On the evening of September 26, 2013, which lasted four months and swept 5.7 million people throughout the Xinxiang area, after four links of collection, preliminary evaluation, evaluation and voting, the huge "most beautiful Xinxiang people" selection activity finally came to an end, and finally a Ukrainian daughter-in-law named Najia stood out from tens of thousands of people with 5 million online votes and 100,000 paper votes, becoming the "most beautiful Xinxiang people" of the night.
In 2014, the same Ukrainian woman, once again with her own deeds, was named one of the top ten people of the year who "moved the Central Plains". The award for a foreign woman for two consecutive years makes one wonder about the story behind her. How did she get here from a foreign land? And what kind of touching story does she have, and why can she stand out from so many players?
The origin of this story comes from Nadya's husband Zhao Peng, in 1994, the Chinese boy Zhao Peng went to Ukraine to study at the Odessa National Technical University of Food, in this foreign place, Zhao Peng felt very lonely, perhaps the heavens saw him pitiful, so he let the student sister Najia appear in front of him, at that time Najia had a high nose bridge, big eyes, beautiful figure, is a famous beauty in the school, Zhao Peng liked her after seeing this girl for the first time.
Since then, Zhao Peng began to boldly pursue Najia, and at first Najia refused to fall in love with this "foreigner", but she could not withstand Zhao Peng's stalking and finally decided to give him a chance. In the days that followed, the two of them left their inseparable backs in the school, but the happy time was always short.
Four years of college ended quickly, as many people say, graduation season is the breakup season, the love between the two is also in danger of breaking up, Najia's family has always been very opposed to Nadia falling in love with a Chinese, because China at that time was still just a symbol of poverty and backwardness, Najia's family did not want her daughter to follow Zhao Peng to suffer. Zhao Peng's parents have been urging him to return to China for development, and the two sides have clashed at this time.
Just when everyone thought that the two were going to break up as the end, Najia took the initiative to make concessions, and persuaded her parents to make a bold choice for her love, Najia took the initiative to pack her bags and came to China with Zhao Peng, to a small mountain village in Xinxiang City, Henan Province.
Here Nadya felt the simplicity of Chinese and the kindness of Zhao Peng's parents, and she began to gradually like the city of Xinxiang. Soon after, the two held a Chinese-style wedding in the village, and since this was the first "foreign-related marriage" in Xinxiang at that time, it caused a lot of movement, and many TELEVISION stations and news media interviewed them.
The days after marriage are still poor, but the husband and wife are very harmonious, and Zhao Peng, who has never seen prospects in his hometown, offered to develop in coastal cities, and Najia also agreed with his suggestion. In the coastal cities, Zhao Peng saw that many small commodities in China were resold abroad, so Zhao Peng came up with the idea of selling Chinese goods to Ukraine, and the husband and wife decided after consultation.
In 1999, Zhao Peng contacted many small commodity supply channels from China and began to set up a stall business in Ukraine, because Ukraine's light industry was backward, and many novel small commodities they had not seen much, so Zhao Peng's goods have always sold well.
In the days that followed, Zhao Peng got up early every day and greedily set up a small stall, although the income was quite rich, but it also made Zhao Peng tired. At his wife's suggestion, Zhao Peng decided to take a new job. At that time, a multinational trading company was in urgent need of translation talents, and it happened that Zhao Peng was proficient in Ukrainian, English, and Chinese, Chinese, so for this new job, Zhao Peng quickly got started. Moreover, the content of this job is relaxed, the income is stable, and the life of the husband and wife is gradually getting better.
In 2000, Zhao Peng and Nadia's first son was officially born, in order for his son to receive a better educational environment, Zhao Peng proposed to let his son enter Ukrainian citizenship, and Nadia also agreed. The birth of his son once again increased the cost of living, and Zhao Peng planned to give up his job as a translator and try to do some small business on his own.
A year later, Zhao Peng returned to China with his wife and children, and after a brief reunion with his parents, Zhao Peng went to Ningbo alone to start a trading company to sell auto parts. Just this year, China joined the International World Trade Organization, China's foreign trade business flourished, and Zhao Peng's business also developed sufficiently.
