The death of a loved one, no crying, no emotional breakdown, is it cold-blooded?

Some netizens said: My dad died half a month ago, but it is very strange that I did not collapse, did not cry, but was unusually calm, is it because I was cold-blooded?

Not really.

There are great differences between people, and there are also great similarities. I believe that many people have encountered or heard about the situation encountered by this netizen. I also have the same question: This is my dear one, why can't I cry? Am I just a cold-blooded and ruthless person?

Let's listen to a story, the story is from "The World Speaks a New Language"

Jian Wenbeng, Xiao Wu was more than ten years old, standing, until he was not coming. Left and right: "As usual". Emperor Yue: "If you mourn until you cry, how often there is!" ”

JianWen: Sima Yu, Emperor Jianwen Solstice: Twilight: Twilight. PRO: Crying hanging. Loved ones die, crying on time. Translation: Emperor Jianwen died, when Emperor Xiaowu was only a teenager, he became emperor and did not cry until dusk. The attendant next to him said: It is common sense to go to mourning. Emperor Xiaowu said: When the pole of grief is naturally weeping, what common sense can be said!

It seems that the death of a loved one has not cried or cried since ancient times, even the emperor is no exception. It's not cold-blooded, it's just that deep down we haven't accepted the reality of the death of a loved one, and we haven't yet understood the meaning of what is truly lost. There is no way to grieve to the extreme. Maybe in the middle of a night, you will think of the bits and pieces of your relatives, sounds and smiles, but you will never see them again, they will be lost forever, and maybe at that moment they will be sad from the heart. Crying out.

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Don't be too harsh on yourself, you're not cold-blooded, you just haven't accepted it yet.