1. The memories of the past at the beginning are like a tide: the offensive and defensive battles and the war of words after the divorce
In the blink of an eye, 12 spring and autumn seasons have passed, and the once enviable husband and wife, Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu, are now very different, which is embarrassing. Back in the day on January 30, 2011, the two announced their divorce, and their seven-year marriage came to an end.
At that time, Yao Chen warmly confessed Ling Xiaosu on Weibo, and his love was surging; However, now, she quickly deleted all her intimate remarks, as if she wanted to completely erase the bits and pieces of the past, which made people sigh.
The gathering and dispersion of the emotional world is the normal state of life, and it may be human nature to accept such a reality at the initial stage of a relationship, but after the breakup, the two are strangers, and even have long-standing grievances and tensions, which is really regrettable.
In 2014, a Weibo influencer "Ju Chunlei" who claimed to be a friend of Ling Xiaosu published a tirade, exposing the ugly truth behind the marriage farce between the two. Reading between the lines, he seemed to want to wash away the grievances of Ling Xiaosu, an unfortunate divorced man, but he didn't expect it to backfire.
As soon as the article was published, it instantly set off an uproar on the Internet. Yao Chen rarely went all out, took the initiative to fight back, and successfully stuck the label of "scumbag" firmly on Ling Xiaosu.
All of a sudden, all kinds of bad words and negative public opinion spread wildly on the Internet, and Ling Xiaosu's career suffered a heavy blow, and even his wife Tang Yifei was deeply affected by it, and her life fell into a trough.
In stark contrast, Yao Chen, who had cheated many times, had the last laugh in this war of words. Not only was she not affected by her career in the slightest, but she successfully turned the spearhead to Ling Xiaosu, making her infamous as a "scumbag" and becoming the object of spontaneous protection by netizens.
Looking back on Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu today, the huge contrast between their images and circumstances can't help but make people sigh. The former loving partner is now turning against each other, and it is destined to fight to the end and swear to the fate.
2. Looking back at 2011: the fuse of divorce and the reorganization of the family
To explore the real reasons for Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu's divorce in 2011, it is necessary to mention the last straw for the breakdown of their marriage. That year, during the filming of the movie "Latent", Yao Chen betrayed Ling Xiaosu again, which undoubtedly gave him the last heavy blow to trust.
Although Ling Xiaosu was exhausted by the previous derailments, he still chose to forgive his wife Yao Chen again and again because of his gentle and generous mind and great respect for marriage and family.
For example, during the filming of the movie "Divine Whip", Yao Chen was photographed by the paparazzi behaving intimately with a certain male actor, and in the face of such a serious betrayal, Ling Xiaosu still adhered to his creed and chose to believe in his wife's sincere apology.
Moreover, during the filming of the later TV series "Wulin Gaiden", Yao Chen was entangled with other actors again, and Ling Xiaosu, who learned the news, was in pain in his heart, however, he was still moved by his wife's sincerity and chose to forgive again.
However, this derailment incident seems to have completely shattered his last trust in Yao Chen.
However, the breakdown of a relationship does not happen overnight. Just a year before the divorce, in 2010, both of their careers reached unprecedented heights. That year, Yao Chen attracted much attention for starring as the heroine in the hit drama "Days of Living with a Flight Attendant", while Ling Xiaosu successfully played the leading role in the play with the help of his wife's fame.
In the play, the two seem to regain the sweet feeling of their first love, and their relationship is temporarily relieved, and they even plan a grand wedding to celebrate this good time.
And Ling Xiaosu also became famous in one fell swoop because of the success of this drama, and then starred in many popular dramas in a row, and her career can be said to be thriving.
However, the good times are always short-lived. The divorce announcement was soon made public, and the seven-year married life of the two came to an end. After a short buffer period for divorce, Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu quickly plunged into their new lives.
Yao Chen tied the knot with Cao Yu, the photographer of the same crew, while Ling Xiaosu chose to spend the rest of his life with Tang Yifei, who co-starred in the TV series "Lang Heart is Like Iron", and their new life began.
Looking back on the ups and downs along the way, the unpredictable changes of life are really impressive!
3. The story of Nortel's acquaintance and love in 1999
Tracing back to the origin, Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu's grievances and hatred began in 1999 when they met and fell in love at the Beijing Film Academy.
That year, Yao Chen, who came from an ordinary family, came to Beijing alone and began her school career. As a child in a small city in Fujian, she was full of confusion and fear about this unfamiliar capital.
However, in contrast, Ling Xiaosu seems to have been born in an artistic family, he has enjoyed a privileged family environment since he was a child, and was successfully admitted to the Beijing Film Academy.
The two beauties met on this campus and started a magnificent emotional journey. At first, they were like two parallel lines, seemingly unrelated. Yao Chen's personality is cheerful and direct, and she belongs to the typical southern girl; In contrast, Ling Xiaosu is sunny and gentle, and the personalities of the two can be described as diametrically opposed, as if they are from different planets.
The cooperation of that drama class made the conflict between them intensify for the first time. Yao Chen thought that Ling Xiaosu was too frivolous, and Ling Xiaosu was dissatisfied with her sharp words. The first cooperation ended in unhappiness, and both of them regretted in their hearts.