Since then, Zhao Peng and Najia husband and wife have completely got rid of the two words "poverty", Zhao Peng's business has become bigger and bigger, the company's annual income can reach 30 million or 40 million, Zhao Peng began to buy a car, buy a house, and settle in Ningbo.
In 2002, Zhao Peng and Najia's second son was also born smoothly, and the two sides still decided to add the child to Ukrainian nationality, which Zhao Peng's father objected to, and Zhao Peng took the initiative to explain: "When the children are older, they will be given the opportunity to re-choose their nationality." ”
In the next two years, Zhao Peng's business became increasingly prosperous. But his business socialization also increased, and in order to pull customers, he began to stay up late and drink all night. After a long period of upside-down day and night, Zhao Peng's body began to have some small problems, and the doctor repeatedly advised Zhao Peng to pay more attention to rest, stay up less late, and drink less.
But Zhao Peng did not take the doctor's words to heart, in his opinion, now that he is only 28 years old, he can still fight, he wants to earn more money and give his family a better life.
In the blink of an eye, another two years have passed, Zhao Peng and Najia's third son was also born, at this time Zhao Peng has been regarded as a winner in life, in the business field, Zhao Peng has his own company, every year there are tens of millions of profits, he is already a fully successful person. In terms of family, Zhao Peng has a beautiful wife and three sons, and his parents are also alive.
One day at the end of October 2006, Zhao Peng got up to work as usual, but as a result, as soon as he walked downstairs, his body appeared in severe pain, and when Najia found out, she immediately sent him to the hospital. After the doctor's examination, Zhao Peng was already suffering from liver cancer at this time, and because the time of discovery was very late, liver cancer had entered an advanced stage.
This sudden change changed this originally happy family, Zhao Peng dragged the sick body to ask for discharge, because the cancer has reached an advanced stage, how to treat it can not be cured, can only delay the disease, Zhao Peng does not want to waste a lot of money to treat the disease. But then Nadya stepped forward, and she asked her husband to return to the hospital for treatment, and she was responsible for the rest.
In the days that followed, Nadya was divided into three parts, taking care of her three sons and husbands, and occasionally returning to Xinxiang to see her elderly in-laws.
In 2007, Zhao Peng did not resist the torture of the disease after all, and slowly closed his eyes in the company of his wife and children. Nadya cried bitterly, the sons lost their fathers, the family lost their pillars, and the disease took away not only the life of her husband, but also the savings of the couple over the years, and made the family lose all hope.
After the death of her husband, the burden of the family was all backlogged on Najia's body, the eldest of the three sons was only seven years old, the youngest was less than one year old, coupled with the elderly in-laws, Najia had to quickly get out of the sad mood, Najia, who did not know how to run the company, could only sell her husband's company, and return the money owed by Zhao Peng for treatment, and finally the little money left to take the children back to Xinxiang.
When Nadya's parents in Ukraine learned the news, they urged Nadya to return to Ukraine with their children, because the children were all Ukrainian nationals at the time, and the local government's welfare policy could help them reduce their burden.
After knowing that Nadya's mother-in-law advised her to take the child back to Ukraine, Zhao Peng's parents shed tears, they knew that they were old, and if Nadya stayed in China with the child, they could not help the mother and son four, but also needed Nadya to take care of them. On the contrary, if Nadya takes the child back home, then their mother and son will have a very easy time in Ukraine.
The old man who has passed the age of flower armor does nothing every day, but quietly accompanies the grandchildren, who are afraid that when they wake up that day, the daughter-in-law will leave with the grandson. They also knew it would be easier to let Nadya take the child back to Ukraine, so they didn't say anything.
After experiencing the white-haired people sending black-haired people, and the grandson may be taken away, Najia's father-in-law can't bear the pressure of life, suffering from cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases, Najia's mother-in-law washes her face with tears all day, there is no way, she even makes plans, waiting for her daughter-in-law to take away her grandson, she will find a nunnery and accompany the Buddha for life.
