I talked to my boyfriend for about eight months. I think they have a good relationship. I'm getting married soon, and even the invitations are sent out. But now my partner doesn't want to get married. It was all due to the fact that I bought a cheongsam. What he said to me made me hesitate to accept it, and I even felt that I loved the wrong person...
My name is Chen Xiaoxiao, I am 25 years old, and I work as a staff member in a local bank. After deducting five social insurances and one gold, my monthly salary is 6,000 yuan. Although the salary is not too high, it is enough to make a living in our small city. I can't spend too much money on weekdays.
My parents were farmers in the city. Their independence has no title. The three of us lived in a house with three bedrooms and a living room. Like thousands of families, they are ordinary, simple, and not chaotic.
My partner is Tian Chen, 30 years old, working as a sales manager in a real estate company with a monthly salary of 15,000 yuan. He also has an older brother. His parents were workers like my parents. When the house price was low a few years ago, they bought a house of more than 110 square meters for a friend. Now, Wheezing himself pays for the installment loan for the house.
Wheezing was not my first love. My first love lasted over a year. We had a good relationship at the time. He also said that I was a gentle and fair girl. But then her dean's daughter fell in love with my first love. He immediately broke up our relationship and married the daughter of the boss, who had known him for only a month.
I didn't expect that love would be so easily hurt by reality. He taught me a very important lesson. He said that if he chose the right person, he could relax for several years. I know that my family's premise is not as good as others. That's the difference between us. A breakup is a must.
I've never inquired about a boyfriend's love story. All I know is that he once had a love affair. I didn't ask him why he broke up with his ex-girlfriend. I think that's all in the past. As long as we are together now, all we have is the present and the future of the boast. As for the past, we don't need to know.
During my relationship with my boyfriend, we usually took turns paying for meals. It's like he invites me to dinner tonight and I invite him to dinner tomorrow. I knew he was toiling and he wanted to pay off the loan for the building. My salary is also not high. It's just that both people are frugal. We don't spend money without options or go to these expensive restaurants.
The gift he gave me was not very expensive. He said I was a girl who could manage her livelihood and family, so he really liked me. Seven months later, he proposed to me. I was 26 years old. I thought he was a suitable marriage partner. I agreed. We talked about marriage.
？ Our wedding date is scheduled for next month, and our invitation has already been sent. He said he would give my family 50,000 yuan as a wedding bride price. I told him we were going to buy wedding jewelry together today. I only bought one dress. He regretted leaving and wanted to quit the marriage.
We have a custom here that we have to go back to our parents' house three days after marriage, so we must wear red clothes. I usually wear dark clothes and don't have very red clothes, so I want to buy a better skirt or cheongsam to wear home.
I went shopping with my best friend. I prefer the red cheongsam. My best friend said good quality, but the price was 2.3 million. I was confused. Too expensive. I don't have more than 300 pieces of clothing. I wanted to take my friends with me, but my friends helped me as a moderator and asked someone else to wrap it up for me. She said she had only been married once in her life. The money should be spent. The hub is to wear nice clothes. Usually can be worn. I thought about it and bought it.
I'm still worried that my fiancé will argue with me. When I returned, I tore off the label. I asked him if the cheongsam looked good. He said it well and he asked me how much it cost. I said $160 and he didn't say anything. But while cooking at night, the phone was in my pocket and the phone rang. He touched the receipt for my cheongsam and immediately changed his face.
When I came out of the kitchen, he threw the cheongsam in front of my eyes and yelled at me. He said, at the time I thought you were a woman who cared about family and subsistence, so I decided to marry you. Don't you know what your monthly salary is? If you buy such expensive clothes, can you compare them with others? How is your family?
I was really angry and said, "You know, I usually wear a hundred or two hundred when I buy a dress." This is my most expensive dress. I use my own money, not the money you gave me. My marriage was a happy thing. Just buy a red cheongsam. You don't have to say anything.
My date doesn't listen to me at all. He said I wouldn't learn well sooner or later. Once you get into this habit, you won't be able to clean it up later. He said he wanted me to return the cheongsam tomorrow and buy a cheap one. Otherwise, I would quit my marriage. He said I didn't have that much family property to flamboyant.
I was really desperate. If I insisted on staying, he would quit the marriage. I'm only 25 years old, which means people will definitely look at me differently.
If I withdraw from the cheongsam, it means that I have compromised. If I hadn't gotten married, I couldn't imagine anything unfair happening to me in my married life. Also I bought this dress myself. Can I spend a penny on him after the wedding?