01 Quarrel in front of outsiders
Couples will inevitably bump into each other in life, but be careful not to quarrel in front of the public. Some problems are quarreled in front of everyone, and instead of solving them, they will add fuel to the fire.
Both sides want face, quarrel in front of everyone, certainly not to show weakness, often lead to the final situation is difficult to clean up.
Therefore, good couples should remember: in front of friends and family, they must save enough face for their lovers.
Your attitude toward your lover determines how much respect others have for him or her. If you don't care about him or her, others will look down on him or her. As the saying goes, "a slap doesn't make a sound". Confess your mistakes to one another and forgive one another.
02 Quarrel in front of your children
Avoid children when quarreling, children are innocent. Husband and wife quarrels are a matter of two people. Let the children see their parents quarrel, the light will leave a shadow in the young mind, and the heavy will affect the attitude towards marriage after learning and even growing up.
The relationship between parents is where the child's sense of security lies, which cannot be replaced by any material life, and if the child cannot enjoy the atmosphere and feeling of love at home, the parents' behavior will unconsciously hurt the next generation.
Therefore, good couples should set an example for their children.
03 Argue when the other person is sick
Quarrels also have a certain temporality. If the other person is sick, if the other party is depressed, if the other party is in a bad situation at work, if you quarrel in these circumstances, it will only deepen the contradiction between husband and wife.
Therefore, a good couple loves each other in fact, they love themselves.
04 Turn over each other's old accounts
Some couples like to turn over each other's old accounts, such as mistakes made by the other party before, or the other's previous lovers, which will increase the intensity of the quarrel and lead to deeper and deeper contradictions.
This is also the most foolish act of husband and wife quarrelling. One yard is one yard, you can't quarrel, you can shake out the rotten grain of Chen sesame seeds. It was originally a small thing, but the more noisy the more complicated it became.
So, let the past things become history, don't repeat them. Good couples should learn to be tolerant, loving, considerate and conceited.
05 When quarreling, the parents and family members of the other party are affected
When couples quarrel, do not harm each other's parents and family. Quarrels cannot insult each other, let alone affect the elderly on both sides. Insulting the other person's family is the most serious, absolutely quit.
Respect the spouse's family, compare hearts to hearts, respect both parents equally, and love the love I love. If you treat each other's relatives with sincerity, he will appreciate you from the bottom of his heart and will love you more.
Therefore, quarrels between husband and wife are often things, do not pay too much attention to it, do not have to let parents know, more communication and understanding, the days are still long, and when you are angry, think more about each other's good.
06 Smash things during a fight
Don't smash things when arguing, quarrels are originally high, coupled with the cracking sound of utensils, this is also too dramatic, will noisy neighbors, frightened children.
Moreover, what is broken is their own money, and the mess in that place has to be cleaned by themselves, and it is reasonable not to be loud, and it is also necessary to talk about demeanor when quarrelling. I really can't help but drop the pillow, don't be in the harsh collision sound, let the two loving hearts also be crushed to pieces.
Therefore, husband and wife pity is a double-edged sword, why should a good couple have to compete for high and low, and take a step back from the sea and the sky.
07 Say something that hurts the other person
When arguing, they often do not choose their words, and they often compare their wives/husbands with others.
"You see how capable other people's husbands are, but you're such a shit!" You see how virtuous people's wives are, but you can't do anything!" These words will only destroy the other person's self-confidence.
So, good couple, refuse to hurt!
08 Threatened with death
Some couples quarrel and say "die" at every turn. "What does it mean that I'm alive?", "I don't want to live anymore!", "I'll die to show you!" Wait, threaten each other with "death". This is a very stupid approach.
Therefore, good couples should not say such gambling words.
09 Hit people with your hands
When quarreling, you must manage your own hands, even in the gas head, you must have the minimum control, a slap on the face, perhaps the fight is the grace of many years, bringing both sides of the unbearable.
What is touched by the hands is the flesh and skin, but what hurts is the heart, the skin and flesh wounds are easy to heal, but the cracks in the heart are difficult to repair.
So, good couples should remember: impulse is the devil!
10 Talk about divorce
It is not easy for two people to come together to form a family, and the word "divorce" should not be easily spoken. Especially when arguing about divorce, due to impulsiveness, it is inevitable to make wrong choices and make yourself regret it for a lifetime.
"Divorce" is a very sensitive word, and it is dangerous to mention these words rashly, and it is easy to tear the emotional bond between husband and wife and intensify family conflicts.
So, good couples, know: husband and wife are no longer two people, but a whole, do not easily say give up.