When the TV series "Flowing Golden Years" adapted from Yi Shu's novel of the same name was broadcast, Jiang Nansun's first love boyfriend Zhang Anren was scolded as a scumbag by the audience, and now when watching this drama, I feel that Zhang Anren cannot be regarded as a "scum", he is just protecting himself.
As a young man from a small county town with a poor family, Zhang Anren was admitted to a university in Shanghai, which was the most crucial step for him to change his destiny.
Zhang Anren saw the prosperity of Shanghai and naturally hoped to stay and live, which is the common sentiment of people. However, compared with most ignorant peers, Zhang Anren is more deliberate, he has a clear goal, and immediately began to plan and implement.
The first step is to decisively break up with his girlfriend Yuan Yuan in his hometown and pursue Jiang Nansun, a rich woman in Shanghai, which is a necessary step he has carefully designed to stay in Shanghai.
First of all, marrying a Shanghai girl can solve his hukou problem, and secondly, a rich woman can help his poor native family, not only can he cross the class, but also help his family get out of poverty.
Zhang Anren's approach reminds me of li Yaping, the male protagonist in another TV series" "Double Sided Tape", who is also a typical small town phoenix man who hopes to lead the family out of poverty by marrying a Shanghai girl, and "Double Sided Tape" is adapted from real events, and the real case is more tragic than the TV series.
From the perspective of personal development, There is nothing wrong with Zhang Anren's approach, it is not uncommon for people to achieve class crossing through marriage, whether they can cross the line of success is actually not in the ability of the individual, but in the character of the person, the reason why Zhang Anren is reprimanded by most viewers is because the behavior he shows is too selfish, lacking at least compassion and kindness.
However, while we scold Zhang Anren for being selfish and unkind, have we ever thought from his standpoint that he has the conditions and resources to dedicate himself selflessly and selflessly? Couldn't he want to protect his little happiness?
The ancients said: The poor are alone, and the reach is to help the world.
If a poor person, even if he wants to help others, he has to weigh his own weight, if he does not want to ruin his own life, what qualifications do others have to ask him to help others selflessly and fearlessly? Ask yourself, can you do it?
As the side of the high climb, when Jiang Nansun's father first met Zhang Anren, he scoffed at the various assurances that Zhang Anren had made with him, and said bluntly:
Papa Jiang went on to say:
Jiang Dad's last words, sharply pointed out where the problem lies, no matter how hard Zhang Anren tries, his growth experience in the past twenty years has been firmly cast in his human gerry, it is indelible and impossible to get rid of, Jiang Nansun is the same, the difference between the two of them is actually 18,000 miles, if there is no sincere feeling as a bond, then they will always be two parallel lines that cannot intersect.
Jiang Nansun's aunt has an old house to be renovated, zhang Anren confidently came up with a design plan, but his origin limits his imagination, and his plan is ridiculed by Wang Yongzheng, who is also engaged in architecture, and is immediately denied by his aunt.
From this detail, it can be seen that the impact of Zhang Anren's origin on his career can actually be compensated, but in the matter of providing the decoration plan to the aunt, he made a serious mistake, he should know more about the background, personality, living conditions, hobbies and other details of the homeowner, and then ask the owner what preferences he has, what kind of effect he hopes to have, and then go to design, so that he will not come up with a plan that the donkey's lips are not right for the horse's mouth, and the time is not delayed, and it has not yet fallen well.
On the contrary, both Jiang's father and sister-in-law praised Wang Yongzheng and highly recognized them, because they belonged to the same class, smelled the same, and spoke speculatively. Wang Yongzheng casually drew a simple structural diagram on a tissue, was praised by Jiang Dad, and carefully received by his aunt in the bag, the gap between Zhang Anren and Wang Yongzheng is the word that Jiang Dad said - pattern.
When there was no accident in Jiang Nansun's family, although Jiang's father unabashedly disliked Zhang Anren and also beat his house, Zhang Anren still had a smile on his face and was full of joy. And when Jiang's father was trapped in stock speculation and lost his family property and was saddled with huge debts, Zhang Anren immediately drew a clear line with the Jiang family, fearing that the Jiang family would affect him.
The rapid change in attitude before and after and the speed of turning his face also confirm the smallness of his pattern.
This is probably the main reason why the general audience scolded him.
I suspect that Zhang Anren's mental activity goes something like this:
Therefore, from the very beginning, we must draw a clear line with him, so that once we get wet, we can't get rid of it.
Sure enough, Jiang Dad went to the school to find Zhang Anren, and also borrowed money from Zhang Anren in front of all colleagues in the office, to tell the truth, Jiang Dad's move was really ill-intentioned, he could completely call Zhang Anren to a secluded place to say it alone, but he made non-point requests in public, no wonder Zhang Anren was angry, in other words, anyone would be angry.
Zhang Anren felt humiliated, and he lost his temper with Jiang Nansun, and Nansun realized that she loved the wrong person.
Zhu Suosuo had reminded Jiang Nansun before that Zhang Anren was climbing her high, and his heart must be unbalanced, so he would suppress her as soon as he had the opportunity.
When the Nansun family was beautiful, Zhang Anren felt that he had got the local rich woman in Shanghai, which was a very face-saving thing, and indeed he was envied by his colleagues in the school, but once the Jiang family went bankrupt, not only could not help him, but would drag him down, at this time Jiang Nansun was no longer the princess he had carefully served before, but the fallen Cinderella, such a gap, Zhang Anren of course did not have to endure, and the false mask did not have to be worn anymore.
For Jiang Nansun, Zhang Anren's true face made her feel hateful and disgusted, and the two-year fairytale love turned out to be a false bubble, and the truth was unbearable.
This is the reality of the poor, no one to help them, they have to work on their own.
So, why be harsh on Zhang Anren? He is definitely not a good person, but he is not a bad person, he is an ordinary person, no family, no background, everything depends on his own efforts of a small town youth.
Yes, he made a small report, causing Wang Yongzheng to lose his qualification to stay in school, which was disgraceful, but it could not be said how bad, after all, Wang Yongzheng had flaws first. In the unit, in order to compete for a certain position and a certain quota, a group of people are fighting with each other and making bad moves against each other, which is not uncommon, and Zhang Anren's approach is not necessarily outrageous, no big deal.
They are all people, not gods, who can not have a little bad mind and make a little means?
Jiang Dad is right, the biggest problem between Zhang Anren and Jiang Nansun is the problem of the gap in life, and sure enough, as soon as they leave the campus and enter the society, reality breaks their illusions, leaving only a chicken feather.
Zhang Anren was scolded, mainly because of his attitude change towards Jiang Nansun's family, as a phoenix man, he only wanted to get benefits from the Jiang family, but he was not willing to pay at all, which was the fundamental reason why he was scolded.
In a stable society, class gaps are chasms that are often difficult to cross.
The British BBC has made a documentary "Seven Years of Life" for many years, found 14 children of the same age, filmed their respective living conditions every 7 years, from 7 years old in 1964 to 63 years old in 2019, the results of years of tracking records show that it is indeed difficult for people to cross the class at birth, the original family and the environment in which the original family is located, which is extremely important for a person's growth and has a profound impact on a person's future development.
Material poverty is not terrible, the most terrible thing is "poverty of the heart", it is indifference and selfishness, it is stinginess, it is a whirlwind, it is the principle of everything to safeguard personal interests.
Although Zhang Anren wishes to stay in the university in Shanghai as a teacher, he is still a small-town youth in his bones, and his children may be better than him, but his life will be difficult to surpass Jiang Nansun, and his children may not necessarily surpass Nansun's children, which is the huge impact of family inheritance.
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