Because a thrilling thing happened this afternoon, it made my heart palpitate, and it also caused Lao Meng to think.
In the afternoon, I took a taxi out to run errands, and the taxi driver had gray hair and felt at least fifty years old. The driver was an old smoking gun, and when he got into the car, he held a cigarette in his left hand, put his arm on the window, drove with one hand, and drove fast. I was afraid of an accident and reminded: "Brother, I am not in a hurry, you drive slowly." "Who knew that this old brother was still quite talkative, and talked to me about how he had driven a taxi for more than twenty years and had not had an accident. He also said that don't look at the number of people and cars, if there is a car coming, they will avoid it themselves. Just as I was turning a corner to reach my destination, there was an old man riding a bicycle on the side of the road, and when we were about to pass him, he suddenly turned in the direction of the middle of the road, frightening the driver's brother to hit the brakes in the direction of the brakes, but still hit an oncoming car. I reacted and opened the door to get out of the car, saw that the uncle on the bicycle seemed to have been rubbed or fell down by himself, looked back to see that there was an accident here, stood up and patted the soil on his body, and rode away calmly. The driver got out of the car to deal with the accident, and confiscated my money, I heard the elder brother say a sentence before leaving: "After playing with the eagle for a lifetime, I didn't expect to let the eagle peck the eyes today..."
Old Meng, usually love to think about things, the driver's words made me ponder for an afternoon. It is not uncommon to find this kind of thing from ancient times to the present.
"Give me a dozen healthy babies, and the special environment that suits me to nurture them, and I can guarantee training them to be whatever I want, to become doctors, lawyers, artists, business owners, and even beggar thieves." This is the famous saying of the famous American psychologist Watson, but it is such a psychologist that all three of his children suffer from severe depression.
The careless loss of Guan Yu in Jingzhou directly led to the decline of the Shu Han Dynasty, resulting in the expectation of "three divisions of the world" becoming a bubble, is such a big mistake just a "carelessness" can be interpreted?
Taxi drivers, Watson, and Guan Yu seem to be people who have nothing to do with each other, but similar things have happened to them, paralyzing in their own experienced and accomplished areas that lead to the overturning of the gutter, thinking that they are experienced, but they have forgotten the key point: everything is expected to be under the condition that others also obey the rules, and when the rules are broken, accidents follow. The open gun is easy to dodge the dark arrow, which is the dark arrow effect. Just as the so-called great general is not afraid of a thousand armies, he is afraid of inch iron, and this "inch of iron" is "dark arrow."
Intuition comes first, and strategic reasoning comes after animal instinct. Where does this instinct come from? Because the survival of animals follows the principle of low energy consumption, for example, if there is a short road, it will not go to the long road, unless there is another advantage to the far road. The same is true of people's thinking, intuition is from the past lessons of the zui good program stored in the subconscious, intuition to deal with the problem has a zui big advantage is fast, because there is no need to think again. But what about a situation you've never encountered before? Intuitive judgment often pushes us down the wrong path.
This effect gives us two lessons:
One. Accidents can happen when we think we're all in control, and the more conceited we are, the more serious the consequences tend to be.
For example, many teachers around me often do not educate their children well, either too strict or too spoiled, in the final analysis, they always take the state of work out to treat their children, and do not think about how to deal with them according to the specific situation of the children. Many elderly people are also prone to fall into this misunderstanding, thinking that they have brought their children into adulthood, and still use you young people to teach me how to educate children? As everyone knows, today's world is changing with each passing day, and they have not seen the unexpected "dark arrows" everywhere.
Two. The way to avoid the "dark arrow effect" is actually one of them, that is, to remain enthusiastic, modest, and do not forget the original intention.
Pygmalion was the great sculptor of the Cypriot zui, and the last work of his life was to carve a woman out of ivory, and Pygmalion gave this statue all his energy, all his passion, all his love. After zui, the statue actually came to life.
Well, today's thinking will be shared here, to sum up: "Dark Arrow Effect" is that everything is expected to be in the case of others also obeying the rules, and when the rules are broken, accidents also follow. Accidents can happen when we think we're all in control, and the more conceited we are, the more serious the consequences tend to be. The way to avoid the "dark arrow effect" is to remain enthusiastic, modest, and unmotivated.
Lao Meng will regularly share thoughts on psychology, and like friends to point out a note.