A man's tragedy is not that he loses, but that he almost wins.
No one knows when the opportunity will come, but when the opportunity suddenly comes, will you be able to withstand the pressure and successfully show the strength you have accumulated in the past?
Normal or abnormal at critical moments, enough to make two people with the same talent move toward different outcomes, also between the front line, determines the difference between success and pity.
In 1980, a major league scout described a rising star in baseball this way: "He is a rare natural player, more like a superstar than a real superstar; his momentum is difficult for anyone within a radius of 50 miles to resist." 」
He's Billy. Billy Beane, 18 years old at the time, has the physique of a scout's dream, extraordinary athletic talent, perfect physical condition, and can do everything in terms of hitting, long hitting, defending, and base;
Not only is he an impeccable "all-rounder", but he can also hit the wonderful balls that others will find difficult to achieve in a lifetime. For these Scouts, Bean undoubtedly witnessed the birth of a great player, and Bean himself was equally convinced of this.
It's just that the moment Bean stepped into the official major league game, everything changed.
So, in April 1990, Bean finally stopped walking to the pitch. He took off his uniform and moved on to scouting for the Oakland Athletics, entering another phase of his life and kicking off the first chapter of his best-selling novel Moneyball.
Next, there's another story.
By NBA standards, he's certainly not a good player in the "traditional designation." He is medium in height and not very athletic, even though he has won excellent statistics at the NCAA (American College Basketball Championship).
When he entered the 2010 NBA Draft, the scouts still "deliberately" ignored his all-round and balanced performance, leaving him behind. It wasn't until he played in the Summer League that he was selected to join the Golden State Warriors and officially entered the NBA.
It's just that his days in the NBA are another phase of blows for him. After being released by the Warriors and Houston Rockets, he finally won a contract with the New York Knicks.
However, in the process of leaving for New York, he had no intention of making too many preparations, and even planned to spend his life on his brother's couch, because he was not sure how long he would stay in New York.
These unhappiness he experienced, the outside world has always been obscure and unwilling to tell, but he understands from the heart: because he is Asian, even if there are more numbers to support, others just don't believe that he can play.
However, on February 4, 2012, all this changed in an instant.
On that day, during a game against the New Jersey Nets, Nick's main player was injured, leaving the head coach with no cards to play and having to assign him as a substitute who was about to be released three days later.
It was his first chance to take control of the entire team in a regular game, and few people knew him, but he scored a game-high 25 points in one fell swoop, leading Nick to the Nets.
From that day on, he became famous overnight, he used 36 minutes to prove himself, to prove the efforts of the past 10 years, to prove that those prejudices and neglects were wrong; he used 36**** minutes to let the football world see him, so that the eyes of the world can no longer be separated from him.
He's Jeremy Lin, and I'm sure you've heard of him.
Billy. Bean and Jeremy Lin, the same good players, the same seriousness, the same ambition and self-encouragement, but in exchange for the complete opposite result.
When it comes to Bean, you will feel pity, but when it comes to Jeremy Lin, it is inspiring, what is the difference between them? What day and point do they start from, going different paths, facing different outcomes?
At the most critical moment, Jeremy Lin faced pressure, calmly coped, and seized his only chance to continue to survive in the NBA;
But Bean allowed himself and the expectations of the outside world to destroy him, he was out of order, he was afraid of the stage, he always thought too much, and in the end, instead of changing the world, he let the world change him.
In the face of every critical moment in life, you and I may be Jeremy Lin, or we may be Bean. We all want to use our strengths and succeed in important moments such as exams, interviews, negotiations, briefings, etc.
But we are also deeply afraid of the possibility of insanity, because it means that all efforts and preparations will be lost by a momentary failure. "Can this only be the case in this life?" by Kenneth. Kenneth Christian said: "A man's tragedy is not that he loses, but that he almost wins." ”
In a consequential world of winning or losing, no one wants to be the protagonist of tragedy, but the cruel thing is that reality doesn't necessarily give you another chance. Yang Ziqiong, a well-known actor, also said: "You can have dreams, but it is not enough to be like this, you must be ready at ordinary times, and the opportunity will be mastered as soon as it comes." ”
In the case of Jeremy Lin and Bean, the key to seizing the opportunity lies in their performance in the face of stress: normal and abnormal. This is enough to make Jeremy Lin and Bean go to different results, and also between the first line, determine the difference between success and pity.
"Even in the face of pressure and competition, those who can still maximize their personal potential are winners." The book "You Can Be More Than This" clearly points out that under the condition of equal talent and effort, the biggest difference between loser and winner is that the winner can perform better than others under pressure and tension;
This is not luck, nor is it a miracle, it is purely because they have developed a strong psychological quality, so that they can still exert their usual strength and level under great pressure.
In other words, the person who loses to pressure at a critical moment can only get the result of "practicing 100 points, playing 50 points"; however, the winner who can fight against pressure, practice 100 points, the result will also be 100 points.
No wonder American golfer Jack of the '60s. Jack Nicklaus once lamented: "What most frustrated most golfers is not their lack of talent, but their inability to consistently hit good balls." ”
And this ability to remain in danger and calm at critical moments, known in English as Be Clutch, is used to describe the ability of athletes to perform well in the face of extreme pressure such as the NBA Finals and the last hole of the golf tour.
In Japanese, this ability is called "Honban Force", which follows the meaning of the official opening and recording of film and television performances, and uses the means to be able to play the existing strength and abnormality in formal occasions where victory or defeat are at stake and success or failure, and can exert both strength and abnormality.
On March 22, 2012, during the Nickelicks' match against the Philadelphia 76ers, Jeremy Lin assisted the team in a comeback with 10 free throws in the final 10 minutes;
After the game, when talking about the "ten shots and ten shots" penalty, he described every second of his resistance to pressure: "Keep the rhythm of the shot, follow the ball, as long as you don't think too much, the shooting rate will naturally increase." ”
World Golf queen Yani Zeng also described her way of looking at the game and success or failure: "I never knew how much I earned from the game, I just wanted to concentrate on playing every game and getting progress from it." ”
Tiger Woods even generously admits that his knack for winning is simply "believing he will win."
In the case of Jeremy Lin, Yani Zeng, and Tiger Woods, we see a clear trajectory of the "Ben Fan Force" fermented in them: through clear goals and a spirit of self-discipline, they know how to focus on the present and are not affected by success or failure;
Belief in success allows them to stop self-doubt and be prepared to deal with it. More importantly, before they officially played, they all accumulated 10,000 hours of practice and hard work, and had the ability to win, not relying on luck.
In fact, this force is not just the ability needed on the sports field, examination hall or stage. For managers, in the face of the financial tsunami in recent years, the European debt crisis and other shocks, every crisis moment is related to the survival of the enterprise;
Every key decision determines the reputation of an individual, a business, and the future of hundreds or thousands of employees. And it is also at this time that the ability to resist pressure and psychological quality determines the ability of individuals to calmly judge, because everyone does not want to fall here, and everyone hopes to reverse the situation and become famous in a war.
"Just because a person is successful does not mean that he can perform well under pressure; but the person who can resist pressure will definitely be a successful person." Why practice for 100 points and the result is 50 points? by Paul. Paul Sullivan said.
Chances are left to those who are ready, just as Jeremy Lin would not have known that February 4 was about to change his life, but because he was always ready for the game and the pressure, he was able to seize the opportunity and turn everything around in one fell swoop.
We may not be able to become Jeremy Lin, but we can begin to prepare for the future, no longer out of order, no longer bulging, no more failures.
At critical moments, we are no longer the people who have been changed by the world, but the people who have changed the world.