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Have you ever thought that one day in the future, your wife and children are gone, and your children are gradually starting a family, how will you spend the rest of your life alone?
Many people may think that such a thing is still far away, but in fact, many elderly people are facing such a situation. They can't adapt to the days when their wives and children are gone, and they don't want to live with their children, so they carry it alone and live alone.
Life is full of wind and rain, a person in the old age, most of the children have established a family, they have also entered the empty nest period of the old age. If you don't have a close partner to rely on, you can also take the initiative to rely on these three people to make your old age more happy than living alone.
Of course, this kind of dependence does not mean becoming a burden and burden on the other party, or morally kidnapping others to pay for themselves, but a two-way emotional sustenance.
In your old age, you must understand that there is no free lunch in this world, and no one must bear the rest of your life.
It's just that everyone can't live as an island, and we can indeed make our lives happier than dragging our elderly and sickly bodies to live alone and rely on others appropriately.
01: Kids
The relationship between parents and children is inseparable, and the depth of each other's feelings is inseparable from the time they spend together bit by bit. In the old age of a person, if he lives the life of an empty nest elderly alone, his filial piety children will also feel guilty in their hearts.
The ancients said: "Raise children to prevent old age, jigu to prevent hunger." ”
In real life, many parents do not expect their children to provide for themselves, but are worried that they will not be able to give their offspring better living conditions.
However, no one can erase the kindness of parents to their children.
In the first half of your life, you work hard for the family, single-mindedly raising your children to grow up; in the second half of your life, you gradually become old and weak, and the children should also be filial to you as you take care of him.
The relationship between a person and a child is maintained not only by blood, but also by affection.
If one day, your wife and children take a step first, then no matter what, you must know how to rely on your own children, do not have to trouble him with everything, but when there is something that needs help, you must open your mouth in time.
If you feel embarrassed, just endure alone, in the future, if a small thing becomes a big thing, a small illness becomes a major illness, and the worry is still the child, so even if it is to make the child worry-free, don't just report the good news and not the worry.
02: Neighbors
There is an old saying that goes, "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." ”
In the old age, people have warm-hearted neighbors around them, and their happiness will be better.
In everyday life, familiar neighbors will take the initiative to greet you, and when you need help, they will also take the initiative to reach out.
I once watched a video of a woman on the Internet share that she had been traveling for a long time because of her work, and every time she came back, she found that there was a pile of garbage at her door.
She angrily found the property in the community, trying to find the person who had no quality, but she did not expect the ending to break her defenses in an instant.
It turned out that the garbage in front of her door was thrown by the neighbor opposite, and the grandmother not only went to her door every day to change the garbage and throw it away, but also took the initiative to clean up the advertising notes on the door for her.
From the surveillance of the corridor, the woman saw that there was a strange man who was always hovering in front of his door, alone in his own home, obviously a kind of surveillance and temptation, with bad intentions.
The neighbor deliberately faked the illusion that her house was inhabited every day, and successfully dissuaded the strange man with a ghost fetus.
There are many enthusiastic people in this world, compared to relatives who are far away in the sky, neighbors who are close at hand, may make you feel warm in ordinary life.
When people get along with each other, they all pay attention to heart-to-heart.
In old age, if you are kind and kind, your neighbors will naturally not hesitate to give you the help you can, and if you are harsh and mean, others will avoid it.
03: Yourself
I often hear people say, "It is better to rely on others than on yourself." ”
Life in the world, only if you can stand on your own, life has the most reliable backing, especially when people are old, no matter what, they must take good care of their bodies and cultivate a strong heart.
Only by becoming your own reliance can you make your life more secure and secure in the future.
After all, no one but ourselves can accompany us to the end of life.
Goethe once said: "Although we can grow up under the protection of our parents and relatives, rely on our brothers and friends, and get happiness from our lovers through the support of friends, in any case, in the final analysis, human beings are still dependent on themselves." ”
A person's happiness is controlled by yourself, you treat people kindly, others will also be gentle to you; you are responsible for your children, children will also be attentive to you; you do not give up self-growth, who will not limit your growth space.
People live in the world, and every day they spend and have a choice can affect the happiness of their lives.
We can't stop getting old, but you can choose the way to get old, if one day your wife and children leave one step ahead of you, please learn to rely on the above three people, only in this way, the road in the future will be smoother.
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