Looking at the figures of the two old men, Nadya was under a lot of pressure until they were also under a lot of pressure, and she remembered her husband's last instructions to take good care of the old man and the child. In the end, Naza decided to abandon returning to Ukraine and concentrate on staying in China to accompany the elderly and children.
When Nadya told her in-laws the news, the two old men left tears of gratitude and said, "You can rest assured, as long as you are willing to stay, whether you remarry or stay at home, we will treat you as a daughter-in-law, and everything in the family is you and your children." ”
Nadya replied, "I don't want money, I'll raise my children and give you a pension, that's my promise to my husband." ”
The first thing Nadya faces is the income problem, the death of her husband has completely cut off the family's economic income, the two elderly people in the family have retired, only a meager pension every month, and three children to feed, can not continue to sit on the mountain, Nadya must find a job.
After making up her mind, Najia returned to Ningbo with her children and had more employment opportunities in the big city, Nadya soon found a job as a translator, but the translation work was not every day, and the income was not stable, so Najia also began to deliver food part-time.
Since then, Nadya's life has changed, every day she has to deliver more than ten hours of takeaway, take care of her three sons a day, clean up the family's sanitary environment, and occasionally take the children back to Xinxiang to see the two elderly people, even so she has to complete the daily translation work in the middle of the night. Seven days a week, Nadya never rested, she was like a clockwork machine, spinning twenty-four hours a day.
In the eyes of her sons, the mother is an omnipotent warrior who will shield them from the wind and rain and help them thrive. If there is really anything that can defeat the mother, I am afraid that only the Chinese language will be left. It turned out that the children's homework needed parental guidance, and Najia did not know Chinese at all, so she could only learn and teach the children what she had learned. Nadya repeatedly told her sons that Chinese is the most difficult language in the world.
During this period, Nadia's in-laws offered to give Nadya financial support, but Nadya resolutely refused, she knew that the old man's salary was not much, plus their health was not good, they had been taking medicine, so they could no longer let the old man pay money to help them.
Nadya attaches great importance to cultivating the relationship between the children and the grandparents, and she will ask the children to take the initiative to call and chat with the grandparents every week.
Every holiday, Nadya would take her three sons to visit the children's grandparents in Xinxiang's hometown, and the neighbors always praised: "What a good daughter-in-law", and the old couple always had a happy smile on their lips.
It was Nadya who made this fragmented family come together again, and for several years, Nadya never forgot her husband's words, she did not remarry, nor did she choose a more relaxed life, but on the contrary, she went to the most difficult road, she raised children, took care of the elderly, she was not defeated by the cruelty of life, she was still active and optimistic.
In July 2013, two elderly people trembled and came to the selection site of "the most beautiful Xinxiangren", they told the story of their son and daughter-in-law for the selection, when it came to the death of their son, the sky of the two old people collapsed, the daughter-in-law did not give up on them, still accompanied them with their grandchildren, smoothed their inner trauma, let them spend their old age in peace, can enjoy the joy of heaven, but also let the children be positive, step by step, they thanked the daughter-in-law for what she did, but also praised her traditional virtues of respecting the old and loving the young.
When Najia was elected "the most beautiful Xinxiangren" with high votes, Najia did not appear on the podium to receive the award, and at this time she was thousands of miles away in Ningbo, delivering takeaways. For this honor, Nadya said: "I just did what a normal child would do, since I have married into my husband's family, I am a member of their family, when difficulties are encountered, I can't abandon my family, I want to face it with them."
In 2014, Najia ran to the Xinxiang Public Security Bureau with her three sons, this time she came to open a household registration for the children, and after the children's choice, the three sons finally chose to become Chinese nationals.
In January of the same year, Nadya was selected as the "Moving Central Plains" Top Ten Person of the Year, Najia and her family took to the stage together, she told her wish is: "In-laws can live a long life, children can grow up healthily", this simple woman, she spent decades to prove her love for her husband, she grew from a young and beautiful girl to a brave mother, even if her husband died, she still firmly guarded the children and the elderly, just because this is a sentence said by her husband before his death.