Before giving birth, many friends asked me if I wanted a daughter or a boy, and I said without hesitation every time: "Boy!" "Friends always laugh at me and say that I am not patriarchal, I just think raising a daughter is more worrying than raising a son."
After having a daughter, this feeling is even more real.
There is a saying that the adopted woman knows the dangers of the world, and women, as a vulnerable group, may face more dangers and disadvantages in society.
I once knew a teacher, and in life, he was a complete tough guy. But every time he talks about his daughter, his face will always frown, and every time his daughter is not around, there are always some gains and losses, and he is often laughed at by our friends around us as "daughter slaves".
The friend's daughter is now more than 3 years old, but his worries are growing. In the face of everyone's disapproving ridicule, he told us his thoughts. Because as a man, he knows the dangers of the outside world better than women. Every time he saw the news of the disappearance and deception of the female student, he would take a book to carefully summarize the main points and prevention points in the incident, and then he would play it as a game with his daughter, and while playing, he would tell his daughter what he had summarized.
At that time, I thought I admired him and was touched by the way he loved his daughter.
Many people think that it is good that girls are kind and simple, but often girls are too kind and bring misfortune.
If kindness had hurt my daughter, I'd rather my daughter not be so kind.
The movie "Blind Mountain" must be familiar to everyone. Blind Mountain prototype was sentenced to death: The prototype was Zheng Xiuli, a northeastern girl, who was finally sentenced to a suspended death sentence for intentional injury. The girl did not kill the man who bought her, but in the case of mental and physical damage, she finally poured sulfuric acid on her brother-in-law's boneless children, and a total of 7 children were burned by sulfuric acid.
Stills from the film Blind Mountain
The story goes like this:
The kind and simple Zheng Xiuli, who once worked in Zhuhai, was tricked into going to Huaping Village, Shengjiang, Luoding City, Guangdong Province, in 1994 to be a wife for Guo Meinan, a 49-year-old farmer. She did not follow at all, but Guo Meinan raped her with the help of her brother and sister-in-law, and she found the local police station, but was suspected of cheating money and not accepting it. The people in the village think that she bought it, she should be honest and obedient, and then she became pregnant and gave birth to a child, and she also wanted to live a comforting life, because she could not bear the insults of her brother and sister-in-law, and the family contradictions became more and more intense, Zheng Xiuli poured a cup of sulfuric acid on her brother-in-law's two children, as well as 5 other primary school students, and she was sentenced to a suspended death sentence for intentional injury.
In real life, "silly white sweet" will only become a prey, so be sure to remember to teach your daughter three truths.
1, the personality should be like a cactus
It is prickly on the outside and nutritious on the inside. From ancient times to the present, it seems that suppleness and obedience are the best for girls. Most of the "good marriage styles" circulating on the Internet are girls with long hair, gentle personalities, and shallow smiles.
Gentleness is of course a plus, but gentleness with strength is what a girl should look like. Because life never beckons and says, "Little girl come over and we are reasonable", life will only have a big mouth to beat you on the ground and say, "Fool, learn to point".
2) Arrogance is an obstacle to survival
In the past two days, a piece of news about college students insulting the takeaway brother has spread, and a girl in the video has repeatedly exploded foul language, including insulting language such as "you are my son when you work here" and "if you don't have money, give me a good job, and give me only promises to be good" and so on.
The incident occurred in a vocational and technical college in Hefei, Anhui Province, and this single takeaway could not be delivered normally due to the wrong mobile phone number of the students of the school. When delivering again, the takeaway brother hoped that the college student would say thank you, but did not wait for the thanks, but attracted a period of insults. After the incident, the school involved said that it would carry out critical education for students.
At present, the takeaway brother has submitted his resignation due to his bad state. Many netizens, while feeling sorry for the takeaway brother, also criticized the college student: even if they don't want to say "thank you", they have no right to insult others.
Perhaps the work of the takeaway brother is not so glamorous in her opinion, but not glamorous does not mean humble, they are like most people in society, they are using their labor to earn "three meals a day" for themselves and their families. To some extent, each of us is a service provider of "others", respecting others is naturally also respecting ourselves, and all people are born equal.
Science fiction writer Liu Cixin said this: Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
No matter how you behave or do, you must have good intentions and be kind to others. Only by knowing how to respect can we gain respect. Arrogant and arrogant, arrogant, will eventually only eat their own evil consequences.
3. A jar full of gold coins cannot be shaken
A jar full of gold coins could not be shaken, and a jar containing only three or five gold coins shook very loudly. At any time, the most important thing for girls is to enrich themselves, read more, exercise more, and become the best version of themselves in the greatest range.
You know, people who are better than you, work harder than you, this is not an internal volume and internal friction, but a reminder and a hard work. Choose to fight, refuse to lie flat, and believe that the road of life will be more exciting and less bumpy.