I am M, an everyday joyous college student.
Recently, the winter has begun to cool down, everyone pay attention to keep warm Ha ~ (weak and weak to ask, friends who live south of the Tropic of Cancer, how are you)
Presumably, everyone in their own environment will always have unsatisfactory things and unpleasant people, or hear words that make people angry, but if you are angry because of such things, it is often unnecessary.
In times of adversity, you can't control your temper and hurt others and hurt yourself
When everyone pursues their goals, there are basically no people who can succeed in one fell swoop, and there will always be a period of "platform period", during which we may be depressed, tired, irritable or self-doubting.
In this state, there is a fire in the heart, it is uncomfortable to do anything, and it is easy to become a firecracker cylinder that explodes with a poke, but this does not solve any problem, but may hurt our nearest relatives and friends.
The mourners, who feel useless, do not know what to do
M himself often does this, sometimes, academic difficulties, interpersonal relationships because of their own and the people around them are very young, resulting in depression and embarrassment to open their mouths, or they try to work part-time there are many problems that can not be effectively handled.
I want to complain to my family and friends, and I subconsciously "can't control" my emotions, because I have conflicts with them because of a small thing that is not worth it. This kind of unadorned complete disclosure made my emotions relax a little, but after my sanity returned, I saw the aggrieved expression of my family, guilty and helpless, and even helpless and helpless, and even helpless and did not know how to comfort.
It's like a garbage truck full of garbage, can't find a place to dispose of the garbage, and dumps the garbage on other cars.
It's not easy for family and friends, and they have no obligation to take on the emotional waste that we spill out of for no reason. But fortunately, because they loved me, they gently forgave my mistakes and accepted my apology after I was honest. But I know that the feeling of innocence being emotionally implicated is not painful.
Therefore, when we are overflowing with emotions and urgently need to express, even if one person is willing to accept our complaints unconditionally, we must tighten the last reins of reason a little, communicate reasonably and effectively, and pour out our emotions, rather than rudely spilling it on another person who may face similar to us, or even more.
Stay away from people you don't like, don't listen to things you don't like, and argue less
In the glitzy world, the sea of people is vast, all kinds of people are there, it is impossible to randomly pick out two people and they must be compatible, even if we feel uncomfortable or even shocking views and people, there will be people who agree. So it's easy for us to meet someone who's stepping on a lightning point all over his body, or someone who has no special connection and says something inexplicable.
This kind of thing, it is estimated that everyone from childhood to adulthood, every three to five will encounter, and even... There is no way to avoid it. (Ha, if you fall into it, it really hurts to think of it)
Don't say anything, please don't let me meet the speechless
The original M is really doing everything according to reason, must be reasonable, but also fair, so people like it, hate people hate it. Not sure how many people like me there are.
When I was a child in the countryside, there were always people visiting the door, and children liked to lie in bed during the holidays, so the neighbor's grandmother, who liked to visit the door, directly pushed the door of my room open and spat on me, and my whole person exploded. There are also old people who say that boys must be more angry than girls like cats that step on their tails.
I didn't understand it, and I argued for a long time, but how could my mouth be better than those old people who ate more salt than I had walked, and at that time my mother just told me to endure or hide, but never said the reason.
Fortunately, grandma was a little old lady who was more open-minded, and while learning how to recognize words, she taught me some of the truths she had "seen" over the years.
There will always be people with different ideas when arguing and arguing, even if their views may be really wrong, but they have their logic, their positions, deep-rooted things, and it is impossible to argue the result by a single person arguing with his lips. In the end, it is not necessarily said, and it is easy to provoke a body of fishy unpleasantness, waste time not to say, but also angry.
It's the same thing when you meet people you don't like, they live with a completely different concept from us, they can be friends or be at peace if they are tolerant, if they can't tolerate, even if they avoid, they can reduce a lot of losses.
Sometimes a person who has no intersection, for no reason to say some yin and yang weird words, can endure the next moment to pass, in case the other party is a rotten person who bites and does not let go, excessive disputes are tiresome.
Sometimes, it has nothing to do with him, you don't say anything, bite you for no reason, why get used to him, and it doesn't matter, most of the people around him have nothing to do with you, and they won't cause innocent people to have a dilemma, just fuck him! Good temper and no temper are not the same, and there is a bottom line for taking a step back for a while! (Not to persuade everyone to quarrel)
Finally, in the end, I wish everyone a good mood every day, happy every day, away from garbage people, success in front of you, everything is smooth, and everything is successful!
The auspicious words have come, everyone eats well and drinks well, into the winter, hey hey hey, M's food is getting better and better, I hope everyone also eats well and drinks well Ha ~