Figure | Flying life
Text | Miki porridge
There was a mom who was particularly anxious.
Her children before reading public pu primary school, the book read in general, xiaosheng did not plan at the beginning, planning to continue to read public, who wants the child to suddenly erupt, read to the senior comprehension and self-driving force are up, she is a bit unable to sit still.
Always can't let the school district's vegetable school delay the child's future study of famous schools.
But if according to the standards of the schools at the beginning of the small ascension, the promotion should be a cup award, three good, a certificate, what do you want? Too anxious.
01
I've always thought that the most ambitious moments of parenthood are before a child is born.
Like me, before I had children, I liked to scavenging for souvenirs from top schools: from Harvard and Yale to Princeton and Stanford, badges, school flags, and hoodies were bought for the whole family as soon as they were bought.
At that time, I was full of fantasies about future children, thinking that as long as I tried to create an academic atmosphere, God would also assign me a cow baby:
Three-year-old memorized all Tang poems, five-year-old can carry a clear chicken and rabbit cage, six-year-old can read the history of history, the English word volume requirements do not have to be high, 1500 Haidian requirements can always meet the standard.
Someone else's child can do it, why can't I?
No one would think that the children born of themselves will speak at the age of three and still be slurred, the four-year-old cannot do the addition and subtraction method within ten, and the five-year-old cannot read picture books without his mother;
Extracurricular class art, sports, to Lego robots are not falling, the instrument experienced more than a dozen kinds, tried a circle, it seems that there is no specialty, and finally confessed, this is a real Puwa.
Many people think that parents are desperate until the third grade, but in fact, their fighting souls are extinguished at an early age.
For Puwa, school selection is dispensable, a random school at the door of the house to send in, the nearest can also sleep lazy, very good.
Dad is complacent about this (men are instantly satisfied), compared to the chicken baby around him into the Haidian cattle small friends, get up early and greedy black and drop off, they simply can't be happier.
There are no requirements in school, Puwa, I just hope that good habits can be formed.
At first I wasn't worried about that at all. Since ancient times, it has been said that "words and deeds are taught", and parents are all self-disciplined personalities, focused and serious, and children can naturally get it.
But who would have thought that good habits would also be "mean reversed". The parents are self-disciplined, and they have not been able to produce a baby who goes home to write homework. Can you not be angry?
Buy a few more exercise books to brush up, and someone will jump out and say that you are too chicken, and the child is obviously preparing to accumulate thick hair. Give her space and time to wait for the flowers to bloom.
Well, who wouldn't raise them? The mentality is flat at one end, and there is really no family conflict without forcing homework, and for a time the mother is kind and filial to the child.
But parents relax their children's paddling, chinese mathematics door door bottom, what to learn is not OK, what the test will not be... You give him freedom, he gives you a blank and half-blank dictation paper, and your mouth is hard, don't you also write out a few!
The anxiety of Puwa's parents is not at all in what Qingbei Rattan School, but only to not be at the bottom, okay? Don't you even want face?
Yes, not really. A look of no heart and no lungs, frankly making plankton on the passing line. Occasionally break through 60 points once and feel that you are "great" and ask you for a gift.
Puva has everything except competitiveness; Puva parents can have nothing but patience.
How good is the learning environment now? You help him review his paddling, you give him lectures on what he drinks... Look at the homework, than the silly white sweet Korean drama can be quenched, vertical look at the serial that is a common thing, the application question has two steps, two steps are correct, and finally answer the number copy wrong.
I have seen a mother complain before, 140 words of small essay "remember a fall sports day". The child begins with "Autumn is high, the wind and the sun are beautiful", and then the pen turns and begins to describe the jump rope project, when the referee counts the classmates: one two three four five, count to one hundred and four...
On this, can you still keep calm and "don't yell or scream" to make the baby obedient? unbelief.
02
Schooling is not saved, there will always be a place in life that will blossom. Not dead hearted, so in terms of quality potential, began to rescue exploration.
Running without wrestling, that is, the sports cells have a good sense of development and balance; filling does not paint the picture frame, that is, painting has a little talent that can be cultivated; touching the piano keys and pressing the sound, I think this shows the child's interest in music...
Parents will also have a period of time when they feel that their children's hobbies can be done by the Lord. They have turned over their uncompetited dreams and spread out their grand blueprints——
So prodigies were everywhere.
He started playing golf at the age of two and a half, practicing on a world-class course; playing football at the age of three, asking Manchester United coaches to fly to China every month to teach...
