Text/Coriander
For love, I believe that whether it is a man or a woman, it is yearning and longing. A life of love, happiness and fulfillment.
It's just that between men and women, the mentality of love is not the same. This is determined by their physiology.
I am reminded of Shakespeare's famous saying: Women fall in love with their ears, and men, if they will have love, will love with their eyes.
This one point of view, we can see traces in many examples of love. That is, women like to listen to love words and listen to confessions, especially the so-called "mountain alliance sea oath", which is easier to touch women's hearts.
In fact, the ShanmengHai oath is not only in modern times, as early as the Yuan Dynasty, there was already a source of this idiom. Although I don't know who the author is, I can make it clear that it exists— the third compromise of the "Bi Peach Blossom" reads: He will swear an oath to Luo Weijin.
Earlier, in the Southern Song Dynasty poet Xin Shuyi's "Nanxiangzi Gift prostitute", there is also a shadow of this idiom: don't cry a little, the sea oath mountain alliance is always on credit. Although the mountain and the sea fell a little, the meaning was the same.
So you see, from ancient times to the present, women's "stupidity" is the same. Because of a man's vows, it is not uncommon to make yourself hold a grudge for life.
The earliest love story about the oath of the mountain alliance and the sea should be from the "Book of Poetry, Shao Feng, Drumming": Death and Life Qikuo, and Zicheng said. Holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son.
"Holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son". What a vision! It is precisely for this reason that from ancient times to the present, this sentence has been praised by countless people as a love classic and believed in the famous saying that love is unswerving.
However, love words are always deceptive. The more two people who feel that their love can last forever, the less likely they are to go to the end of life.
You see the love between Tang Xuanzong and Yang Guifei: heaven is willing to be compared to a winged bird, and earth is willing to be a lianli branch. Whether in heaven or on earth, they are willing to have each other and go to earth together.
But is this really the case? History has told us that the two of us have lived together for only 11 years!
In addition, Yuan Shu, known as "Yuan Bai", fell in love with his distant cousin Cui Shuangwen (the prototype of Cui Yingying in "Yingying") when he was young, like glue. When he went to the capital to take the exam, Yuan Shu once swore an oath to Cui Shuangwenshan Menghai: The golden list inscription day, the fixed clothes and the return of the hometown and the old man.
Shan Menghai's oath is still in his ears, but in just three years, Yuan Shu will marry someone else. Cui Shuangwen originally thought that a man's flower heart would at most only pick "wildflowers", so he instructed him: wildflowers are fragrant, and you should not pick them.
But Yuan Shu can be allowed? That's a man with political ambitions! How could his heart rest on a woman who had failed to bring him any help! Therefore, he did not marry a wild flower, but Wei Cong, the younger daughter of the crown prince Shaobao Wei Xiaqing.
Wei Cong was born into a famous family, but he was virtuous and dignified, and he was familiar with poetry. This, for the literati Yuan Shu, was an unexpected surprise. Therefore, Yuan Shu quickly forgot that he had sworn to another woman and fell into Wei Cong's tenderness.
It is reasonable to say that Wei Cong is beautiful and talented and rich, and Yuan Shu should be able to accept this in this life and live his happy life well. But how can a man's heart keep his oath?
Before Wei Cong died, Yuan Shu was already outside with flowers and grass, showing mercy everywhere. Wei Cong was even more careless after his death, and the women were one after another. "Talented and affectionate" is certainly not fictional!
So, can a woman expect a man to keep his vows? Can't keep it. His mountain alliance oath was just a momentary impulse. Or in that moment, he is sincere, but you know and firmly believe that this sincerity will not last long!
On the contrary, those who have no vows and no slogans can go to the white head of love, is true love. Just like Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu, just like Ba Jin and Xiao Shan.
Love one person for the rest of your life. It's easy to say, but it's hard to do! It is precisely because of this that those who can go to the white head are more worthy of writing and praising.
But you can also say that so many couples in the world have reached the white head, but they do not necessarily have true love. Yes, there is such a reality, but I believe that without true love, there will be no mountain alliance and sea oath, they may be more responsible to the family and spouse.
They are together, or not in love, but in the end, it will definitely be affection. And isn't affection also a kind of love? Just like the ordinary couples in ancient times, they had not met before marriage, so how could they love? But after marriage, you can also be single-mindedly kind to each other, and you can also keep your responsibility to each other and live a lifetime.
Their hearts don't have as many colors, but what they can cling to is loyalty to their partners. How many men can do this in modern times?
So, woman, don't believe in any mountain alliance oath. If you have to believe it, it is better to believe the sentence "If the man can be relied on, the sow may be able to go up the tree" is more reliable.