Many times, we will feel that explaining clearly will make others understand themselves better, understand themselves better, and can eliminate misunderstandings and avoid trouble.
But, most of the time, the more you talk, the more detailed you explain, in the eyes of others, it becomes a cover-up.
Even, the richer you speak, the more others will exert their own imagination space, and all your words will become another look.
Therefore, a lot of explanations are not necessary.
For people who trust, you don't explain, he also believes in you; for people who don't trust you, your explanation makes him find the pleasure of eating melons; and for strangers, people don't care how you are.
Therefore, when people live for a lifetime, they can recognize themselves, live with peace of mind, and do things with a clear conscience.
Smart people don't explain much, just like the enemy will not believe his opponent, and no matter how much you explain, he will not believe.
If the sky is always overcast, then when it has rained through, the sun will naturally come out from behind the clouds.
When you can prove yourself with actions in a down-to-earth manner, it will be more direct and effective than the explanation, and it will also hit some people in the face.
Without explanation, the pattern of life is expanded
There is a proverb: No matter how big the pancake is, it is not as big as its pan.
Everyone, in fact, is a pie, reality and life is that big pot, whether you are satisfied with yourself or not, it all depends on how full you can make yourself in this pot.
Therefore, let your heart be a little bigger, let the pattern be wider, face some people's provocations, and misunderstandings, don't let yourself be seduced by emotions, is to live through.
Everyone stands from a different perspective, and the essence of things will be different.
One person stands on the top of the mountain, showing others the green mountains and rivers in front of him, the mountains and rivers are magnificent, while the other person stands on the mountainside and sees a complicated chaotic world, flowers and grasses on the side of the mountain road.
Different roads, different plots.
The scenery in the eyes is different, the outlook on life, the values, will be different.
So, maybe in your opinion, some things are the stars and the sea, maybe in the eyes of others, just trivial.
In our lifetime, we will meet countless people, it is impossible for everyone to know how to think in empathy, nor can everyone be able to consider your problem from a different perspective, most people are based on their own experience, the experience accumulated, to judge the life of others.
So, make your pattern a little bigger, no need to explain, silence is golden.
Don't explain, don't live in the eyes of others
There is a Zen saying: There is something small in the world in the heart, and nothing in the heart is wide.
It can be seen that between a thought, there is a world of difference. Therefore, if you have troubles and troubles in your heart, you may wish to put them down, let yourself forget, keep your heart, don't live in the eyes of others, and don't invite too many people into your own life.
Most people in this world are used to getting, forget to be grateful, get used to seeing other people's jokes, and forget that they are also people in other people' populations.
So, your world is your own, it has nothing to do with others, everyone has their own way of life, they all have their own life, and no one can really feel your pain or happiness.
Your experience is only clearest to you, your getting and giving, and only you understand the bitterness in it.
So, why bother to care what others say about you? Let your mood fly and let your troubles go with the wind!
Many people will blame their own failures on others, and will also blame their own grievances on others, at this time, your explanation is just in the middle, giving him the opportunity to vent his unhappiness.
Treating this kind of person and ignoring it is to give him the greatest blow back.
Being a strong person in life is exactly like a glass of water, the more it shakes, the more turbid it will be, and if it sits for a while, it will sink the impurities to the bottom.
Don't force the explanation, some people's "bad" is that they don't care about what you explain, but just want to see the "ugly state" of your explanation.
Do not explain, believe that everything has a cause and effect
I still remember an actor I once liked, innocently encountered a cyber storm, and the terrible thing is that the time actually lasted for more than a year.
However, in this world, the most touching thing is that the pure person purifies himself.
People who have been blown up by the Internet for a year do not have any life stains after all, and are criticized by some glamorous rays.
And this year, that person did not say a word, did not say a word. A year later, his life and career took to a whole new level.
It can be seen that not explaining is an attitude towards life and the wind and bone of a person.
So-called, people are doing, the sky is watching. Everything has its causal relationship, it is inconclusive, and time will tell others the answer.
A person's words and deeds will leave traces, and all your life trajectories will form an evaluation of you in the eyes of others.
Therefore, good and evil are beautiful and ugly, and there is a public opinion.
It is not a person who speaks in a vacuum, and if he does not have the slightest flaw in his explanation, he can bury his past words and deeds, if this person's personality is really disgraceful, then the more he says, others will only see his hypocrisy.
Therefore, people live a lifetime, live a little kinder, be sincere, and be grateful, in order to make their lives clean and clear, not stained with dust.
Don't explain, let everything go with the flow
The world is full of colors.
Every day, we will come into contact with new people and there will be new things happening.
We can't always care about everyone, and a person like Wang Xifeng, who is so exquisite, can't avoid being vilified behind the back of a group of people.
Nor can we do anything, all perfectly, without any flaws.
So, if there is a disagreement, a misunderstanding, a trouble... Don't think about it, don't explain it, let everything go naturally, and let yourself live a little simpler.
A lot of the stakes, you count, are nothing more than a void.
Gains and losses follow fate, gathering and dispersing at will, but it will be better.
Many people will always trap themselves in a complicated network of relationships, consider this, worry about that, let themselves live a tired life, but forget that the person who needs to be worried about the most is themselves.
So, you might as well be simple, focus on yourself, know that other people's ideas, you simply can't control, the only thing you can do, is to do yourself.
The years are long, no matter how delicate the planning, no matter how carefully woven the net, there will be loopholes.
To live soberly is not to explain, to be pure-hearted, to be humble, and to let others think as they please, and everything has nothing to do with themselves.
Finally, may everyone live like a child and "laugh at life" in simplicity.
Wen, the frank fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!