Gaishan is greater than non-cutting, and sage is self-respecting. Therefore, Shun let Yu De and Manifest Righteousness dengwen, Tang descended no later and the holy worship day, Hao Supreme man suppressed the trouble, Uncle Wang was contentious and finally ran out. However, the humble one who surrenders, the path of Maojin is also. Those who invade the tomb and destroy the dangerous road.
For the good is not greater than boasting, and the virtuous is detrimental to exclusivity. Therefore, Shun was able to let the people of the world know with courtesy and virtue, Tang Ziqian did not dare to slack off the SunJin Sacred Gong; the Spring and Autumn Jin Dynasty Doctor Hao wanted to be above others and frantically suppressed the people below, and the Zhou Xiang King Ji Father Prince Hu liked to fight and finally fled the Jin Kingdom. This is the reason why you can be humble and humble, and interpersonal relationships are mastered. Pride and self-aggrandizement are the cause of self-destruction.
It is a gentleman who does not dare to cross the line of etiquette, who does not dare to overtake the track, etc.; who is diligent in his own self-help, and who is humble on the outside, and who is humble in his fear. It is that the resentment is not in the body, but the glory and happiness are in the long-term also. The little man is not the case, and he is able to do meritorious deeds, so as to make a tomb man. It is in the former that it is harmed, those who have merit destroy it, and those who destroy it are fortunate. Therefore, they are competing for the lead and cannot compete with each other, and both are bent by the latter. From the theory of what is, the way of contending, its difference is clear.
Therefore, a gentleman's behavior does not dare to exceed the standard of etiquette, and desire does not dare to despise the law. Usually, he is diligent in cultivating morality and entering the profession, and he is in awe of people's humility and courtesy. Hatred and difficulties will not haunt them, and prosperity and blessings will last forever. Villains are not like this. Perseverance suppresses talented people and likes to be above others. Therefore, those who are on top of people will harm others, those who have merit will be destroyed by villains, and others will be unhappy and happy. Therefore, if they are equal, they will compete with each other but will not get benefits, and both sides will be surpassed by those who come later. From this point of view, the law of contending is obtained, and the difference is already clear.
However, the victorious person is not the case, taking the front as the speed, the latter as the lagging, the following as the humble, the creeping as the master, the enemy as the insult, and the mausoleum as the high. Therefore, the resistance is carried out, and it cannot be reflexive. If a husband resists the wise, he will see the inferior, and if he resists violence, he will construct the enemy's difficulties. If the enemy is difficult to construct, the reason for non-existence must be blurred and difficult to understand, and if it is difficult to understand, why is it different from self-destruction? And when people destroy themselves, they all complain, and they will become angry, and they will be decorated with things as the end. Although the listener does not believe it, he still half thinks so. The same is true of one's own school newspaper. In the end, each of them has a half-belief in the near and far. However, wouldn't it be nice for those who quarrel with each other to destroy themselves for the sake of changing their mouths, and those who resigned from the bidders, and beat themselves up for the sake of lenders?
But those who are strong and competitive do not take it for granted, and take the initiative to surpass others; they are stagnant when they fall behind, and they feel that humility is to bow down, to step on others to climb up and become masters, to be proud of humiliating opponents, and to dare to make mistakes as brave and fearless. So I forged forward bravely and bravely, and did not know how to reflect. If you contact the wise and the wise with pride, you must be humble, and if you contact the grumpy with pride, you will inevitably constitute the disaster of the enemy. If they are hostile to each other, it will be difficult to understand whether they are mixed up or not. Right and wrong cannot be determined, so what is the difference between self-destruction and self-destruction? And being denigrated and attacked by others will feel resentful, and then provoke the attack, and then use something to frame the other party and then make up the story with a beginning and an end, so that even if the listener does not believe it, he will feel that it may be so. If you want to take revenge on the other party, the same is true. Others will choose whether to believe or not according to their proximity. Exploring the reasons for this, people who fight with each other and are angry with each other are self-destructive by slandering each other. Is there any difference between verbally competing with each other and beating yourself up by borrowing someone else's hand? What a delusion!
