A famous foreign novelist once said: "Most of the friction and conflict in daily life is caused by annoying voices, tones of voice, and bad talking habits." That makes a lot of sense. In fact, as long as we carefully observe the people living around us, we will find that the flaws in speech can often lead to the misfortune of personal careers or damage the honor and interests of the institutions we serve, and may also lead to family discord and even worsening tensions in international relations. How well a person talks often determines whether the other party is willing to hire him or associate with him or whether he is willing to vote for him or have a business relationship with him.
In ancient China, there were people who specialized in eloquence, such as Zhang Yi; There are also people like Zhuge Liang who tried to discuss the situation in the world and impress Uncle Liu, so as to get the opportunity to display his political ambitions; There are also the tongue-fighting group Confucianism that has flowed through the ages, so that the people of the world have seen the example of Mr. Wolong's extraordinary talent. A man's ability to speak can show his strength, and a man of good eloquence who speaks convincingly can raise his status a lot, just as people prefer to associate with people who speak count.
Make it clear what you want to express as the premise of interpersonal activities and behaviors, otherwise it is easy to lead to misunderstandings and make communication activities impossible. If a person has an obstacle to speech or insufficient ability to express himself, he will be underestimated, will be spread cruel and ruthless rumors, and will be distorted by people. Even if a person's thoughts shine like stars, even if he is diligent like an old scalper, even if he is knowledgeable like an encyclopedia, if he lacks good communication skills, the chances of success are much less than others, and it is often difficult to achieve his ideal goals.
What's more, they dare not speak in front of people, and it is difficult for such a person to imagine that he can successfully communicate with others, and if he does not communicate with others, he cannot smoothly establish his own network of interpersonal relationships. Dare not speak is the biggest psychological obstacle in interpersonal communication, and it does not help the success of personal life and career, so we must have the courage to resolutely overcome the fact that we dare not speak.
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