Before watching "Flying Life", the rich second generation Lin Zhendong likes racing, and was sent to the Uk by his family for special training at the age of 10, at that time, he felt that Han Han, are you bragging?
Later, I learned that Lin's prototype boyhood game cost more than 20 million. Cars, races, training, a go-kart burns hundreds of thousands. In order to race cars, the auto repair factory and material company run by the family were sold.
I read the report with a shocked mood and had a feeling of the rest of my life. Fortunately, it was because I raised a Puwa that I blocked the opportunity for my family to go bankrupt.
Just like learning the piano, at the beginning I have always resisted, catching up with the child is not a business, why spend money while making the precarious parent-child relationship worse.
Later, by chance, a friend wanted to sell half and give me a piano. The price is too cheap, I want to move back to be a tea table is also good, lace lid, light and discernible black lacquer, lying in the house is the sense of luxury.
Therefore, my family has a piano first, and then learns the piano.
From scale practice to repertoire, step by step, there is also accompaniment. That's pretty good, Puva.
Friends know, said that your family to learn the piano is too late to start, introduce a teacher to you, don't grope your own fingering. I don't think so, I can't raise Beethoven anyway, no matter how strong it is, isn't it an interest.
Intermittently followed the APP for half a year, the child did not show a special enthusiasm for the piano, anyway, it is a play, think of playing twice.
Sure enough, the child's hobbies were not credible. Three minutes of heat, turn your face and forget to clean. Fun playing the piano? Where is it more fun to watch cartoons and pinch clay?
Thinking that many mothers are worried, they have reported more than 20 kinds of interest classes, but they still haven't found what children like. At the beginning of the study, I expressed good interest, and after a few more classes, I was bored, and I was thinking about how to skip school. This may just be no hobby.
03
They don't seem to have any desire for anything.
This is understandable. Life is like opening a blind box for them, although the process of dismantling is a little exciting, but it is too easy to get, parents are happy to stuff into their hands one, one after another, where will children feel that this is a rare thing?
What they have is only the feeling of emptiness after dismantling.
No desire, no fierceness. Teenage, twenty-something with a pension mentality, life without desire and without passive acceptance, even if it is work, do not fight with others to work hard, it is best to lie down and succeed.
Some of the talents, such as IQ, beauty, talent, can be used do not waste, but no, need to spend time and bother to operate, sorry no interest, parents you do not want too strong.
Are the inheritors of low-desire humanity.
Insensitive to substances, insensitive to money. This reminds me of the little girl in the office before, who did not drink the company's bottled water, ordered small buckets of Farmer Mountain Spring every week, and drank half of it and poured it into the humidifier.
I was shocked, a bucket of ten pieces for humidification? Doesn't she think it's very ordinary? What you drink and blow, in the end, are not all absorbed by yourself? Doesn't matter. It makes sense, but the 80s generation of parents can't convince themselves to do it.
How can it be so hedonistic? The scripts of fate are all bitter and willing, and our high school textbooks write in black and white, "Those who have lofty ideals, things will come to fruition, the cauldron will sink the boat, and the hundred and two Qin Guans will eventually belong to Chu."
So, what if you meet puwa who has no quarrel with the world? Only Daddy and Mom can work harder! Study hard, work hard, work hard to make money, smash pots and sell iron for school district houses, save 200,000 a year and send them to international schools...
But the result is that the harder you try, the more decadent the child becomes. The Douban group "Sea Waste" hugged the group, all for their parents to go abroad to study a book, and then go home after graduation to help their parents spend money. From beginning to end, I have been insisting on chicken parents, working hard to make progress, promotion and earning money.
Some people did not understand before, why some parents and children are raised to a large size to have a second child, is it oversized, or overcapacity? Later, she said that she understood, and only knew until she was raised by the chickens, and the first project had no drama and could only be done again.
It can only be said that this class of parents is really working hard.
Finally, fill in a pit.
The story of our family learning the piano is like this, the personal trainer was not found, and then the school started, and the child signed up for the interview and was recorded. Excitedly, I grabbed her arm and asked, what are you playing, so that the teacher can see that you have musical talent?
She said that when she didn't play the piano, she asked me why I wanted to learn the piano. I said, because I like it.
I took a breath, too casual, then can anyone still pass?
She skimmed her lips and said, how come there is not! The boy in front of him was rejected. Because he said, my mother asked me to come.