Don't take desire for ambition
Shanghai 14-year-old girl who jumped off a building to commit suicide with a thousand words of suicide note, words and pearls of heart.
She said that although she tried her best, she still could not meet the requirements of her parents' top ten in class and the top twenty in the grade, and if she did not meet the requirements, it was a severe beating.
She said that she is the spokesperson for strict filial piety, the tool for parents to compete in front of friends, polite in front of people, but after people, when they do not meet your standards, they face not encouragement, but dirty insults, beatings....
Mr. Liang Shuming said: "It is that I think I have ambition, but often I have ambition but desire."
Psychological counselor Zhang Xinyue, through the study of modern people's anxiety, explained that modern people often misunderstand their desires as ambition.
Like the parents of this 14-year-old girl, they imposed their desire for fame and profit and the envious gaze of others on the 14-year-old girl.
Ask her to pass the top ten of the class and the top twenty of the grade;
So that she can become a tool for parents to compete in front of friends.
The behavior of the girl's parents shows that they regard their desires as the ambition to cultivate their daughters.
Looking forward to jackie chan, hoping that the daughter will become a phoenix is the long-cherished wish of every family, and many parents will impose their unfulfilled wishes on the children' bodies, which is a manifestation of their anxiety, and their anxiety causes great harm to the children's body and mind.
Zhang Xinyue analyzed the reasons why modern people form various anxieties in the book "Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite at a time".
At the same time, she also teaches everyone in the book, in the face of anxiety, how to resolve it, she lets everyone keep a paper distance from life.
How to maintain a paper distance from life, Zhang Xinyue teaches everyone how to practice deliberately with independent writing in the book.
Writing is just a conversation between yourself and yourself.
When you have a lot to say but can't find the right person to listen to.
When you have a lot of things to vent about, but you can't find something suitable for carrying.
At these times, the paper is the object of your conversation, and the rustle of the pen tip across the paper has a healing feeling.
Zhang Xinyue in the book "Anxiety is an Elephant, How to Eat It In One Bite" especially advocates the use of independent writing to deliberately practice to cure anxiety.
She also teaches everyone how to start writing deliberately on their own step by step.
I have always had the habit of keeping a diary, and there are always ditches and bumps in life, and it is precisely this habit that helps me get through it every time it is not going well.
Looking back at the diary I wrote before, every time I look at it, I have a new understanding, and my soul grows.
It is recommended that you take a look at this psychological counselor Zhang Xinyue's masterpiece "Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite" and practice the habit of writing and practicing deliberately.