However, how can anyone who is so remorseful that he becomes a litigator? All are insufficient from the inside and look at the outside. Or complain that the other despises me, or that the other overcomes oneself. If I am thin and the other is light, then I bend and the other is straight; if I am wise and he does not know, then I see that it is not my fault; if he is wise and is in front of me, then my virtue has not yet arrived; if he is virtuous and he is before me, then I am virtuous, and why should I complain? And if the two sages are not separated, they can make those who are precious. If there is no parting, the one who exerts force is ashamed. Therefore, Lin Xiangru won the victory over Lian Po by returning the car, and Kou Ke won the merits over Jia Fu by not fighting.
As for what, if I could self-reflect and review, would it still lead to disputes? They are all not clear-minded enough, and others will not give in. Either blame the other person for being contemptuous of me, or the other person wants to surpass me. If I don't have the ability to be slighted by the other person, it is my fault that the other person is not right; if I have the talent, the other party does not know, then it is not my fault; if the other person's ability is above me, it is because I still need to work hard. If the ability is similar but the other party surpasses me, then my ability is second only to him, so what is there to complain about? And there is no difference in the merits of the two people, and the one who can humble the other is more handsome. When the scramble for fame cannot be achieved, then whoever tries to grab it will be hurt more. Therefore, Lin Xiangru can avoid seeing a cheap car. Kou Ke did not fight with Jia Fu and gained the title of Virtuous. (Both Kou Ke and Jia Fu were famous generals of the Eastern Han Dynasty's Guangwu Emperor.) ）
The way a gentleman walks is to do it in the opposite direction.
The opposite of the material situation is what the gentleman calls the Tao. Therefore, the gentleman knows that bending can be extended, so he does not resign with insults. Knowing that the inferior can defeat the enemy, so there is no doubt about it. And its ultimate, is to turn misfortune into happiness, to bend into a friend, so that resentment does not extend to heirs, and good names are proclaimed infinitely. The way of a gentleman, is not enough!
And the gentleman can suffer from the slightest suspicion, so there is no great lawsuit for change; the villain cannot bear the reason of small anger, and there will eventually be a great humiliation. If the resentment is small, it can be humble and virtuous; if it is in the cuteness and contention, it will be a disaster and not saved. Therefore, Chen Yu suffered from the loss of his body with the change of his ears; Peng Yu used the gap of Zhu Fu to eventually have the disaster of death. Bad luck, but don't be careful!
The way a gentleman walks is not willing to fight by virtue of his own strength. Because, a gentleman can know how to flex and then stretch, he will be able to endure insults and not bother. Knowing that humility can defeat the opponent, so it will not hesitate to be humble. In the end, it can turn misfortune into happiness. Resolve hatred and become friends. If the grudge does not continue to the descendants, the good name will be endless. The way of a gentleman, the wider it goes!
And the gentleman will make up for even the smallest gap, so even the smallest fight will not happen. The villain cannot tolerate the slightest anger and will eventually be more frustrated and insulted. When I was a child, I could still resolve it with humility. But what turns into a fight will turn into a scourge that will never end. Chen Yu (a native of Da Liang at the end of the Qin Dynasty, at the hand of Zhang Er's neck) betrayed Because Zhang Er was driven by interests, and was eventually victimized by the dismemberment of the corpse. The two Eastern Han Dynasty Generals Peng Peng and Zhu Fu formed a grudge, which eventually led to the defeat and death of the soldiers. The delicate relationship between blessings and misfortunes cannot be careless.
Therefore, the gentleman's victory is also sharp in pushing and giving way, and self-cultivation is a shed. Quiet closes the door of hey, and movement is through the path of obedience. It is to fight for victory and not form, and the enemy to obey and not to resent. If, repentance does not exist in sound, why should the husband show that there is a dispute? He who appears to be a contender thinks of himself as a wise man, and he who thinks he is a dangerous one. If there is no danger, there is no harm. If faith is dangerous, how can it be sued? Dangerous and suing, is it a tiger and a tiger, can it be? If you are angry and harm others, you will be killed!
