers are husband and wife.
Third, parents should take turns to participate in their children's daily life activities
Especially when the child has a "Oedipus complex", do not accompany the same person to sleep with the child, parents should take turns to accompany the child, nor can the child choose who to sleep with, can be the mother today, tomorrow is the father, the father should not be absent from the child's growth. To give the child a chance, let him feel very happy with the mother, the same with the father also has a different taste, do not let the child have a rejection of the parent's side, which is not good for the "Oedipus complex", the same can not be because the child has this complex on the blind deliberately let the child away from the mother, which has an impact on the child's psychology, we can continue to infiltrate in the usual life. Let the child know that the parents love him.
Fourth, encourage the development of same-sex parent-child relationships
We should encourage fathers and sons, mothers and daughters to carry out parent-child activities, and encourage activities between the same sex, because this is a positive and meaningful relationship for the development of children, fathers and sons together can make sons more masculine, and daughters and mothers together are more gentle and virtuous. When children identify with their same-sex parents, the improvement of some "Oedipus complexes" also has positive significance.
Key tips: If your son is three years old, you find that the child has some "Oedipus complex", do not worry too much and sad, this is also a normal situation, as long as parents can face it calmly, do not ignore and exaggerate this complex, according to the above four practices, with the passage of time and changes, the child will naturally end at the age of seven or eight.
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