Message Do Not Disturb is my most commonly used WeChat feature. There are usually two reasons for setting a person's message to do not disturb, one is that I don't care about this person at all or even hate it a little, and I really don't want to be disturbed by him.
Another reason is that when I start expecting news from someone, it's also set to Do Not Disturb.
It sounds quite screwed, but the more people care, the more they will not disturb, and humans are sometimes so strange.
I guess friends who have had ambiguous experiences should be able to understand it, in the stage of the relationship is not very clear, you can not ask the other party to return seconds, or must send you a message at what time, and you always can't control the first second to return to him after seeing the message.
As soon as the message was sent, the whole person was nervous. At this time, you will be particularly afraid of the WeChat prompt, afraid that the other party's reply will disappoint, and even more afraid of not seeing him.
Every time the phone rings, I will look forward to it, is it not that he has replied to the message.
Open a push that is either news or insignificant, and put the phone lock screen aside in frustration. Waiting makes people wither, you will find that time goes very slowly and slowly, put down the phone and can't help but pick it up and put it down, it is only five minutes have passed.
Anticipation can make people anxious and anxious, and it will also consume unnecessary emotions, so it is set up as a do-not-disturb pretending not to be expecting. By the way, the left slide does not show the dialog box, the eye is not bothered, and the best thing humans are good at is to deceive themselves.
Try to drag yourself back to the normal trajectory of life in this way, forcing yourself not to focus on waiting for news.
I think I can effectively reduce expectations and avoid loss, but in fact, even if I open Do Not Disturb, even if I put down my mobile phone to chase dramas, play games or clean up, and invest in another thing with strong continuity, I will still unconsciously check the message over and over again, for fear of missing it, and accidentally become another form of special care.
All expectations start with a message don't be disturbed.
I thought that opening the phone again was like opening a blind box, and there would be an unexpected surprise when you received the message, but the truth is that you pretend to check the message carelessly in the gap between waiting for the subway after work, you watch an episode of the TV series from the plot back to the gods to think of going to see WeChat, you take a shower and hurriedly wrap up a bath towel to dry your hands to open WeChat, and you don't see the small red dot you expected on the profile picture of the person who does not disturb.
It may also happen that when arguing with your boyfriend, retaliation deliberately opens Do Not Disturb to delay replying to messages and pretends not to care so much.
But in my experience, I advise friends not to message people who care. First of all, I admit that this is a self-deceptive behavior, obviously very much looking forward to it, but pretending not to be waiting, so screwed up and did not make themselves feel good, the inner expectation will not be eliminated with a key mute, every time you open WeChat without receiving a message but more disappointed.
The most important thing is that being found by the other party is really difficult to explain!! Once with my boyfriend to make a fuss about not disturbing, originally both of them were almost reconciled, he saw the do not disturb sign I set, felt that I did not care about him and this relationship, and almost quarreled because of this matter, explained a good pass to lift the misunderstanding.
It's not difficult for this to happen between couples, two people can at least open the skylight to say bright words, if they are still in an ambiguous relationship is found out, it is even more tricky and embarrassing.
On Douban, I saw a girl who set the crush to a message to be undisturbed. During a chat, she accidentally sent a screenshot of their dialog box to Crush, and Crush ignored her since then.
The sisters in the group helped analyze the reasons, the most likely because Crush saw that she set up a do not disturb, mistakenly thinking that the girl was very annoyed with herself, or guessing whether she was raising fish, but because she was still an ambiguous object, it was not convenient to ask directly, so she could only silently stay away.
This girl is also quite aggrieved, in fact, there has not been any unpleasantness between the two, but she unilaterally set up a do not disturb in order to reduce expectations and not want to let herself go so quickly. This time it is suspected that the other party misunderstood and did not bring it up, he took the initiative to explain that he was afraid of being sentimental, and it seemed quite pretentious to explain.
Harm, the relationship that had the opportunity to develop well was misunderstood, and the boyfriend who may have arrived will be so gone, so ah, don't easily set the person you like to not disturb. If the other party's attitude is not clear, there is no need to give a chance. The best state in love is to be generous and not to screw up, and I wish that every expectation of you will not be disappointed and respond.
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