Not being afraid of rejection is a spirit, but also a character, but also a realm of life. Longing for the harmony of interpersonal relationships, and even the glory of life, we should not be able to avoid the oncoming rejection.
In a person's life, I don't know how many times you have to face rejection: when you enter the examination room with fervent expectations, and after anxious waiting, you are a famous grandson, and you have no choice but to try again under the guidance of others, and the result is still no name on the gold list; When you hold a variety of documents, confidently into the company that actually does not have high recruitment requirements, after a round of questions and answers, the other party just threw a cold sentence "we really don't need a talent like you"; When you have worked hard and finally written a novel that you think is quite good, and you have posted one publication after another, the result is that the stone sinks into the sea and there is no news; When you try your best to promote and recommend a new product to others, people just easily reply "Don't waste time, we won't buy it"; When you finally plucked up the courage to hand over the love letter that was enough to move you to the girl who had a crush for a long time, what you received was "we are really not suitable, please go find other girls" and other excuses... Almost every day you can encounter a lot of rejections of one kind or another, it can be said that countless rejections are always around you.
How do you feel about all kinds of rejections? Perhaps, you act very sensitive, feel disgraced, and feel useless; Perhaps, your frustration is so strong that you are ashamed and angry; Perhaps, you have given up on yourself and are not willing to make any more attempts... However, have you ever thought that this will not only not help you in the slightest, but will also affect your self-feeling, and even produce an unhealthy defensive mentality, resulting in giving in and avoiding measures on things that can be worked on, thus losing many precious opportunities.
It's not terrible to be rejected by others, it's scary to be too sensitive and vulnerable. In life, there are many masters of dealing with the world, and they have proved with practical actions: If you want to establish good interpersonal relationships and achieve a career, you must learn to silently bear rejection, only in this way can you better achieve your wishes.
Stallone's childhood can be said to be extremely tragic, his father was a gambler and his mother was an alcoholic. His father lost the bet and beat his wife and beat him; when his mother was drunk, she also took him out of anger and vented. He grew up in the midst of domestic violence, often beaten to the point where his nose was blue and his face was swollen and his skin was fleshy. After dropping out of high school, he became a street thug because he didn't have a skill.
When Stallone was 20 years old, he was determined to take a very different path from his parents and live like a person. He thought of being an actor, because actors don't need a diploma, they don't need capital, and once they succeed, they can gain fame and fortune. So he came to Hollywood, looking for stars, for directors, for producers... Looking for everyone who might make him an actor, he pleaded everywhere: "Give me a chance, I want to be an actor, I will succeed."
Stallone was rejected again and again. But he was not discouraged, because he knew that there must be a reason for failure. Every time he was rejected, he suffered in silence, and then he seriously reflected, reviewed, and studied again. He was convinced that he could succeed, and under the domination of this belief, he went to find someone again, and then he was rejected again and again...
One day after he had been rejected more than 1,300 times, a director who had rejected him more than 20 times said to him, "I don't know if you can play well, but I am touched by your spirit." I can give you a chance to shoot only one episode first, let you be the male lead, and see the effect. ”
For the arrival of this moment, Stallone has been preparing for more than 3 years, and finally can try it. He wants the opportunity to come easily, never give up in the slightest, and throw himself into the others.
The first episode of the TV series set a record for the highest rating in the United States at the time – he succeeded!
Rocky
Can you face more than 1300 rejections and not give up? Stallone can! He can silently endure rejection and do things that others can't do, so he can succeed. In fact, you can do the same. However, you must understand: treat rejection as a grinding stone, and be willing to accept the unforgettable hard work; Treat rejection as a fascinating book, and slowly feel it in the edification of over and over again; Treat rejection as a confidant friend, willing to spend the vicissitudes with it...
No, maybe that's not enough! In order for you to be able to do what others can't, you must have the following qualities when you encounter rejection by others:
Have good psychological qualities
No matter how much you don't want to be turned away, many times you have to appreciate such treatment. In this regard, you must have a good psychological quality, rational behavior and broad mind, so that you can be fully prepared for rejection, so as not to cause yourself to be overly excited and sad.
Have the courage to face it calmly
In life, if you are rejected and stop moving forward, cowering, your life will be stranded, closed, and thus returned to mediocrity. On the contrary, if you have the courage and courage to face rejection calmly, you can get the respect of the other party, so that the peaks and turns, the willow is dark.
Be tough and resistant
When you are rejected, if you have the tenacity and patience to persevere, persevere, and persevere, you will win a stronger faith, a more complete life, and you will have no regrets in this life. Conversely, by withdrawing in the face of rejection, you will not only be ridiculed by the other side, but also difficult to succeed.
Trust yourself
To bear rejection means to have a calm, a calm, and a maximum trust in yourself. It is to believe that one's goals, one's own choices, one's own path, one's own ways will stand the test of time. Otherwise, as soon as you are rejected, you will be full of doubts about yourself, or even waver, and there will never be a day to emerge.
In the rejection, find the deficiency, rise up and catch up; In the midst of rejection, temper the will and find a way out; In the midst of rejection, enrich yourself and perfect your life; In the rejection, the love is interpreted beautifully and movingly, and the love is expressed freely; In the midst of rejection, chew the bittersweet and sour taste of life, taste the ups and downs of the years... In this way, you can win a turnaround for yourself and enjoy the glory of life!