"Do not tutor homework mother Ci Zi filial piety, a tutor homework chicken flying dog jump" how many mothers' common voice?
Some time ago, Yao Chen sent a Weibo at 11:42 p.m.: Tutoring the baby for an hour, I felt that my body was hollowed out. Some netizens "comforted" in the comment area: This is hollowed out? Don't worry, the road is still long.
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Not only Yao Chen, but all the stars fell into the same pit.
Yue Yunpeng also sent the same desperate Weibo " Five minutes, seven plus nine is it difficult?" Did your tutoring homework also collapse? ”
And attached to the daughter to break her toes to count the photo, some netizens ridiculed: mathematics is not learned well, funny to learn well, is your daughter is not wrong.
Even Andy Lau, the king of heaven, has a time to collapse in the face of homework tutoring.
In an interview, Andy Lau revealed that during the epidemic period, he accompanied his children to online classes at home and tutored homework, and couldn't help but call out "Is there any mistake?" You still don't understand it."
No matter how amazing you are at work, you will be sincerely afraid of homework tutoring.
The collapse of the tutoring homework is a robbery that parents have to cross this year.
Just like the Internet rumors that there is a mother who finished her homework, she was too excited for a while and directly chose to jump into the river to live lightly.
In fact, as a person who has not yet practiced "tutoring homework", I can't feel the pain of it, until one day I clicked into a "tutoring homework life-saving guide" chat room, and I deeply felt the taste of it.
In the chat room, the mothers cried and complained:
Bao Mama A: Who has not been a lady, tutoring homework seconds become "tigress";
Bao Ma B: This year there is nothing else to gain, the only one who learned "Hedong Lion Roar";
Mother C: Thank you for my son's great mercy, I haven't asked for my old life yet.
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For a while, there was an atmosphere in the chat room: the mother who had not tutored her homework did not seem to know the suffering of the world.
In fact, when mothers complain that it is not easy to help with homework, they also reveal their helplessness:
During the day, I bear the pressure of work, go home at night to help with homework, and when I see that my child's homework is not done well, I can't control the flame in my heart.
At the same time, most mothers said that after criticizing their children every time, they were very guilty, afraid of hurting their children and affecting their children's personality, and regretting it.
Fortunately, the host of the chat room is a senior parenting teacher, who shares: If you want to change your children, you must start by changing your parents.
1. Give the decision back to the child
Learning is a child's business, when to learn, what to learn first should be decided by the child himself. Because when children have the right to decide, they will realize that learning is their own business, and it will be more serious to learn with a sense of responsibility.
Maybe you will say, then stocking? Of course not, we can guide the child and give the child advice.
2) Encouragement is more effective than criticism
Positive guidance or encouragement is often more effective than criticism.
When the child is criticized, the mind may think about whether he will be punished, unable to think normally, and the IQ returns to zero.
Guide your child to identify and solve problems. As long as the child is willing to think about how to solve the learning problem, it is worth encouraging, at least there is a state of active learning.
3. Lower yourself to empathy
Lower yourself and learn to "pretend to be stupid" and "show weakness". This principle is very suitable for children in the lower grades, which can effectively stimulate children's confidence in showing themselves, and can also play a role in stimulating children's interest in learning.
Think differently, if you're the kid who's been trained. Think about it, if you are that child, when you encounter difficulties in learning, the first thing you want is to be understood and encouraged, or to hit and make it worse.
After listening to the host's sharing, the mothers in the chat were deeply inspired: it turned out that children were not good at learning, and a large part of the reason was because of their parents.
Some say that the child was arranged by God to save himself, and some say that the child was arranged by God to torment himself. In fact, life itself is composed of a series of difficult problems, but there are simple and difficult.
When we don't know how to solve the problem of "parenting", we may wish to go to the chat room and discuss and seek solutions together.
You may say: When you encounter a problem, wouldn't it be better to find a lady?
In fact, the problem of "parenting" requires experience + theory, and the methodology found on the Internet is only on paper, and may not be able to really help you solve the parenting problem.
Pay attention to the "parenting" class chat room, you can do:
1. Satisfy the real emotions to vent and relieve anxiety and fatigue;
2. When analyzing problems, you can also find yourself;
3. Real-time communication with many people, more efficient and comprehensive;
4. Learn to raise children anytime and anywhere, and take care of children at work.
If you don't want to ruin your child because of the wrong way;
If you don't want to destroy the parent-child relationship because of your personal emotions;
If you don't want to miss out on parenting knowledge because you are busy at work;
Pay attention to the "parenting" class chat room, and easily say goodbye to the "parenting panic"!