Wang Yangming became a reciter at the age of 8 and wrote a poem at the age of 10, and the world thought that he would be a talent in the future. Since the age of 22, Wang Yangming has participated in the examination twice, and twice failed, and the same window sighed, but Wang Yangming said: "The people of the world are ashamed of not being the first, and I am ashamed of not being the first." In his opinion, if there is something on the list, there is something that falls off the list, don't care too much.
How can it be as good as one wishes, but be unashamed. When it is time to make efforts, do your best, look down on success or failure, face gains and losses with a normal heart, do your best, and obey your destiny.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "The great husband is thick and does not live in his thinness; in fact, he does not live in his glory." "The eldest husband should pursue a pure and generous fashion and oppose the superficial atmosphere; he must adhere to the realistic style and resist the habit of vanity."
Some people are very smart, but they are not generous, and such people must not have deep friendships.
In the Qing Dynasty, there was a man named Jin Anqing, who was a master of financial management, but his heart was not right, and he was corrupt many times.
He set up a bureau to rescue Lin Zexu and became Lin Zexu's aide, and was soon sent out by Lin Zexu; he turned to Zeng Guofan, who refused him seven times in a row. Later, although I saw him, I still refused to use him.
Some people felt strange, so they asked the reason, and Zeng Guofan said, "Such people are like ghosts and gods, and they can be respected and far away." ”
In one lifetime, learn to recognize people, distinguish people, be with goodness, not be the same as hypocrisy, simply, is happiness.
Being born as a human being has two duties: one is to work, and the other is to live.
In our work, we must be conscientious and responsible, and seek our own government in our place;
In life, we must play our multiple roles: study well when you are a student, honor your parents when you are a child, take responsibility as a father, respect marriage as a partner, and care for each other as brothers and sisters.
Do what you have to do and do your duty. To do a good job in doing your duty is to keep your duty.
Albert Einstein said, "Don't complain about life, that only shows your incompetence." The strong never complain about life. ”
What is the real "no complaint"?
See all the truth, try all the methods, use all the strength, over the mountains, cross the sea and the river, even if full of scars, you can still love life, laugh at life, and shake hands with the world.
If life throws you a lemon, you can juice it and add some sugar. Although we cannot change the established facts, we can change our attitudes, after all, whether the taste of life is bitter or sweet is a conclusion drawn by us after tasting it.
Complaining all the time will only get nothing.
If you can't change the past, you will change the future; if you can't change others, you will change yourself.
Change a new hairstyle that has never been cut, change a new dress you just bought yesterday, change a lunch set that you haven't tried, change a positive attitude towards tomorrow, another way to love the people around you... An ordinary change may allow us to get a new life.
Gradually, you will find that life is not as bad as we think, and we are not as bad as we think. On the contrary, life is much better, and so are we.
It's letting go, not giving up.
As the saying goes: lift the weight of a thousand pounds, put down two or two light. Life is like walking, the more things you carry, the more tired you are to walk, and only by learning to put it down can you move forward easily.
In this world, why do some people live easily and some people live heavily? The former can be taken and put down; the latter can be taken but cannot be put down.
In order to win face in front of people, reluctantly undertake many things that are difficult for you to do;
In order to get the admiration of others, choose a popular career that you do not love;
Many times, a look and an evaluation of others make him unable to eat or sleep;
Afraid of ridicule and discussion by others, afraid to do what you really want to do, afraid to show your true self in front of others...
How tired it is to live such a day, only the person concerned knows best.
Schopenhauer said: "One of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that it cares about how others see itself. ”
The judgment of others is just a reference, what we should do is to figure out our own positioning, appreciate ourselves, do not blindly envy others, and maintain our own forward trajectory.
Everyone has moments when they feel inferior because they are "not good enough":
I have a bad temper and low emotional intelligence;
I am not highly educated, and I do not have enough knowledge;
My family is not well off, and the salary is not high;
I'm not beautiful enough, I'm not skinny enough, I can't dress up, my aesthetics aren't high...
Adler said in "Inferiority and Transcendence": "Each of us has different degrees of inferiority, because we all want to make ourselves better and make ourselves live a better life. ”
For example, many people think that I am not good-looking enough, not in good shape, so I have low self-esteem, as long as I become beautiful and in good shape, I will be confident.
It turns out that there are always people who are more beautiful than you and better than you, no matter how hard you try, you will still have inferiority, why?
Because you are not accepting yourself. Only when you stop denying your true self, inferiority will not become a thorn in your life, and you will believe in yourself unconditionally.
Moss flowers are as small as rice, and also learn to bloom peonies.
Moss flowers, that is, moss flowers, grow in dark and damp places, and the flowers are as small as grains of rice and are not easy to detect. But it does not inferiorize at all, but blooms confidently like a beautiful and noble peony.
Mo Yan said in the Sandalwood Punishment:
The most taboo thing in the world is a perfect thing. You see the moon in the sky, once it is perfect, it will soon be disgusted; the fruit of the tree, once ripe, will fall.
The ancients said: "When the moon is full, it loses, the water is full, and the people are proud." ”
The extremes of things will be reversed, the wisdom poles will be hurt, and the more perfect the state, the more it indicates the demise.
In life, everything is not perfect, but to do your best.
An imperfect self may not have shortcomings; a life with imperfections may not be incomplete.
There is a story in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty:
Meng Min lived in Taiyuan, and Heyu fell to the ground and went away in spite of it. Lin Zong saw this and asked him what he meant, saying, "What good is it to see it as a broken one?" ”
It is said that when Meng Min was living in Taiyuan, the pottery cooker he was carrying fell to the ground, and he walked away without even looking back. Lin Zong saw it and asked him what he thought. He replied, "The pottery cooker has been broken, see what use it is?" ”
Sigh for the regrets of the past, life will only give you darkness. Strive for future goals, and life will surely give you light.
Mo Yan wrote in "Life and Death Fatigue":
The world is like a book, and the pages are turned over. People should look forward and turn over the old accounts of history less.
What should be turned over is the beginning; what should be past is the past.
Wind and rain life, end the old journey, in order to open a new chapter.