However, the god of fate always seems to like to play this delicate game. It was this unhappy cooperation that turned out to be an opportunity for them to fall in love in the future. Due to the teacher's arrangement, they had to play the role of a couple in frequent performances, and in the process of bumping and bumping, Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu's emotions gradually warmed up, igniting a spark of love.
In this way, it was not until the second semester of his sophomore year that Yao Chen finally mustered up the courage to take the initiative to call Ling Xiaosu and bravely expressed his intentions. As the saying goes, "Lang is affectionate, and the concubine is intentional", the two fell into the whirlpool of love.
Since then, they have spent some of the best and most innocent sweet moments of their lives together. The love in the student days is the most simple and unpretentious, without any power calculations, just the companionship and understanding of each other can be satisfied.
However, just as no rose flower is without thorns, Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu also experienced all kinds of trials and tribulations in life later.
Fourth, back to after marriage: Yao Chen cheated on Ling Xiaosu and chose to forgive and break down
Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu's love time will eventually come to an end, and what awaits them will be a severe challenge in their married life. The first thing that two people who enter the marriage hall is the huge difference in family background.
Ling Xiaosu was born in an acting family, with the support of family resources, and her career development is smooth sailing. Yao Chen, on the other hand, comes from an ordinary family, and his road to study in Beipiao is full of ups and downs, and his career prospects are always bleak.
The remarkable difference in family background between Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu is likely to be the starting point of his endless unwillingness and struggle in his heart. Soon after marriage, Ling's mother, with deep kindness, tried her best to match Yao Chen in the fiercely competitive film and television industry, hoping to help her acting career get on the right track.
However, it was in this process that an inconspicuous small wave ignited the first fuse in the initial stage of their marriage.
It was during the filming of the high-profile TV series "Divine Whip", but Yao Chen was captured by the paparazzi behaving intimately with a certain actor, which immediately sparked rumors about his extramarital affair.
In the face of his wife's betrayal, Ling Xiaosu showed great tolerance and understanding, and he resolutely decided to receive a marriage certificate immediately after the two graduated from college, and at the same time allowed Yao Chen to continue to be busy outside and pursue his acting dreams.
And Yao Chen also confessed her mistakes to her husband with tears in her eyes, and solemnly promised never to make the same mistake again. However, who would have expected that this would become a prelude to her anomie.
After marriage, Ling Xiaosu treated Yao Chen with great care, and every detail of her life took care of her and her family, however, while he was giving wholeheartedly, Yao Chen, who was fully supported by his in-laws, became famous in one fell swoop for starring in the popular TV series "Wulin Gaiden", and his acting career finally ushered in spring.
However, at the peak of his life, Yao Chen fell into the whirlpool of extramarital love again. This time, the object was Zhou Xiaogang, and Yao Chen took the initiative to come to the door after the finale.
When Ling Xiaosu learned of this, he was furious, and his heart was full of pain, however, out of cherishing his family, he finally chose to forgive his wife again.
It wasn't until the filming of the TV series "Latent" that Yao Chen betrayed his marriage for the third time, which made Ling Xiaosu completely lose trust in her. After many mistakes and forgiveness, this once sweet marriage finally came to an irreparable end.
Ling Xiaosu could no longer tolerate his wife's cheating behavior, and the relationship between the two broke down, and the marriage existed in name only.
5. Family background and personality analysis
The root cause of Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu's relationship breakdown may be traced back to their completely different family backgrounds and personality traits. Yao Chen was born in an ordinary family, his father was a train driver, and his mother was a staff member of the postal department, both of which were ordinary professions.
In such a growth environment, Yao Chen's tenacious and never-say-die personality has been shaped.
At the age of 14, she left her hometown for Beijing alone in order to realize her passionate dream. However, looking at the other side, Ling Xiaosu's life trajectory is completely different.
He was born in a family of performing arts, and his family background is profound, which gives him unique opportunities and abundant resources.
The moment they stepped into the Beijing Film Academy, Yao Chen's energetic and outspoken personality made Ling Xiaosu feel uncomfortable in the early stages. And Ling Xiaosu's humble and polite attitude towards others also made Yao Chen feel a little rigid in the rules.
These two very different personalities undoubtedly indicate that in the days to come, there will be many fierce sparks between them.
After stepping into society, their respective family backgrounds and personality traits further determine the huge differences in their career paths. Because of his poor family, Yao Chen has an extreme desire for success; Ling Xiaosu, on the other hand, regards the business as the inheritance of the family tradition.
Yao Chen is bold and direct, while Ling Xiaosu is better at dealing with interpersonal relationships in a mellow manner.
After marriage, their lives drifted apart, perhaps because of this huge gap in personality and family background. Yao Chen's inner tenacity made her unable to tolerate her backwardness in her career, and Ling Xiaosu's magnanimity allowed the cheating to be staged repeatedly.
A person's understanding and tolerance does not mean that the other party will cherish this emotion, on the contrary, the more forgiven, the easier it is to abuse this tolerance, which is the root cause of the breakdown of their marriage.