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A person meets different people from childhood to congress, and makes all kinds of friends, and some of these people have friends who are sincere to you, while some people just pretend to be intimate and do not regard you as close friends, and their friendship with you is false.
When you suddenly find that the people around you are gradually leaving you one day in your life, and there is no friend around, it shows that your life is very "low-matched".
It is often said that a person's life is like a long journey, in which you will encounter many things and will meet all kinds of people, and among these people, there will be a small number of people who will accompany you all the way through this journey. These are people who play an important role in our lives, and these people are our friends.
In fact, in people's lives, there can be no lack of friends, because friends will guide your life path and direction, and they have a positive effect on your life, of course, these are only for those sincere friends.
Friends can not only help you in your life, they can also be the object of your talk, when your "confidant sister", listen to your complaints and comfort and encourage you when you encounter unpleasant things. Even these friends can appear in time to protect you when you encounter danger.
Of course, only friends who are sincere to you will do this, they will tolerate everything about you to the greatest extent, and those who are hypocritical, they will only stay away from you when you encounter difficulties, and they wish they had nothing to do with you.
Of course, this is all in the past, and now as we grow up slowly, we sometimes feel vulnerable and lonely in life, because your circle of friends seems to be expanding step by step, but there are not many friends with your confidants, and you usually can't find an object to confide in yourself.
For example, when we encounter setbacks in life and are defeated, we are very sad and want to find someone to accompany us, but after going through the address book of the mobile phone, we can't find a friend who can open our hearts to talk, then we will find that the friends we have made are some hypocritical scene friends, so we can only digest the sadness silently.
As for people's ability to make friends in life, psychology defines it as "interpersonal skills." This has two meanings in psychology, the first, the flexibility of a person in different environments. Second, whether a person can deal with emotional issues related to themselves when interacting with each other.
As for the view of friendship, different people have different ideas. Some people don't want too many friends because they think that living alone is very free and will not be constrained by other factors, so friendship is the same for them.
But there are still some people who value friendship, and some even feel that friendship is more important than anything. But if we know the basics, we will find that friendship is very important in our lives, it is a bond that binds the feelings of others.
Although friendship is very important in our lives, we can't make friends extensively, and we must have a certain control over the "quality" of friends.
Because the quality of friends directly reflects our own quality, social status and our own communication ability, if the quality of friends around you is very good, it reflects your own quality is very good, and more people are willing to make friends with you.
And those who fail in life, their own ability is not enough, so there will be few or even no friends around them.
And now in this era, information development is very fast, and all kinds of social software are starting to explode, so we will make friends online, and we also think that our circle of friends is getting bigger and bigger, and there are more and more friends.
But when we encounter difficulties and ask these friends for help, we will find that none of these friends are willing to help you, nor can we find anyone who can talk to their hearts, which shows that these people are some hypocritical friends.
Psychologists have studied the definition of the value of friends, they believe that a person's value is not measured by money, only in comparison with the mainstream values of society can measure the value of people.
So in this society where information is developing rapidly, we all need to make friends and socialize.
But often some people think of friends very simply, but this is not the case, it has a deeper meaning, contains a lot of information, can help us a lot.
So what is the audience? The audience, who knows you only and observes your life from the sidelines, does not participate in it or meddle in matters about you.
Therefore, these people are not really friends, if you encounter difficulties and setbacks in life, you must not ask these people for help, because they are very indifferent and will not pay attention to you.
In the real world, there are often many people who need these audiences very much, these people are very superficial, and they have not further thought about whether these people will help them.
Unlike these superficial people, those who think deeply and think positively are the friends they make are sincere friends.
American sociology professor Bless pointed out that many relationships are embedded in people-to-people interactions, and Mr. Fei Xiaotong in China has also proposed that there is a reference between groups, pay attention to the team pattern, make some sincere friends, and be helpful to your team.
Therefore, from the above we can see that friends can maintain our psychology in life.
If some people have no friends in life, then their psychology will more or less have some problems, and their lives will be more difficult, experiencing a low-quality life.
- The End - Author | Tommy Edit | Rain The First Psychological Writing Group | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars 参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205