If a person occasionally encounters help from a noble person, it means that the person's luck is very good; but if this person has always met the help of noble people in his life, it means that this person's character is excellent.
What is a "nobleman"?
The explanation from a realistic point of view is: the person who can help you.
Maxima needs Bole, and it is the nobles who provide appreciation and guidance; the people who send goose feathers from thousands of miles, the gifts are light and righteous, and the people who can give you gifts are also your nobles; the people who send charcoal in the snow and help you in times of danger are even more nobles.
In life, we all long to meet noble people.
Just as a man with no talent longs to meet Bole who appreciates him; a man in crisis, longs for help from others.
So why do others always meet nobles, but you have a hard time meeting nobles?
In the final analysis, others have the characteristics and abilities to "suck your physique", and you do not have these abilities.
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What is "sucking your physique"?
Simply put: whether at work, in life or in relationships, this person is often able to encounter "lucky things" and make friends with people who help him.
And analyzing such people, their personality is often like this:
Approach social, proactive and courageous.
They are social and willing to invest time and energy in dealing with people from all walks of life, not skimping on their own conditions and abilities, and willing to give gifts to others.
For example, when they make friends, they never care who the other person is or what their identity is, only whether the other party has the ability.
When the water and electricity at home are broken, he can directly find someone to help repair it; when the car is broken, he can find a reliable person to repair it at the first time without having to go through a lot of trouble; no matter in what field and what aspect he encounters problems, he can find suitable friends to help.
The reason why his circle of friends is so rich and he can meet so many friends is because his attitude towards social is proactive and positive.
Conversely, those who maintain a "normal mind" for social interaction and pay attention to "settling with the situation" are likely to miss out on various opportunities.
You can't deny that in this life, people need your initiative in many cases.
While opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared, it is more important to be prepared and proactive.
Make friends, they can always show their value at the first time.
Another characteristic of the body of the noble person is to show their own value.
Just like the current blind date market, how to make you stand out in a group of blind dates for the first time?
The easiest way is to show yourself and expose your best side, the most shining features of you, to the other person.
In case of enough attraction, there will always be someone willing to approach you.
And one of the essences of social networking is: value exchange.
After the other party sees that you can provide some value for them, they are naturally willing to become friends with you.
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What abilities do you need to have if you want to become a "noble physique"?
First: character online, integrity and kindness are indispensable
No matter how strong a person's ability is, it is only superficial, and he cannot make friends who treat each other sincerely; only when ability and character coexist, can he go further and make more friends.
In social life, a person's character integrity and kindness are particularly important.
It is not enough to be kind but not to have much integrity, and it is not enough to have only honesty but not enough kindness.
What is integrity?
Words spoken, promises given, can be fulfilled.
What is kindness?
Do something, do something, do not do something; the grace of dripping water should be repaid with a gushing spring, and the things that fall into the well should never be done.
Second: Know how to praise and appreciate others at the right time
People who suck up your physique often do not skimp on their praise when they get along with others.
He knows when to praise others and when to appreciate them.
For example, in the company, he can respond to the proposal of his boss and praise the achievements of his colleagues in the first place.
This is not "patting the horse's ass", but knowing how to observe the color of speech and analyze the emotions and psychological states of the other party.
Conversely, those who are wooden and not good at talking do not have an advantage in social interaction.
It's not sleek either, it's something that smart and highly emotionally intelligent people can do, naturally, without embarrassingly praising the other person.
From a psychological point of view, everyone is eager to be recognized by others.
Think about it, when you speak in public, no one but him applauds you, is your heart full of gratitude to him?
Learning to praise and recognize often allows the other person to deepen their impression of you.
Third: the ability to exchange value
First of all, you should have some value yourself; similarly, when dealing with the outside world, you need to be able to analyze what the other person needs and what value you have.
Secondly, you must understand whether in the process of contact between the two of you, you can achieve "maximum benefits", bring some sense of value to each other, and create more benefits.
People often talk about "networking", so what is networking?
The network is from the other party, can get what they want, and then they are willing to cooperate with each other.
Fourth: Have a sense of proportion and be ashamed
Another important feature of "sucking your physique" is that it has a sense of proportion.
Even if there are noble people who often help him, he will not always seek the help of the other party, but know how to stop at the right time.
In the face of small troubles, small things, they never easily use personal connections; this is because he understands that no matter how good the connections, no matter how close the nobles, there are limits.
If you always trouble the nobles because of some trivial things, after a long time, the patience of the other party will be exhausted.
Someone else gives him a point, and he will give more to the other person, which is called a clear conscience.
If a person can have these abilities and traits, then he can be regarded as a real "sucker physique".
Today's Topic:
In your life, do you often encounter "noble people"?
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