"Yi" said: "Those who are dangerous and violate, lawsuits." There will be a multitude of lawsuits. Lao Tzu said: "Husbands do not quarrel, so the world cannot compete with them." "For this reason, a gentleman cannot argue for a way out. It is to multiply the high and walk alone above the third class.
Therefore, the way a gentleman seeks victory is to push away from humility and let others take the attack as a sharp weapon, and to cultivate virtue and enter the industry and self-strength as a defense. Silence without doing anything does not reveal extraordinary wisdom. Where there is a dispute, the road will be opened with deference. Therefore, defeating the other side will not show the intention of competition. If the enemy surrenders, there will be no resentment. Can such a person do it, moody and angry, let alone a big fight? People who show fighting feel that they have the ability, but don't feel sinister and unjust. Without the intention of taking risks, you will not be hurt. If you believe that wealth is in danger, then why fight with him? Adventure and fighting, whether it is locked in a cage to tease the tiger, is there any possibility of survival? The same is true of anger and hurting people.
Yi says that "there will be disputes in risks, and disputes are all generated by competition." Lao Tzu said, "If you don't fight, then there is nothing in the world that can fight for you." "Therefore, a gentleman's way of dealing with the world should not fight with others." In this way, it is possible to transcend the ordinary man and be independent of the three kinds of people.
What is Third Class? Great merit and self-respect, first class; meritorious and cutting, second class; great merit without cutting, third class. Foolish and competitive, first class; virtuous and virtuous, second class; virtuous and allowable, third class. Slow oneself and be anxious, first class; anxious oneself, second class; anxious oneself and lenient, third class.
All these numbers are strange, and the changes of things are also. After three changes, the old man cannot catch it. The husband knows the contravariate and can then deal with it.
Therefore, Meng Zhi won the reputation of a saint for not cutting down, and Uncle Guan received the gift of jiazhong with a reward of resignation; It is the union of pure virtue and nature.
What is third class? Those who have no ability but are proud of themselves are of the first class; those who have the ability but boast of their merits are the second class; those who are high in merit but do not boast of pride are of the third class. First-class people, stupid and competitive. The second class, capable but likes to be above others. The third class, capable but humble. First-class people, loose to themselves but strict with others. The second class of people, strictly demanding themselves and strictly demanding others. The third class, who is strict with himself, can be lenient with others.
The above people are not zhongzheng and will change with the development of events. After many changes, you will lose your nature. Only those who know the change of the law can be corrected later.
Therefore, the Analects: Meng Zhi's counter-strategy and running to the temple. Putting the door in, curating its horse, saying 'if you don't dare to follow, the horse must not enter'" is not boastful, and thus praised by Confucius. Guan Zhong resigned his reward and was therefore rewarded even more. How can fame and fortune be sought by improper means? They are all obtained by their own cultivation and can be in line with nature. (Meng's work is too obvious, and there are traces of insincerity.) Pseudo, artificial. Natural formation is true. Naturally manifested by temperament. Meng's acting skills and small fresh meat have a spell hole saint will not be able to see? Therefore, here is a criticism of Meng's behavior; Guan Zhong's own courtyard is more magnificent than that of the princes, and the envoys must first meet Guan Zhong. Guan Zhongdexing knows the great righteousness. ）
The gentleman knows that self-inflicted loss is beneficial, so the merit is one and the beauty is two; the villain does not know that self-interest is a loss, so he loses it at once. From this point of view, those who do not cut it down will also cut it, and those who do not argue will also fight; those who will let the enemy win, and those who are inferior will also go up. Gentlemen can see the name and danger of the path of contention, and ride alone above the Xuan Road, then the light is renewed, and the deshenglun is in the ancients.
The way of a gentleman benefits through humility. So the credit is the same, but it has gained a good name. The villain does not know that the benefit is to be humble, so the credit is finally taken away. From this, it can be inferred that those who do not boast will eventually be praised, and no dispute is contention. Humble the opponent, in the end can win. At the bottom, at the end, they are all on the top.
A gentleman who witnesses the dangers of constant strife for fame and fortune, so that he can take the road of retreating with humility alone (to retreat into this road), will be brilliant and new, and his good name will be equivalent to that of the ancient sages.