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Friday is my father-in-law's 70th birthday.
A long time ago, my father-in-law said that when he was 70th birthday, he must have a big one.
No, a month ago, my father-in-law told my husband to book a hotel for him.
At around 10:30 a.m., relatives arrived at the hotel one after another.
The first to come was my aunt's family, and after greeting her in-laws with her brother-in-law for a while, she walked straight to me, "Zhang Ning, you are still blessed, you don't have to go to work, and you can come to the restaurant to have a delicious meal." ”
The surprise is that her daughter-in-law is not as blessed by me, so she can only go home after work and cook by herself.
I smiled and said, "Of course, I paid thousands of dollars for this meal?" ”
Who knows, my aunt glanced at me fiercely and said, "How much money is spent, and it is also my nephew's hard-earned money, which has nothing to do with you." You're at home, but you can't earn a penny. ”
Listen, it looks like I'm just at home!
I scolded her directly: "Although I don't make money, if I really get divorced, your nephew will earn at least half of my money." ”
For this kind of nosy and blind elders, using the word "respect" is really exalting her.
My aunt wanted to reply to me, but when she saw that I was busy greeting other relatives, she stopped talking.
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Then came the uncle's family, who worked as a Chinese teacher in a middle school, and her mouth has always been strong.
"Yo, Zhang Ning! Your big talent is not as useful as my small talent, I can still teach and educate people, you! can only be a mother at home. My aunt patted me on the shoulder as she spoke.
She was so embarrassed to mention her job, seeing that she was about to retire, she didn't pay any attention to teaching, and the class she taught went back to the bottom of the exam.
Since she said that I was an old mother, I had to reply to her with this: "You are really right, little aunt, my old mother is at least better than you, at least the grades of the two children will always be on the school honor list." ”
As soon as she got the results, the little aunt hurriedly walked away.
Now there are some people! I don't work well, I just think about sarcastic people all day long, I want to show off something. In fact, if you look closely, there is really nothing to show off.
Later, my aunt and uncles also came forward and sneered at me again.
I'm surprised, who did I recruit and provoke whom? I don't go to work, and I have the bitterness and helplessness of not going to work.
It's like if I don't go to work, it's like violating their family's rules!
But they also don't want to think about it, if I go to work and the children are all lost to my in-laws, can my in-laws still help them take care of their parents wholeheartedly?
Forget it, some relatives obviously enjoy your benefits, but they dislike you.
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In the end, some old colleagues of my father-in-law came, and they came up and said that my father-in-law was so blessed that he didn't have to take care of the next generation, and he could devote all his energy to his parents.
Next, the conversation changed and said that I didn't go out to find a job while I was young, and I really wasted such a high diploma.
You see, what a group of people with double standards.
But because my father-in-law was present, I had to smile indifferently.
During the banquet, everyone was just about to raise their glasses to congratulate my father-in-law, but my mother-in-law opened her mouth before them.
"Let me interject first, in our family, the credit should belong to my daughter-in-law. If it weren't for her selfless dedication, the four old people would not have enjoyed their old age in peace, and my wife and I would not have sat here like we do today......"
When my mother-in-law said this, the audience was dumbfounded, as if I had a lot of ability.
Actually, the mother-in-law is telling the truth. When I first married into my husband's family, my husband's grandparents and grandparents were still alive.
The in-laws are filial people, and they don't want to send the elderly to nursing homes like uncles, aunts, aunts, and uncles.
So, he discussed with me, "Zhang Ning, we are quite conflicted now, if we show you the child, we can't take care of our parents." Taking care of your parents won't help you. ”
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After thinking about it, I chose to quit my job and return to my family, so that my in-laws could take care of my parents with peace of mind.
After all, there is a time when everyone is old, and I can't bear to watch the old people live in a nursing home.
So, I've been at home since I gave birth to my boss. Occasionally, I will help my in-laws take care of the elderly.
Five years ago, my grandmother and grandfather passed away one after another. The following year, my grandmother and grandfather followed.
I thought I could finally go to work this time, but my mother-in-law was paralyzed again.
I accompanied my mother-in-law with my clothes and recovered day after day. By now, she was finally able to take care of herself.
My father-in-law always said: "Zhang Ning is the biggest hero of our family, if we change anyone, we are like this, and we will divorce early." ”
I understand my in-laws, and my in-laws approve of me.
It's just that some relatives and friends who don't know anything often are sarcastic. Fortunately, I didn't bother to pay attention to them. After all, it's my own choice.
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"Come, this first cup is to my daughter-in-law." The father-in-law continued to talk about his mother-in-law's words.
The main family is large, and relatives and friends follow and raise their wine glasses.
The second glass of wine was the turn to give my father-in-law a birthday.
The in-laws happily toasted one by one, and when it was the turn of the aunt and brother-in-law, the mother-in-law said: "Our parents gave me a dream last night, saying that they did not raise my daughter in vain in their lives." By the way, I am blessed to marry such a good daughter-in-law as Zhang Ning, and no matter what happens in the future, she will never treat me badly. ”
When the mother-in-law said this, she slapped her aunt and brother-in-law in the face. Because the biggest loss in their lives is their grandfather, when the old man is alive, it hurts to hold them in the palm of his hand. When I got old, I was swept out of the house like garbage by them.
The mother-in-law mocked them, grandpa's today may be their tomorrow.
My father-in-law said the same thing, and told my aunt and uncle about it.
I heard that my aunt's two daughters-in-law are discussing when to send my aunt to a nursing home, so that they can divide her property now!
I'll just say it! There is a car in front and a rut in the back, how do you do it, how do the children learn.
I've been at home for a long time, and I'm not useless. I raised my two children very well, and I also taught myself acupuncture, massage, and massage in Chinese medicine.
My father-in-law always has insomnia and often needs my massage to help him.
Now there are often uncles and aunts in the community who come to my house and let me be treated!
Before leaving, the in-laws said to everyone present: "In the future, please don't speak ill of my daughter-in-law, otherwise, don't blame us for turning our faces." ”
Look, that's what makes me feel like I'm at home full-time.
In fact, for a good family, understanding and respect are the most important.
Besides, the value of a woman is not necessarily in the workplace, taking care of the family and helping the people in need around you is not another meaningful life!
At the end of the day, it's up to us to be self-consistent.